Has hell frozen over? (update at bottom)

Ginlyn0

After all the war earlier in the week, BM put a money order in the bag with SS11's meds for one month of insurance reimbursement. Although, I'm trying to figure out what sort of trickery she's trying to pull because the note says "Dec Ins Reimbursement." Um, you haven't paid for Oct or Nov or hell does she just mean Dec 2012 the first full month the kids were without insurance through her. Hrmmmm...

ambrvan

I would ask. Honestly. Or I would just take it and record the amount and subtract out from the total. I would keep a separate ledger just for this.

Ilumine

Honestly, she is trying to play you.  She thinks that if you cash that, you are agreeing that she has paid for the other months. 

I would send her an email, with a CC to your Lawyer (hers if she has one on record) that while appreciative of her stepping up to her financial obligations, you are confused by the dates of December, given you have not received reimbursement for October or November and you have not yet sent your Child Support for December.   

Therefore even though it states the money is for December, you will apply it to October's debt and that November's overpayment of Child Support still needs to be addressed.  

I would then continue on that since there still seems to be confusion over this mess, DH is going to ensure he files the appropriate paperwork with the courts so this does not continue into December.  

And then tell your DH that he needs to get off his hiney and do something about this legally. 

twister22

Ilumine said:

Honestly, she is trying to play you.  She thinks that if you cash that, you are agreeing that she has paid for the other months. 

I would send her an email, with a CC to your Lawyer (hers if she has one on record) that while appreciative of her stepping up to her financial obligations, you are confused by the dates of December, given you have not received reimbursement for October or November and you have not yet sent your Child Support for December.   

Therefore even though it states the money is for December, you will apply it to October's debt and that November's overpayment of Child Support still needs to be addressed.  

I would then continue on that since there still seems to be confusion over this mess, DH is going to ensure he files the appropriate paperwork with the courts so this does not continue into December.  

And then tell your DH that he needs to get off his hiney and do something about this legally. 

All of this. Absolutely all of this.

Ginlyn0

Update:
DH texted her to clarify the "Dec" note that same evening after I posted from my phone and she stated that she was going back to the beginning to work her way forward. Through a string of texts (which we are saving) she noted that she would be making payments every 2 weeks to pay us back (which at that rate would take about 11 months since she's still accruing that debt each month until things get changed in court). I made an excel spreadsheet to document the info from the money order and what dates the payment would apply to as well as any "notes" she adds to them. DH will be making a copy of each money order to keep for our records as well.

I had forgotten to check the mail until after I posted Friday night. We got a package from the AG office and they sent us the wrong stuff! They sent us a record of payments which by the way we are $807 overpaid right now (not including this insurance stuff) just because of how withholdings were done at his new job versus how I made payments when DH was unemployed this last time. And they sent us a copy of someone's withholding order. So DH will have to call again on Monday to get the right paperwork. But what that means is that BM most likely received her letter on Friday. The letter questioning her dropping the kids from insurance and mentioning fines, ect. The money order was purchased on Friday.

Trust me, we are going to be proceeding with this very carefully and I am thinking we will just get the order changed to have us cover them so we don't have to worry about her dropping them again. Last time they went to court in Sept 2012, they couldn't have us cover them because DH doesn't have insurance through his work and it wasn't open enrollment for me and she had a private policy on them and the court couldn't "order" me to cover them for DH. This time, they are on my policy already so I think that would be the easiest. Plus then we would get our $171 back plus credit for the coverage in the CS calculations.

And to top it all off I found this out last night. SD's new athletic coach goes to church with us (we are pretty close because her son is same age as DS and I teach him in Sunday school once a month). She told me last night at our Fall party for Church that she had asked SD what she was going to be for Halloween last week and SD's reply was that she wasn't sure because there was some disagreement among DH and BM as to who was going to pay for the costumes. So BM has yet again been running her mouth to the kids about things she shouldn't. DH will be talking to her about that again as well, but not sure it will do much. I don't know what if anything we should say to SD. I don't want her thinking whatever BM has told her but I don't think she should be involved in money talk at all.