I read the post about 1 page back about dealing with preschool bullies, and what exactly constitutes bullying. Lots of good thoughts.
The situation I am facing is a little different. My gentle, well-socialized, loving little boy has recently been displaying some more aggressive and even bullying behaviors. For example, yesterday on the playground, he seemed to be picking on a girl by trying to keep her off the playground equipment ("no, you can't come up here") and even chased her off the playground. I was sitting on a bench talking with another mom so I didn't see this happen (oops), but the girl's mom came over and relayed what had happened.
I don't think my son was being malicious (he is into superhero fantasy play now and that was probably what he was thinking)...and I think the girl (who was roughly the same size as my son) needs to learn some backbone. HOWEVER, of course I don't want my son to think that this kind of intimidation behavior is acceptable, or that it's ok to pick on girls because (some of them) may be easier to intimidate.
We had a long talk about it, and if I am getting the right info, it seems that he has observed a 5 yo boy at preschool trying to intimidate girls in the same way. DS likes this kid, who is a year older, and enjoys playing with him on the playground. I think DS might have even been lonely on the playground (w/o anyone to play with) before hooking up with this trouble-maker, which kind of explains why he's under this "bad" kid's spell.
I plan to talk to the teachers to ask what they have noticed and if they are doing anything to intervene, but I am also looking for some tips on how to nip this kind of behavior in the bud and redirect my son to having more positive social interactions. Right now it concerns me because he seems to think acting this way is fun, or a way to show he is "tough." Input appreciated! Thanks.
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