To have a Spinkle or not

Shan1623

Having a Girl, first was a Boy, people say now i should have a Sprinkle, do I or is that tacky?

EastCoastBride

I've never understood why having a different sex means you get a shower/ sprinkle.  The stuff you have for baby #1 can be used for baby #2.  And if all you have is blue... so what?  Girls can wear blue. 

Helenahhandbasket

"People" are just being nice, I think.  People say dumb things sometimes when they don't know what else to say.

If you want to celebrate your new baby's birth (instead of having a shower, which celebrates you becoming a mother), have a meet the baby party after your baby is born. 

You are already a mother.

Shan1623

Meet the Baby is a cute idea!

Shan1623

From what it seems im being asked if im having one not if i want one so i guess id have to pay and organize, not in to it

Shan1623

Thank you thats what i thought

EastCoastBride

When people ask if you're having one, all you say is "No.  Not that I know of!" and smile.  Period.  Their asking doesn't mean you now HAVE to have one.  Especially if that  means you're throwing it yourself.

shaunessa

Not for me.  But if someone wants to take you out for lunch or dinner with the girls to celebrate that'd be fun.  Its celebrating your new baby without all the fuss.

MMason12

Tacky!  Whether the sex is different for the second it is not your family and friends responsibility to buy you baby things.  I'm glad you realize that!!! 

Shobb414

Shan1623 said:

Meet the Baby is a cute idea!

Yes do a meet the baby.... People can bring you gifts if they want to

RebeccaY1

In my family we celebrate every baby with a shower or a sprinkle.  The first baby gets a full shower, the next baby or babies get a small sprinkle with clothing, toys, diapers, and books (smaller items).  In addition, we have a baptism reception or a welcome the baby party, in which everyone meets the baby and the grandparents give cash gifts and/or religious items like a cross.

I don't think it's tacky at all because it's what my family does.  I guess it depends upon your family traditions.  It is tacky to throw your own party.

neverblushed

Just say no.

When I was pg with a boy the 2nd time around, I had a friend who was also pregnant.  She was floored that I wasn't going to allow her to help plan a second shower.  I told her I already had a TON of baby stuff, and that I would feel extremely awkward asking for more stuff.  "But this one's a boy," she said.  I replied that I had lots of neutral clothes, and that I could buy what I needed myself.

My college girlfriends, on the other hand, surprised me by each bringing a baby boy outfit to our next regularly-scheduled get-together.  One friend actually skipped buying something new and just bagged up a load of hand-me-downs from her son.  It was great! She got rid of a bag of stuff from her attic, and I wound up not having to buy anything for DS!

My point is that if you have a "sprinkle" people will feel obligated and awkward.  If you refuse the sprinkle, people who want to get you a present and celebrate the birth of your second child will still find a way to do it on their own terms.