WWIII over CS/money is about to go down

Ginlyn0

Okay, I'm sure you all know by now the story of BM being CO'ed to carry the kids on insurance and how we are CO'ed to pay her around an additional $170 in CS for "medical support" to cover that insurance cost. This is all since DH had lost his job at the school district and had no coverage. BM dropped them from her policy last November, last March we found this out and I was able to add them to my insurance as of April 1st. Meanwhile, we are paying for their coverage on my policy and giving her that extra $170  because it's withheld from DH's check. CS office told DH to ask BM for the money back until everything else was settled. DH keeps giving BM the benefit of the doubt and not filing for the change(his bad!) At first, she pled poor and said she would pay us in a few months, ect. ect.

Last month, DH told her he was tired of her empty promises and that he didn't feel like going to court over this so since she was court ordered to carry their insurance and we are already giving her insurance money that come Jan 1st, that we would be dropping them from our coverage. He told her she could go apply for Obamacare and then she said that she has insurance through her company at her new job but  it's expensive to add the kids to that. He told her what do you think Gin is having to pay? More than the $170 we are paying you. He basically told her she needed to figure out if it was better for her to add them to her coverage, buy separate coverage for them or give us back the $170 and let us keep them on our insurance.

So currently they are in a text war over Halloween costumes because DH told her she needs to buy their costumes since we've been paying her extra and covering the kids to cover her crappy move of dropping insurance.

Basically, I think I'm just going to have to either drop the kids or force DH to file the paperwork to get either of them to do anything other than threaten each other.

twister22

The paperwork has to be filed. DH needs to cut the crap and file. You're giving BM $2,040 per year for no reason, not to mention CS should likely be lowered since you're paying a crap ton extra for the SK's insurance. (Although, in the crappy county I live in I don't get credit for insurance in regards to CS since DH carries it. WTF.)

KTdidit

Get on your DH's butt to file the paperwork. Obviously BM is never going to give in and pay you back until she is forced to. Keep the kids on your insurance and try to get it figured in in your favor when you get CS lowered. I don't know anything about Obamacare since we have insurance through my employer, but from what I hear its more expensive and who knows how good the coverage will be.

Sigir

why is he so resistant to filing?  I would think it would be worth the hassle to just get it settled and avoid things like the halloween costume wars, which I can totally relate to btw!

Ginlyn0

Ok, so after more texts back and forth with BM threatening DH in various ways. She still thinks she's in the right meaning she thinks it's perfectly fine for her to be collecting money for insurance and not supplying it and us paying extra for them to actually be covered. So she was making empty threats. DH told her to call the Attorney General herself, because they would just tell her she's CO'ed to carry the kids and she's the one not holding up her part of the CO. Finally, I told DH just call the AG again and get the process to going back to court started.

He called, spoked to a different guy this time (last few times he has gotten the same person). This is straight from DH: "He put me on hold and came back and said that they will be sending her a letter demanding an explanation as to why she is not providing insurance and that she could face penalties under law. They are sending me the change form that I have to fill out. I asked him about our previous modification in Sept.2012 and if that being recent would impact this. He said that due to the nature of the issue modification is in the best interest of the children.

As to why DH doesn't want to go back to court, he just doesn't like going to court period.

Lavender P

@gin9874, how does BM even rationalize that to DH? That is ridiculous. It says it in the CO. She isn't doing what she is supposed to but still wants to get paid for it?!?!

Ginlyn0

It's not rational. At one point during the email rant, she said she was going to give him $100 for this months insurance to reimburse him and he could use that to buy the costumes. He told her that he wasn't going to accept less than the full amount of insurance reimbursement. She just doesn't get it. It's not really about the costumes. It's about her lack of providing insurance and our double paying for insurance to cover us from catastrophic charges especially when oldest SS has recurrent kidney stones and surgeries. It's like she was just trying to give him something to shut him up but then was threatening him with the AG, which was really confusing to us because we are doing what the CO says. Maybe she thinks she can get more money from him but nothing has changed other than we are double paying for insurance and she is no longer providing insurance.

sprky79

Hold up.  Your husband would rather take his kids' health insurance away and hope that this dingbat gets them coverage through the ACA rather than go to court and say, "Hey, I've had to carry the insurance here since dingbat won't?"

He's not looking so great in this either.

Ginlyn0

No one said DH was innocent in this. I certainly didn't. BTW he can't take away their insurance, that would be up to me since their on my policy... that was just his attempt to get BM to act which is why he gave her 3 months notice that she needs to get insurance for them. Like I said in my last post, he already contacted the appropriate people today and they are going to be dealing with her and setting court in motion. We would never just drop their coverage, which is why I added them immediately under special enrollment circumstances once I found out she had dropped them from their private policy and not told us.

Nineoceans

So frustrating I hope Bm listens to the threats and it can be handled without court