Big brother was diagnosed at 2.5 years old. As the months ticked by after he turned 2, I became more and more convinced, so it was not a surprise. Little brother is 18 months younger. I know the increased risks, so I'm pretty scared in general about DS2 also having issues. The 2 boys are really different. Knowing what I know now, there were signs of DS1 being autistic as young as 1 year old. DS1 has pointed or waved only a handful of times his whole life, so I desperately wanted DS2 to point and wave. That seemed like a big milestone for early on, so I really wanted it. He finally started waving at around 13 months but was not yet pointing. The red flag is no pointing or waving at 12-13 months. He finally started pointing right around 14 months. I just need some hope, that there are other NT children who waved and pointed a little later, and are just fine. Are there???? As compared to DS1, DS2 is much more interactive (looks at us more, hands us things, etc.), has varied interests, doesn't get hung up on things (obsessed), plays with a large variety of toys, knows how to play with them, has better fine motor skills, plays more with the toy as a whole, pretends to talk on the toy phone sometimes, rolls car around, signs "more", pretends to brush his hair and wipe his nose. He started pushing his arms through shirt sleeves and stepping out of pants a couple months ago, at least. DS1 didn't start that until much later. He does not have very many words, but I think he tries to say things all the time and it is just very unclear. He has said "all gone", "outside", and "hi." No mama or dada yet. I guess one concern I have is that he is not cuddly. He never has been. While that is not a red flag listed on my son's clinic's web site, I have read it as a flag elsewhere. Now there are some times when DS2 wants to be held. He just never seemed to like it as a way to get to sleep. He doesn't like to be held close. Sometimes he wants to sit on my lap. I really haven't noticed any tactile/sensory issues with him, though. And DS1 is EXTREMELY cuddly! The other thing that worries me is his eating. We have horrendous problems with DS1 diet, and DS2 has just gotten pickier and pickier. Started off great at 9 months (when we started many table foods) and around 11 months dropped a lot of foods and here recently, just dropped his 2 mainstays (broccoli first, then scrambled eggs). I am even scared of what the replies to this thread will be like so I procrastinated on writing this. Please be gentle. For the most part these 2 boys are opposites. But even if DS2 seems OK now I'm terrified of regression. I don't know how I will deal with both having major developmental problems. This is me looking for hope, not looking for excuses "oh maybe he isn't." Because I won't be in denial if I really think something is wrong. I think I've painted an accurate picture of a fairly normal child. But sometimes I also feel like I'm losing my mind and he's doomed to having ASD. I admit to being paranoid.