motn feeding...husband will not listen!

heaven22tw

My daughter is 13 months old and her twin sisters are five weeks. At night they cry and as expected wakes her up. Previous to them coming home my 1 yr old still got two bottles at night bc my husband would feed her when she cried instead of soothing her. We have talked about how we need to stop w feedings at night bc it is effecting her during the day with food (she is vetoing an OT eval its so bad with solids) and its bad for her gums and teeth when they come in. He says yeah and agrees. Except now hes feeding her whenever she wakes up from the babies sometimes up to 14 ounces a night!!!!! She only has 18 by bottle during the day with her solids. I'm so fed up!!!!!!!!! This isn't the only feeding issue I have had with him. To this day she,will be screaming bc she doesn't want her food and he will try and try and try to force her to

heaven22tw

Eat. I mean she is screaming and i have explained since he started this to stop she will develop feeding issues and sure enough she did!!!!!! I'm so fed up. The reality is I am not letting him near the twins for feedings bc its so bad....anyone else?!? Any ideas!?! Maybe info/ articles to share. Tia!

preggersin2011

LalaMama81 said:

I'm not saying things don't need to change, but I don't know that the night feelings are the cause of the other food issues. I'd think it was the other way around. Both of my kids were night weaned at 15-16 months and had zero other good issues. I don't think it's a "my husband is a dope, he can't be trusted issue," so much as the 2 of you need to sit down, read a book or 2, come up with a plan and implement it.

I tend to agree- "will not listen" implies your are 100% right and the two of your are not parenting together but rather you are dictating what you feel is correct. IMO there is a huge difference between not sleeping through the night and a child training their parents to comfort them every time they wake. It sounds like you have several different issues going on that you two need to work through together.

g8trkim

I feel you. DD was a terrible sleeper. She finally started STTN last month but every few nights she would wake up and DS would feed her. It totally threw her off for the day. Have you tried letting her cry a bit? I convinced DH not to jump up right away and go get her. We noticed that she just needs to whine a few minutes and then she soothes herself back to sleep. Now she's great! She STTN from 7:30-6:30 which is amazing after getting up with her all night for 10 months. Can you convince your DH to give her a few minutes and see what happens? She may learn to soothe herself and problem solved!

PetuniaFeatherbottom

Make an appointment with your pedi and bring your dh. Make sure to get into the details of your concern without blaming. Maybe hearing advice and recommendations from a pro will help?