One (of many) things I will take from this (first child mentioned)

anna147

I will never probe someone on when they will have kids, or have their NEXT kid. My MIL is making comments on how it's time for me to have the next one (if I got pregnant in the next month babies would be exactly 2 yrs apart) so I guess now is the time people start pressing the " next baby issue" except, guess what, I can't get pregnant right now because I have been miscarrying for the past 3 weeks. And it's probably gonna be a bit of a wait while my body recovers so don't hold your breath. I will never, ever again tease someone about when they are finally going to have a baby. I was doing really well with dealing but that sort of threw me into a whole other thing. MIL strikes again!

megrae12

I am so sorry you are dealing with that! I have avoided all family due to that very thing. We have been asked several times when we are going to have babies and it takes everything I have not to cry or hit them, whichever impulse strikes me first. My DH has been amazing in dealing with all of that b/c really, why is it anyone's business?? I hope things get better for you soon. ((Hugs))

RayRay007

I usually refrained from asking people about their baby plans before this loss, but I will definitely be even more sensitive to it now. There is a girl at work on mat leave now with her second and our firsts are the same age. I can just imagine her coming back to work and saying something like "I thought you'd be pregnant by now!" totally naively and I don't know if I'll let it slide or say something. Sorry you're dealing with that from your MIL already. You don't need that any time, but this soon after is particularly difficult.