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Anyone else scared/nervous?

Sometimes I feel afraid that I may never meet my little baby. I know it's not good to stress about such things, but sometimes I think, "what would I do if I lost my baby?" It's really scary to think about, and it genuinely worries me. I couldn't imagine going through labor only to see a stillborn baby. Does anyone else feel this way at times? Sorry this is such a depressing discussion.

Re: Anyone else scared/nervous?

  • It's not as scary as SIDS. I still check on my 20 month old at least 5 times every night. You will never stop being worried. I'm 36 weeks pregnant now and back to worried about SIDS.
  • Think, it is ok to be little nervous. Especially if this is your first one. Think it really all part of parenting, you go through different stages over things to worry about, as the kid gets older. I'm a mom of two girls and we found out we are having a boy. So my worries are how am I going to handle a little boy.
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  • I had recently read the book 'Heaven is For Real' which brought up a situation where a mother had a miscarriage and it really broke their hearts. But her son who went to Heaven, tells of the conversation he has with his baby sister that he never knew. I read this before I was pregnant and, personally, it relieved me of any fear of the sort. Wouldn't hurt to check it out :) Stress can be detrimental to the baby so try to find peace the best you can. Good Luck & Bless you
  • As my dad said to me when I was pregnant with my first and talking about all my concerns, "Welcome to Parenthood".  He was absolutely right, you don't know what worry is until you become a parent.  It's totally normal, wish I could tell you it ends when you have a healthy baby in your arms but it doesn't.  
  • 111emd111emd member
    edited December 2013
    The entire first week I found out I was pregnant I was an absolute wreck. What made matter worst is that my husband has no idea where the anxiety is coming from. He was more judgmental than understanding, reminding me constantly how bad worrying was for our baby, instead of trying to reassure me. We've known for almost 3 weeks now and what I am starting to understand is that no amount of worrying will prevent what is in God's plan. Worrying makes 100% of things worst. I cannot remember a time where everything turned out right and I said- "Oh that's probably due to all that worrying I did!"  Believe me, I know how incredibly hard it is to shut down anxiety, but you really have to try. Rest when you can, do things that make you feel calm and relaxed. The best piece of advice I got was from a member here who said that if pregnancies were that fragile the world wouldn't be so damn overpopulated! 

    Me: 28 yrs old, diagnosed anovulation   Dh: Perfectly Healthy
    Married in 2008, together 7 years
    TTC since 8/2011
    4/2012 tried 1st round of Clomid @ 50mgs, BFN
    11/2012 tried 2nd round of Clomid @ 50mgs
    BFP on 12/16!!

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  • I needed this! I found out I was pregnant for sure yesterday and I'm a mess. My husband and I are newly married, but we started trying right away because we both wanted a baby so badly. We were so excited to find out we were pregnant, but my excitement was quickly overshadowed by worry. What if I have an ectopic pregnancy (I have some slight abdominal cramping/discomfort right now that I'm freaking out over). What if I miscarry? What if our baby doesn't develop properly? I am trying so hard to just let go, as I know God has an ultimate plan but I am really struggling. I'm praying for constant peace and the ability to trust.
  • Turns out all that worrying was for nothing! Here I am two days away from my due date, and everything is fine of course. Thank you everyone for sharing your words of wisdom with me! Good luck to all my fellow mothers/mothers to be out there!

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