DH job/moving update

SallySunrise

Disclaimer: I will probably DD this later.

So basically our life is a freak show right now. My husband's DREAM job within the company he has been with for six years, that we've agreed to move to MN for and he's been giddily performing for only three weeks now, has been completely "restructured." The president quit, there's a new one in place, and all kinds of things are changing including many job descriptions. He still HAS the job, but they've changed it so drastically that he HATES it now. Not only is it not his dream job, it's about as opposite as there could possibly be for him. If it had been listed as it is now, he would never even have applied! Much less move our family across the country for it! We just cannot stomach the idea of uprooting our lives for a job that he doesn't even want. SOOOOO, new plan. Since his current boss in MN has said we can stay here and he can work virtually until at least the spring, we are taking the house off the market and he's searching for something else here. If spring comes and he hasn't found anything, we'll rent out the house and we will still go to MN because we can't have him not have a job at all. This is just craziness, y'all. We were SO sure that this was the best decision for our family, but there have been a ridiculous amount of road blocks, and now this! I'm not a big believer in signs, but MH is, and he now thinks all of these things are happening because we aren't supposed to be leaving here and God's trying to stop us from making a big mistake. Who knows. Either way, whatever is "right", that's what we want to do for our kids. So if you have any t&ps to spare for my crazy life right now, that would be awesome! Thanks so much ladies.

Oh, and for those of you I'm fb friends with, PLEASE don't mention this on there. If his current company finds out he's searching outside, we could end up without a job in either state. That's also why I'll probably DD this later. Ya know, because I'm sure all of his coworkers troll TB.

SallySunrise

andreab7412 said:

Oh no!! Can't he back out and keep his current position since they changed it so much?! That doesn't seem fair.

I agree it is entirely unfair, but no, he cannot. He started the MN job Oct 1, he's just been doing it virtually from here. They have already filled his KS position. If he said that he didn't want this position anymore they would say ok, there's the door.

SallySunrise

PaddyB said:

I am sooo soo sorry that happened to you guys!  I was very excited to have you move up here- but totally understand why you would not want to anymore.

Is there anyway your H can work to get his responsibilities to line up better with what they were when he accepted the job?  Maybe work slowly until spring on morphing the job back to what he thought it was going to be?

Regardless, good luck to your H!

No, he doesn't really have any say in what the job is. It's a "here are your responsibilities" type thing. If he started doing other projects they would just say uhh, stop doing someone else's job, that wasn't on your list of
things to do.

I was VERY excited to meet all of you MN ladies too! Who knows, maybe I still will.

aylafsu88

That sucks!  I am so sorry they did this to him.  I hope that the job situation works out in the end.  I am sending lots of T&P your way.

pinkangelmoon

 Ugh that really sucks, I'm so sorry.  T&P's that everything works out!!

SallySunrise

Thanks ladies. I do believe it will all work out in the end, it's just so stressful in the meantime! It's nice to have a place to vent and be encouraged. As always, you girls are the best!

lkamenko

Sending you T&P. Hope you DH finds a new position he loves and everything works out.

nesenotes

That sucks. When one door closes another one opens. Hope the dust settles for you guys soon. But it seems like you guys have a good plan in place.

adorebella

Ughhhh! If I were in your shoes I would want to raaage! I hope he finds a new job and you don't have to deal with moving for a crap position.

mrs.sewell

T&P! Moving is always messy. Not knowing if you're gonna move can extra stressful. And having an unhappy hubby really sucks! Hang in there! It will all work out for the best.

SallySunrise

Thanks friends. I do feel a sense of relief now, so maybe that's another one of those sign thingies. Maybe I wasn't as on board with the moving plan as I was trying to convince myself I was. I feel awful that this happened to by amazing, hard working, deserving H, but maybe something even better is waiting for him. Here's hoping!

Kdoy705

Booo!! Sorry to hear that. I've been through a few reorgs where my job and boss changed, and it was always tough to get used to. I remember crying a few times at the office. Here's to hoping that it gets better or another dream job comes along soon!

Pleione

That's an awful thing to have happen. Sorry you're going though all this. But I think your plan is a good one and exactly what I would do in your circumstances - i.e. if you have to move, rent the house rather than sell until things become more certain. Eseentially, you want to keep as many options open as possible at the same time, and it sounds like you are doing that.

lada85

Wow, not a good situation. I hope your H finds something. I'll be thinking of you guys.

ashleynaka

Oh no! I am so sorry to hear this news. Like your H, I am a huge believer in signs. I do believe everything usually happens for a reason and hope your H is able to find something else soon. Thank goodness they are allowing him to work from home! Hugs to you!