TTC Check In

ball.and.chain

This is the weekly check in for those who are trying to conceive or in the planning stages.  Newbies welcome!

How are things going this week?

QOTW: If you could pay someone to do something that you currently do yourself, what would it be?

StacyLH24

Good morning everyone!

I am 2dpiui. The u/s before the IUI showed that the follicle was misshaped, indicating that I had probably ovulated shortly before the IUI. Hopefully all the timing was perfect. My last IUI was horrendous. This one was much easier. Now we wait....

On the upside, C and I have developed a plan A, B and C for our next steps if this one doesn't work. I always feel better when there is a plan.

QOTW: I would 100% pay someone to clean our house regularly and do laundry.

leigh2313

Hello everyone,

Happy Monday to all! I am 13dpiui. AF is scheduled to make an appearance today, but has not done so yet. Praying she doesn’t show at all! Fingers crossed. We have a drs appt scheduled tomorrow and hoping I get a BFP from them. When we started this process, we decided that we wouldn’t test using a hpt instead wait for the dr to tell us or wait for AF to show. Hoping and praying for the best.

QOTW: I would pay someone to wash, fold, and put up the laundry. I absolutely hate putting up laundry. lol

StacyLH24

@KLeigh1 - Sorry to see about your BFN.  After our last BFN, I made up my mind that each cycle, we will talk about what is next, acting like this one is already a BFN and making a plan to move forward.  It is giving me something to focus on during this TWW.  So, if I end up with a BFP this time, total bonus!  If not, then we will move forward with one of our three plans.  We will keep moving forward until we get our take home baby. 

healz413

I'm currently at the RE's clinic waiting in my gown and with an IV in for my hysteroscopy. I was sick last night with what I can only assume was food poisoning. I still don't feel great today. I'm hoping this doesn't all turn into a disaster. I don't want to make a big deal of it because I don't want my procedure cancelled but I also don't want to withhold important information. So when my nurse said my temperature was a bit high I did tell her that I threw up last night.

On the TTC front our big news is that we are hoping to do our fresh embryo transfer (from my eggs--assuming the IVF process works out and my eggs produce embryos) into Manada instead of me. I'm really excited about this possibility.

We have considered it in the past but ruled it out for two reasons-- 1) M feels like after 7 IUIs she's had a chance to get pregnant and I haven't and 2) we didn't think we could afford for M to take a long enough maternity leave at this point.

But in light of some successes with our savings and my own soul-searching, we have decided that this is they way we want to make our family (well at least the first addition to it).

M will have a sono in a couple of weeks and if all is clear in her uterus she will begin birth control and estrace so that her cycle can be synced with my stimming cycle, which we are planning to start in late November.

QOTW: I would have someone take our dog on great outdoor, off leash, adventures at least four days a week.

ball.and.chain

I started PIO on Saturday and I am pleased to report that it went pretty smoothly! We had a rough time with it during my last FET cycle (though it wasn't too bad during my fresh cycle) so I was a little worried about how it would go this time. I am optimistic though after having two shots go fine this weekend, with very little soreness the next day. We had a dinner party on Saturday night and had to go upstairs in the middle to do the shot because it was too early before people came over and I was afraid if we waited until the end of the night, my wife would have had too much to drink for me to trust her with a needle! I also started Endometrin yesterday. It's as gross as ever but no biggie, I guess.

This transfer is actually going to happen! Now if I can just manage to sustain a healthy pregnancy, we could be in business.

QOTW: I think I'd go with landscapers. I hate cleaning the house but I always feel like I'm behind on the yard work -- we can only do it on weekends and if the weather is bad or we have another commitment, there goes another week. I like planting/growing veggies but I really don't get that excited about the rest of the plants -- I want them to look a certain way but I don't want to put any effort into it. And I hate mowing our yard because it's uneven and the back yard is sloped.

Amber&Reva

Started OPK today and if my cycle continues to be pretty regular I should be doing my second IUI on Thursday or Friday.  I am excited to try again!  Time has been flying by because we adopted two kittens who have been keeping us busy between caring for them and protecting them from our two dogs.  Good Luck to those still in the TWW hoping you all get BFP!

 

QOTW: Like most others I would hire someone to clean my house.  It feels like as soon as it is clean a new mess pops up.

GoaliesWife123

Hey all. Sorry for the sad news and yay for the good news. I miss you all and can't believe how hard it has been to get on the boards lately. 

As for me, well, I'm CD 25 and still no O yet. I have seen a few positive opks, but have had no temp spike as of yet. I had some pain yesterday, so I am hoping I O'd today or just soon. We did three ICI's last week, and it is looking like none of them will even be around the right time. It is possible one of them may be okay if I O today. We bit the bullet and did one more insemination today after seeing another positive OPK. I just did another opk and got another positive. It's all so confusing with PCOS. If this cycle doesn't take, we are going to pause our efforts for a little while so that I can get more aggressive acupuncture, and we will see an RE. 

This whole process is tough because we don't have many people we can share it with. My acupuncturist has been an amazing support and I don't know what we would do without her. My Mom is a supporter, but she is really sick and was just taking into the critical care unit of the hospital after being home for only 2 days after rehab from neck surgery. 

It has been a stressful few days. 

QOTW: I would hire someone to pay my bills with their money. 

trisholio

GoaliesWife123 I hope that you did ovulate and got the timing right.  I know how it feels to kind of do it all on your own and feel like you are taking a stab in the dark.  And I hope that your mom is doing better.  Lots of hugs!

ball.and.chain

KLeigh1 said:

I do have to say, it is disappointing and we keep trying to figure out why it isn't working. 

There may not be any reason -- I think there is only like a 20% chance per cycle that a woman will get pregnant, and that's with good timing, good sperm, etc.  If you try to figure out why every cycle isn't working, you will drive yourself crazy!  A lot of REs seem to say it generally takes about 3-6 tries, so you are well within the normal range right now.  Hopefully you will have success soon!

I do agree with you and Stacy that it is always comforting to have a plan in place.  My therapist used to tell me not to get too far ahead of myself, but thinking about our next steps always made me feel a little more in control.

trisholio

Is it just me or is everyone else shocked that October is over half over?  Where has this year and month gone?  Anyhoo!

I am on day 8 post ici.  We only did one insemination this month.  I am hoping that it was one good shot!  I hate being in the TWW!!  It seems like the 2nd week is so much more hard!  I made the mistake of getting on pinterest and looking up pregnancy and baby stuff.  Ugh, I am obsessed now.  Why do I torture myself?

QOTD:  I would totally pay someone to clean my house and cook my meals.  I love having a clean house, but it always seems like there is something else to do/clean.  Though if I had unlimited money I would pay someone to just hand me my perfect baby, meaning a child that is all mine without having to endure the TTC process, possible difficult pregnancy and delivery.

2MamazInSeattle

Hey all!
just read thru all the updates, thinking of you all.

nothing much happening except Friday is our WTF appt. for our failed FET and planning what will likely be our last try. We are doing a saline sono for fun, just to make sure nothing is going on in my ute that could be problematic. If I'm honest, I'd tell you I'm not terribly hopeful on this try at all...and sadly my gut feeling is often right. I guess we'll see...transfer is still set for 12/5.

qotw: well, I kinda already do the two I'd say...housecleaner (my former boss' gay husband who is really cheap and yard guy (who I negotiated to do both mine and my next door neighbors yard for his minimum price since both are so small). Money can buy a little happiness .

wishiwaspreggo

Sorry about your BFN, @KLeigh1 I was rooting for you.  They do say it takes 3-6 tries so hopefully the next one is it!!!  @StacyLH24 FX for you!  It looks like we're in the same 2WW.  I'm thinking of all y'all as you go through your TTC journeys.  It would indeed be nice to just be handed a perfect baby without all this expense and pain, @trisholio.

As for me... I had my second IUI yesterday this time around was really, really smooth.  Absolutely no pain at all.  Easier than a pap, actually.  My first time was ROUGH.  My first doctor had no idea what he was doing and it showed.  It's more expensive to go with my current RE but I've quickly learned that you get what you pay for.  Apparently you don't even feel it when you ovulate (which is when you should be getting your IUI anyway) and I didn't feel a thing.  Must have been good timing!  No cramps or anything this time around.  No symptoms of any sort.  I did feel feverish yesterday but I attribute that to my exhausting weekend (which was quite fun - but still) and now I KNOW not to blame anything like that on possibly being pregnant.  C and I are officially NOT riding the crazy-train this 2WW.

Now a gripe because I have an audience: my friend kind of ruined our trip.  She was fighting with her husband - the ENTIRE time.  From 10 pm until 4 am, she was literally screaming at him on the phone outside our hotel room.  DP, our other friend, and I were pissed off about that.  Also, I had to drive up on my own and thus had to drive all the way back in 48 hours (that's a long drive) and yet neither of our two friends offered to share any of the drive.  They napped the whole time instead.  Apparently they're too scared to drive through Chicago.  I asked them what they'd do if we couldn't drive and they said they'd either call their husbands or their dads.  GAH!!!!  Straight women!!!!  Of my age!!!!  They need to learn to NOT DEPEND ON MEN!!!!!  We are ADULTS, God damn it, and we need to ACT LIKE IT!!!  You do NOT need to call someone with a penis to swoop in and save the day!!  Having dangly reproductive parts does not suddenly make you a smarter, more competent adult than another person whose reproductive parts are safely tucked inside her abdomen.  WOMEN ARE CAPABLE OF DRIVING!!!!  Oh, I could've screamed.  There's nothing I hate more than the affected "helplesness" straight girls experience without a Big Strong Man to come and help them out.

Maybe it's just my friends because they're super small-town.  And they have that small-town mentality.  They all live like, 20 minutes from Chicago and yet they're all so scared of it.  We had our friends call us and ask us to drive them to Schaumberg so they could go shopping at Ikea.  They called us because their husbands weren't available to drive them.  Fuck that, seriously.  Get behind the wheel and drive yourselves.

UGH!  /rant

Sorry and thank you.

firstcomeslove2013

Hey all! We are back!!! It felt weird to be gone for so long but we are super ready to be back here with you all!

We are on CD2 and ready to get this party started again...we have taken 2 months off and we are ready to be back!

C emailed our midwife and we are getting our appointments in order for our next IUI which will have in about 2 weeks!

QOTD: I would pay someone to come into our house and pick up at the end of each day. Load the dishwasher, put away shoes, and pick up clothes off the floor.