My sister is hosting my shower. We decided it would be best to hold it at a restaurant. At first she threw around the idea of a co ed shower, but then when we started to put the list together and the numbers started climbing towards 80, I'm like no. We both come from large families, my husband is close with all his family cousins, 2nd cousins, etc., etc. I'm really just close with my immediate family and with his immediate family and that's all I invited family wise. Already from my side of family and friends it was close to 30. So anyways I told my husband that it would just be females and he's was okay with that..(he doesn't really enjoy them anyways when we go to other showers). Anyways, the invites have went out, addressed to the specific invitees. But the husbands are calling my husband and asking if they can come...MmMm!..NO!..I said to my husband, that if they wanted to be included he could have something here...Now im kind of feeling bad because I wanted to include all that I can , but now it seems like im excluding others that wanted to be included....oh well nothing I can do about it now. This is pretty much just a vent.
Re: Is coed the norm now?
Yeah. This is where I'm at. It's not normal in my circle/ area. I've been to one coed wedding and one coed baby shower. And that's it.
I really want to know who these men are who WANT to go to a shower and are the ones calling asking "can Icome?". LOL.
Don't feel bad. You're doing the traditional thing and there's nothing wrong with it. You don't have to now provide a "guys event". The men will survive for 3 hours w/o their wives....
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
I think that's your problem right there: that you invited women whom you have no bond with except through their husbands. That's probably why everyone's all confused. In general, only those one is close with are invited to showers. Oh well. What's done is done.
It's just not really a thing around here. My brothers, father, and husband did attend one shower. My work shower was coed. However, I've never attended a baby shower as a guest that was coed.
Baby GIRL due 12/26