ambrvan

twister22

What happened with DH and his car? I'm nosey .

ambrvan

We can say I've been working on our budget really hard tonight.

He is taking a second job, though, and not just because of the car. He said he has been really restless with his schedule of 24hrs on, 48hrs off. A nearby hospital is looking for a couple of EMTs to work as ER techs part time and that would work well. There are always part time slots open for EMTs in surrounding areas around here.

For the first time ever, before and after the purchase we had a serious, open, honest talk about money that did not end up in him walking away or accusing me of being too uptight or him throwing out sarcastic comments that get us no where. And I was actually honest about my fears and why this is so important to me (a lot of time I beat around the bush or just avoid saying it to avoid a fight or to keep myself from seeming accusatory).

So we ended up taking in his truck ( for a 2013 Malibu. It feels weird looking at it in the driveway. We have never had anything newer than a 2001 anything. So now we have a shiny new pretty sitting next to a dinged up 1999 that is need three car washes to get all the fine off of it.

We did get an awesome interest rate, though. <:-P

sweetwalks

Butting in, because I too was curious.

I'm glad you guys were able to have an open, honest conversation. I think a lot of couples struggle with that & is what leads to money stresses being one of the leading causes of divorce.

Also, glad you were able to get a good interest rate. Hopefully DH taking the second job will help with some of the budget strain

twister22

I am glad that you guys had a great, productive conversation. Finances and budgeting sucks . DH will need a new car before me, and we really need to start saving for it - like he's been saying for forever  8-|

ambrvan

I like budgeting. It makes me feel proactive.I don't like reining in someone who has opposing feelings about finances. But on something like this, it can't be me reining him in our us butting heads. It has to be teamwork, and I think we're off to the right start.

We both feel soooo much better about everything since we really opened up. And I can't believe how easy it was to just ask DH to sit down with me and be serious and discuss it. He understood how important it was to me and that made it important to him.

Our relationship as a whole has really done a 180. A large portion of it had been communication, but there have been other things. His attitude (and mine) are risky nut the same as they were the beginning of the year. We both have so much invested in or marriage now and have ready worked hard on us. And we are both very happy with how things are going.

I do still need to get used to the idea of the car. The budget works out. But seeing a large lump sum where there wasn't one before is unnerving, even though I see where the money came from. I don't like seeing a huge chunk go anywhere. But I can also see the positive investment here.