Update to my mother being an asshole

ASmallWonder

If anyone cares lol  I ignored her but she called my brother and demanded to know if I was upset.  He said I was because her email was hurtful and she got pissed and hung up on him and then blew up my house phone and cell phone until I answered.  Just like I predicted, she said I was too sensitive and that she was "done."  I accused her of not thinking Quinn is cute and she said "I do but your brother doesn't!"  (because he doesn't think newborns are cute, which I know and isn't currently even accurate.  She made herself look like more of an asshole with this comment)  

We went back and forth for a minute and then she pulled out a new doozy.  For context, my father doesn't doesn't give any fucks about anyone or anything.  He suffers from alcoholism and depression and we struggle as a family at his lack of involvement but it's not malicious and isn't because of something anyone has done - it's him and his issues.  She says to me "No wonder your father doesn't call you or want anything to do with you."  I told her to go fuck herself and hung up.  Then she emailed me and my brother about 6 times with different variations on how she's giving up and how we're horrible.  She then said "If there's a God, I hope he forgives you."  My brother and I legit LOL'd.  le sigh

angelashly

Wow.

I don't have much else to say. I think your kids are adorable. She sounds like she has some issues. Sorry you have to deal with that.

missyishere

I cannot believe a mother would even consider treating her children that way.  I'm so sorry.  You don't deserve any of that.  

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FrickandFrack

Holy shit. I'm so sorry. What a bitch.

Reagan1010

MotherOfPearl85 said:

Forward all of her emails to the Spam folder and block her calls. That's terrible.

This! I'm glad you have your brother for support. You guys have each other and your mom can fuck off! 

klondikebar

I don't understand how a mother can try to mess with her children's heads like that. My mom is the same way. I'm glad you have your brother on your side. The whole thing is terrible and I just want to hug you.

ASmallWonder

HilarityEnsued said:

What kind of crazy bitch gets mad at someone for be insulted when that crazy bitch was totally rude in the first place?

I said something mean to you and you insulted?!?!?!?!?!? WELL FUC YOU THEN.  

OMG 

That's my mother for you.  She manages to make everything about herself.  Anything she does wrong is because you're too sensitive or you took it wrong or you overreact, etc.  She only asks if you're mad so that she knows if she should be mad, not because she ever genuinely wants to make something right.  It's maddening.

wiggyslilsis

Wow. Glad you and your brother are together on this. If ever someone deserved to be called a bitch in any situation ever this is it.

RondackHiker

I'm sorry she's like that. I'm glad you've got your brother on your team.

missyishere

I WANT TO CUNT PUNT YOUR MOM!

Maebb

That's awful. Don't let her bring you down - you have a beautiful family, and if she and your father choose to "give up" on you, it's seriously their problem and their loss.

klondikebar

I put this in the wrong thread so c&p

It is so hard to flip that switch and not care what your own mom says. It gets easier over time, but there is always that little piece inside (for me at least) that still gets upset once in a while. Don't you just want to scream sometimes, "You're an asshole. I get it. Everyone knows it. You don't have to continue being an asshole to prove that point. You don't earn a badge for it.."

theimpossibleastronaut

I'm sorry. That is really terrible.

Also, just looked at your photos and they are so adorable! Your family is so cute!

LoveActually4

Wow. Just, wow.

I can't believe she made that comment about your father.

Sorry you have to deal with that. Your kids are freaking adorable and I love your hair!!

WasNotWas

Ali I am so impressed at what a cool person and an awesome mom you are with the poor example you had growing up. You have an incredible strength of character to rise above her negativity to become the beautiful, kind, empathetic lady that you are!

MrsCodeMonkey

Wow! That's terrible. Too bad she didn't have a wake-up call before she opened her mouth. She's the one who stands to lose so much by being an asshole. I can't imagine.

aforst

Wow. She never fails to impress me with her massive level of shitiness.

My FIL was a huge achoholic piece of shit when my DH was growing up. I always tell him that his father provided him the perfect example of how NOT to be a husband and father.

You are an amazing mom despite the one you have.

And I'll say it again, your kids are adorable and I love your fucking hair, so fuck her.

littlemermaid

And why do you continue to have a relationship with her? 

littlestjerry

Ugh, wtf? At least you can laugh at her shit. I'm sorry!

NotSharknado

Yikes. You don't need that shit. What a toxic person.

insertclevername

I understand she is mentally ill but it is still no excuse for the horrible things she says to you. I am really sorry that you are dealing with this.

MelissaRae1525

I read the beginning if the other thread but didn't have time to post in it. Idk how close you are to writing her off completely but that would just about do it for me. Like everyone else said, both boys are adorable and so are you! And an awesome mom to boot.

LadyXaverian

Don't engage with her anymore. You can not reason with the unreasonable. I'm so sorry she said those things to you. There is no merit in *anything* she said. I hope you know that. 

Hugewang

Your all bellends!

ASmallWonder

Thanks everyone  I'm EXTREMELY lucky that I have in laws I love and who love me (my husband thinks they love me more than him lol) and I have my brother.  The things she says don't hurt, it's that she'd say any of them in the first place,kwim?  The things she said about my brother and dad I know are untrue so she didn't get any of what she wanted, which was to turn us all against each other to deflect from my issues with her.

Today she wrote that I have to get over my need to have everyone think I'm perfect because I'm not.  Well, no shit but thanks for the confidence boost lol  It really boils down to the fact that, in her eyes, I have a better life and a better family than she had and she begrudges me that happiness so yeah, she can kick rocks.