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Hi! I'm MJ and I regularly post over on IF but thought you ladies would be a great group to get the conversation started on embryo adoption.  We just had our 2nd failed IVF...mostly due to egg quality.  We will try at least 1 more time with OE but have started to consider embryo adoption.  I've started doing some research online, but thought I would see if you ladies had any advice or tips with getting the process started...or great places for more research.  I guess I do have a few questions...when you move forward with EA are you guaranteed a certain amount of embryos you can adopt? Or does it vary? Also...are you choosing open or closed EA and why? Thanks ladies!

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TTC since Nov 2010 | Me: 29, DH: 31 
DX - Severe DOR, Stage II Endo
6 rounds medicated TI, 3 failed IUIs, 2 failed IVFs
After nearly 4 years of trying, our 1st BFP on IVF #3 (5R, 3M, 3F, 3 day 5 blasts frozen) 
FET - Beta #1 - 116, Beta #2 - 266!! 1st U/S on 10/6 - HB 121 and measuring perfectly! EDD 5/30/15

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  • liz4pawsliz4paws member
    Hi MJ! I'm sorry about your failed cycles, but I hope that if Embryo Adoption is the path you wish to pursue, that it will lead you to grow your family. :)

    I have an informational tab on my blog that gives loads of information to people who are just starting out. It's located here: https://www.wishingonasnowflake.com/p/once-you-decide-to-begin-researching.html

    The answer to your question will wildly vary depending on the path you decide to choose.

    We chose open adoption and I'm so glad we did, but there are pros and cons to both. Good luck and let me know if you have any questions!

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     Me (32) DH (36) - Finding our way to baby #1
     Me: POF/DOR - AMH <0.16, heterozygous c677t MTHFR, insulin resistant and gluten intolerant
     DH: Severe MFI

     12/2/11 - IUI #1- BFN 
    8/1/12 - IVF #1 - Zero response from max stims (600iu intramuscularly)
    My ovaries are just for decoration

     12/6/12 - Adopted five embryos that had been frozen for over ten years!
     2/11/13 - DEmbryo FET #1 Thawed four, sadly two didn't survive. Transferred two beautiful blasts. 
     2/16/13 - First BFP of my life @ 6dp5dt! EDD 10/30/13
     3/27/13 - After beta and u/s hell, no heartbeat ever detected. D&C at 9w1d.

    6/5/13 - Adopted four new embryos that had been frozen for seven years!      
    9/12/13 - DEmbryo FET #2. Thawed and transferred two beautiful blasts
    9/17/13 - BFP @ 5dp6dt! EDD 05/31/14
     9/29/13 - m/c @ 5w1d. :(

    11/19/13 - DEmbryo FET #3. Thawed and transferred one blast from each batch. Wow!
     11/23/13 - BFP @ 4dp6dt! EDD 8/7/13
    Beta #1 @ 13dp6dt - 522  Beta #2 @ 16dp6dt - 1373 
    6w5d ultrasound showed one perfect baby with a beautiful heartbeat of 134bpm!

    Snowflake baby is a girl! 
    Our beautiful Snowflake girl arrived on July 22, 2014!   
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  • Lacyj67Lacyj67 member
    Good luck with your research. Embryo adoption is a great thing to consider. Also maybe do some research on egg donation. I know it is a bit more expensive but if you would like to try using DHs sperm it could be a good way to go as well. We were able to cut down costs in half...by sharing a donor with another couple and split the amount of eggs she produced. Just a thought for you because I didn't know this existed when I started looking into embryo adoption.
    Me 34 and DH 39 married in aug. 2002
    Did 5 round of clomid 2010 =BFN
     High levels of NK CELLS DX sept.2012 DOR:# 0.02 
    IVF #1 May 2012  ER 4, EF 2, ET 2 =BFN
    MINI IVF Oct.2012  Cancelled 10-27-12
    Ivf #3 Antagonist Protocol April 2013
    Shared cycle..Donor cycled in July Got 12 eggs 9 fertilized and 8 frozen!!
    DE FET #1 Sept. 3rd 2013 FIRST BFP EVER 5dp5dt
    miscarried Sept 24th at 5 weeks 5 days
    Etopic  D&C and hysterscopy Nov 5 2013
    dx with pre genetic blood clotting dec 2013
    FET #2 Jan 31st  2014 
    Miscarried for a second time again at 5 weeks 5 days
    Currently fostering to adopt an amazing little 1 year old boy..P.J!
    FET#3  is Oct 29th 2014
    BFN on fet #3
    Last and FINAL FET coming JAN 28th 2015
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  • MJ14323MJ14323 member
    Lacyj67 said:
    Good luck with your research. Embryo adoption is a great thing to consider. Also maybe do some research on egg donation. I know it is a bit more expensive but if you would like to try using DHs sperm it could be a good way to go as well. We were able to cut down costs in half...by sharing a donor with another couple and split the amount of eggs she produced. Just a thought for you because I didn't know this existed when I started looking into embryo adoption.

    Thank you! We have talked about donor egg too.  Right now, DH is set against it...BUT we aren't at that point yet so we will have that conversation once we are ready to make that decision.  Thanks for your help!

    **SIGGY WARNING**

    TTC since Nov 2010 | Me: 29, DH: 31 
    DX - Severe DOR, Stage II Endo
    6 rounds medicated TI, 3 failed IUIs, 2 failed IVFs
    After nearly 4 years of trying, our 1st BFP on IVF #3 (5R, 3M, 3F, 3 day 5 blasts frozen) 
    FET - Beta #1 - 116, Beta #2 - 266!! 1st U/S on 10/6 - HB 121 and measuring perfectly! EDD 5/30/15

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    liz4paws said:
    Hi MJ! I'm sorry about your failed cycles, but I hope that if Embryo Adoption is the path you wish to pursue, that it will lead you to grow your family. :)

    I have an informational tab on my blog that gives loads of information to people who are just starting out. It's located here: https://www.wishingonasnowflake.com/p/once-you-decide-to-begin-researching.html

    The answer to your question will wildly vary depending on the path you decide to choose.

    We chose open adoption and I'm so glad we did, but there are pros and cons to both. Good luck and let me know if you have any questions!
    Some great resources! Thanks!

    **SIGGY WARNING**

    TTC since Nov 2010 | Me: 29, DH: 31 
    DX - Severe DOR, Stage II Endo
    6 rounds medicated TI, 3 failed IUIs, 2 failed IVFs
    After nearly 4 years of trying, our 1st BFP on IVF #3 (5R, 3M, 3F, 3 day 5 blasts frozen) 
    FET - Beta #1 - 116, Beta #2 - 266!! 1st U/S on 10/6 - HB 121 and measuring perfectly! EDD 5/30/15

    Everyone Welcome
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  • xmaystarxxmaystarx member
    I can't offer any advice on EA, but out of curiosity, what are the reasons behind your husband being against donor eggs but not EA? I think mine would be the other way around!

    9/15/14 - Our first son born thanks to donor eggs at RBA after 7 failed own egg IVF cycles.
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  • BeckyP005BeckyP005 member
    xmaystarx said:

    I can't offer any advice on EA, but out of curiosity, what are the reasons behind your husband being against donor eggs but not EA? I think mine would be the other way around!

    Good question. Was wondering same thing.

    ME:46 MH:44 DE IVF 2014
    Met with RE 4/11. 2 IUI's BFN. DE best option. Switched clinics to do "shared" program. Had to retake all tests and a mamm that put me behind and then on a DE waiting list for 12 months. Picked a donor!! (10/13/13) Got matched. Estimated transfer in December. After 2.5 years of patiently waiting I will finally cycle....can hardly believe it. DE cycle got cancelled. One of her tests came back positive.  Waiting for another donor. Donor picked!! (1/18/14)

    DE IVF #1 (4/26) BFN  DE FET #1 (6/4) BFP! Beta 1=339 Beta 2=852 Beta 3=9957 EDD 2/22/15!!


     

     

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  • DoublePortionDoublePortion member
    I can't speak for MJ, but MH was against donor eggs in favor of donor embryos as well. He was more open to traditional adoption and wanted to go that route, so I think the donor embryo route was kind of a compromise for us. It's kind of an adoption and I also get to experience pregnancy. His reason for not wanting to try donor eggs was that he thought he would feel like it was his baby with another woman, despite me being PG. I know he wouldn't feel that way in the end but he was adamant that our children come from either both our genetic material or neither.

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    AMH .97 as of 4/2012! ~ AMH 1.63 as of 4/2013!?!
    Him: 29 ~ perfect swimmers
    Laparotomy w/partial oophorectomy 8/2009 to remove cysts/endo.
    Stopped BCP 4/2010.
    Multiple clomid rounds from 11/2010 to 6/2011. ~ All BFN
    IUI w/clomid 7/2011. IUI w/clomid & injectables 11/2011 & 1/2012. ~ All BFN
    IVF:EPP 5/2012 ~ (4R, 3M, 2F w/ICSI). Both embryos txfrd. ~ BFN
    BCP to manage endo from 10/2012 to 12/2012.
    FET w/donor embryos #1: 10/2013 Cancelled
    FET w/donor embryos #1.2: 11/2013     ~ ET of 2 beautiful blasts on 11/27.
    Beta 1: 503(12dp5dt) Beta 2: 1035(14dpt) Beta 3: 3001(16dpt)     Beta 4: 8503(19dpt)
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  • MJ14323MJ14323 member
    DoublePortion said:
    I can't speak for MJ, but MH was against donor eggs in favor of donor embryos as well. He was more open to traditional adoption and wanted to go that route, so I think the donor embryo route was kind of a compromise for us. It's kind of an adoption and I also get to experience pregnancy. His reason for not wanting to try donor eggs was that he thought he would feel like it was his baby with another woman, despite me being PG. I know he wouldn't feel that way in the end but he was adamant that our children come from either both our genetic material or neither.
    Yes, my DH is the same.  He feels like he would be having a baby with another woman even though I would be PG and it just seems really weird to him.  I do get where he is coming from and am not sure if I 100% agree with him.  Luckily, we aren't at the point where we have to make a decision...we are still going to try one more time with OE.  BUT it will take me time to get over the fact that if we did EA, the child won't have biological ties to either of us.  I always had hope that even if we used DE, at least he would be biologically connected. We have our WTF appointment tomorrow, so we will see what the doctor recommends but we are pretty set on trying one more IVF cycle with OE.

    **SIGGY WARNING**

    TTC since Nov 2010 | Me: 29, DH: 31 
    DX - Severe DOR, Stage II Endo
    6 rounds medicated TI, 3 failed IUIs, 2 failed IVFs
    After nearly 4 years of trying, our 1st BFP on IVF #3 (5R, 3M, 3F, 3 day 5 blasts frozen) 
    FET - Beta #1 - 116, Beta #2 - 266!! 1st U/S on 10/6 - HB 121 and measuring perfectly! EDD 5/30/15

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  • BeckyP005BeckyP005 member
    Oh ok! Makes sense @DoublePortion and @MJ14323.

    ME:46 MH:44 DE IVF 2014
    Met with RE 4/11. 2 IUI's BFN. DE best option. Switched clinics to do "shared" program. Had to retake all tests and a mamm that put me behind and then on a DE waiting list for 12 months. Picked a donor!! (10/13/13) Got matched. Estimated transfer in December. After 2.5 years of patiently waiting I will finally cycle....can hardly believe it. DE cycle got cancelled. One of her tests came back positive.  Waiting for another donor. Donor picked!! (1/18/14)

    DE IVF #1 (4/26) BFN  DE FET #1 (6/4) BFP! Beta 1=339 Beta 2=852 Beta 3=9957 EDD 2/22/15!!


     

     

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