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Hopeforthebest

I need this... so am I allowed to start it? Ha ha

Hopeforthebest

It is Open Enrollment Season. I'm supposed to be a contact person for our employees for questions, concerns, etc.

I am thinking I need to go this weekend and get some mini bottles to keep in my purse and take up drinking to get through this.

The worst part isn't going to necessarily be the employee questions. It is going to be my moronic boss who sits in a conjoined office with me and HEARS things completely wrong and REPEATS things completely wrong.

He is going to hear the questions and OVER TALK me with WRONG information and I can't do anything about it. SO I've decided (besides the drinking idea) I may just get up when it happens and go check the mail or go to the bathroom or whatever. I'm leaving the office and not coming back until it is over.

I am so stuck. I NEED a new job. I MISS the days of jobs-a-plenty.

 

sweetwalks

My FFFC. It really humors me when BM's or SM's complain here that the other is copying them with hair color, etc. I have natural brown hair. In summer, I do blondes or reds with lighter browns, I never keep the same hair color twice in a row. I'm horrible. In winter, I have dark hair, dark dark hair. So, it amuses me to no end when BM complains that I'm trying to be like her because my hair appointment happens to be the same week as hers.

I mean, am I supposed to call & verify with her first? Make sure they aren't too close. She'd be super upset if she knew I went back dark again, just. like. her. GASP!

Seriously, it's my natural hair color. There are only so many hair colors a person can choose from! What if we brush our teeth at the same time of day? *gasp* I must be a stalker.

I don't want to be her, on any planet, ever. Sure, some people are super psychotic that way and genuinely do attempt to portray the other person. But hair color? Come on!

Nineoceans

My dh and I are in a bad place right now. He is trying to make things better and I am not.

My three closest friends and I make fun of Bm pretty regularly. Last year she threw out a comment about planning a luxury vacation to a place we go on a pretty weekly basis for work (and it is NOT nice at all...like it's where you would go on drinking weekends in college in our state- not a family vacation) so whenever she does something annoying we throw our hair and say "we are going to xyz" we also make fun of her grammar. She posted a pic of two of her kids on fbook and wrote "my baby's" instead of babies so we all went around finishing the sentence "my baby's drug addict mom" petty but it feels good in the moment

Also I feel just done with my SS sitch right now. He hasn't done anything bad nor has Bm but I'm just done competing and indulging in the one up stuff. I bought all Christmas gifts this weekend and I am not spending a dime more. I will usually buy SS something every week to lay on his bed for when he gets back but I feel done doing that. Not fair to him but I'm over it.

If my baby is crying I will put on rocky ASAP, drake or big Sean and he will instantly start clapping and dancing

Lavender P

My FFFC, I'm glad that SS got a D on his project. The teacher told DH that SS didn't follow directions or include one single thing in the project that he was supposed to. BM helped him with it, which means neither of them can read or follow directions. I should feel bad he got a crappy grade but I know they probably spent all of 15 minutes on it and then expect to do well. Also, BM told DH she didn't need his help on the project and she was "perfectly capable of helping HER son." Well I guess you aren't because you got a D on a 5th grade project....

Sunday924

There was supposed to be a fall festival tomorrow but I just found out it is moved to Nov. I'm pissed! I wanted to go with just DD. Halloween is her birthday and I wanted it to be lots of fun with just us. The weekend it's moved to we will have both SS's.

CFjo2010

I had volunteered to bake cupcakes, brownies and cookies for tonight's Daddy-Daughter dance at the girls' school.  Well after making both their tutus, working during the day, bartending at night and squeezing in Crossfit when I can, I ran out of time and only baked one set of cupcakes.  So instead of baking the rest, I'm buying it.  I never buy baked goods but I'm just too damn overwhelmed to care at this point.  Yes, I'm taking the lazy way out and I'm actually quite embarrassed. 

sweetwalks

Ditto @andrea99 don't be embarrassed @jobalchak you've got a lot on your plate!

Hopeforthebest

jessicabcairns said:

My FFFC. It really humors me when BM's or SM's complain here that the other is copying them with hair color, etc. I have natural brown hair. In summer, I do blondes or reds with lighter browns, I never keep the same hair color twice in a row. I'm horrible. In winter, I have dark hair, dark dark hair. So, it amuses me to no end when BM complains that I'm trying to be like her because my hair appointment happens to be the same week as hers. I mean, am I supposed to call & verify with her first? Make sure they aren't too close. She'd be super upset if she knew I went back dark again, just. like. her. GASP! Seriously, it's my natural hair color. There are only so many hair colors a person can choose from! What if we brush our teeth at the same time of day? *gasp* I must be a stalker. I don't want to be her, on any planet, ever. Sure, some people are super psychotic that way and genuinely do attempt to portray the other person. But hair color? Come on!

I'm lurking over from Jan 14, but as the child of a blended family, had to comment on this. Hair colour is one thing, but hair colour, style, and purchasing the exact same outfit you've seen my BM wear is really creepy SM. My Mom wore a gorgeous dress to the rehearsal dinner for my wedding. A week later, SM wore the same thing to my brothers graduation, and admitted to buying it simply because my mom wore it...

That is Fatal Attraction crap right there.

Sunday924

Hopeforthebest said:

jessicabcairns said:

My FFFC. It really humors me when BM's or SM's complain here that the other is copying them with hair color, etc. I have natural brown hair. In summer, I do blondes or reds with lighter browns, I never keep the same hair color twice in a row. I'm horrible. In winter, I have dark hair, dark dark hair. So, it amuses me to no end when BM complains that I'm trying to be like her because my hair appointment happens to be the same week as hers. I mean, am I supposed to call & verify with her first? Make sure they aren't too close. She'd be super upset if she knew I went back dark again, just. like. her. GASP! Seriously, it's my natural hair color. There are only so many hair colors a person can choose from! What if we brush our teeth at the same time of day? *gasp* I must be a stalker. I don't want to be her, on any planet, ever. Sure, some people are super psychotic that way and genuinely do attempt to portray the other person. But hair color? Come on!

I'm lurking over from Jan 14, but as the child of a blended family, had to comment on this. Hair colour is one thing, but hair colour, style, and purchasing the exact same outfit you've seen my BM wear is really creepy SM. My Mom wore a gorgeous dress to the rehearsal dinner for my wedding. A week later, SM wore the same thing to my brothers graduation, and admitted to buying it simply because my mom wore it...

That is Fatal Attraction crap right there.

BM got married at the same place we did one year, one month, and one day later. There are a million other places to get married around here. The venue is an hour and a half away and there are a million other places to get married there too.

sweetwalks

@jessicabcairns ITA, that's creepy.

But calling some one obsessed or claiming they want to be you, can't compete with you, etc. b/c they happen to get their hair done the same week as you, is a bit much! Lol

sweetwalks

@Sunday924 I agree! That's a bit strange too, but I still wouldn't freak out.

Hopeforthebest

wendilea said:

I want to leave DH.  Yes, I say that every year as we inch towards Christmas, but I really do. 

He's bitching that he's between a rock and a hard place with the SKs, so he plays the "the CO says" and by God you're doing it card.  We had therapy scheduled for yesterday, and he cancelled.  So the parts pertaining to him telling the SKs that it was their decision, he would love to see them, but he understands they have jobs and lives, and what schedule works for THEM I recorded on my iPhone.  His only response was "If I do that, I don't think I'll ever see them again."  I said, "If you force them, I can guarantee you'll never see them again."  They are 16 and 17, and forcing the issue isn't going to work.  Maybe when they realize they miss their dad, they'll make an effort.  And if they don't, well in the meantime it's that much less stress on me, I won't have to deal with 2 entitled, ungrateful, lazy near-adults.

There's a crack in a pipe in the basement.  He's tried a few things, and failed.  We run a de-humidifier constantly and have 2 big shop fans to dry it out.  It's not working.  But because it doesn't affect HIM, he's not making any effort to work on it anymore.

Grrr.  OK done.

I'm sorry wendilea, I'm truly sorry.

sweetwalks

@wendilea ugh. I'm so sorry for you. You don't deserve to have to deal with all that added stress and junk

KTdidit

@wendilea I'm so sorry you have so much stress and negativity going on in your life right now.

@jobalchak You have a lot going on. Buy the cupcakes and be done with it, and don't feel the least bit bad!

My FFFC: Everyone in my office except for 3 of us will be away all next week for our annual conference. One of my coworkers just brought all of her plants down to my office, I take care of them for her while she's gone. I'm totally planning on taking a cutting from her giant basil and coleus plants to start my own.

 

Ilumine

Hopeforthebest said:

It is Open Enrollment Season. I'm supposed to be a contact person for our employees for questions, concerns, etc.

I am thinking I need to go this weekend and get some mini bottles to keep in my purse and take up drinking to get through this.

The worst part isn't going to necessarily be the employee questions. It is going to be my moronic boss who sits in a conjoined office with me and HEARS things completely wrong and REPEATS things completely wrong.

He is going to hear the questions and OVER TALK me with WRONG information and I can't do anything about it. SO I've decided (besides the drinking idea) I may just get up when it happens and go check the mail or go to the bathroom or whatever. I'm leaving the office and not coming back until it is over.

I am so stuck. I NEED a new job. I MISS the days of jobs-a-plenty.

 

here's what you do.  When someone calls in, get the question and then tell them that you are going to do a bit of research and then will email them the correct information - with the link to where you got the information. 

This way you can circumvent your boss AND you have given them hard cold facts that they cannot dispute either. 

I was our association's health care lobbyist AND patient advocate. I would always always always email or hardcopy mail the information to the member.  That way I could never be missunderstood.  

Granted, the information was easily obtainable by the member in the first place, but sometimes just tweaking the information or cutting out the rest of the fact sheet was all that they needed. 

hopanka

Wendi, I read you have a crack pipe in the basement.....I did only have 4 hrs of sleep, tho

twister22

It's late, but oh well.

Background: In our apartment complex the parking is right outside the door (like 10 yards) and our apartment is on the end. However, there is one spot that is "prime." It's either me or this one guy who seems to always get it. No one else seems to care about that spot, and will even park one or two down even when that one is open. Anyway, I know I am no more entitled to this spot than the neighbor guy, but it pisses me off to no end that he always takes it. He is a single dude, in great shape, and his hands are always empty walking to and from his car. I have a 10 month old, an ADHD almost 5 year old, and my hands always seem to be full with stuff to put in or take out of the car. 

FFFC: Today I was parked 2 spots over from the prime spot. While home I see that neighbor guy had left. I went out and moved my car to the prime spot. In my defense, I knew it would rain this evening, and I had to load both kids and 4 donation boxes into the car. No shame.

SueBear

@twister22 Not flammable at all! Sometimes you need to park there just to assert the spot is not only "his."

Nineoceans

twister22 said:

It's late, but oh well.

Background: In our apartment complex the parking is right outside the door (like 10 yards) and our apartment is on the end. However, there is one spot that is "prime." It's either me or this one guy who seems to always get it. No one else seems to care about that spot, and will even park one or two down even when that one is open. Anyway, I know I am no more entitled to this spot than the neighbor guy, but it pisses me off to no end that he always takes it. He is a single dude, in great shape, and his hands are always empty walking to and from his car. I have a 10 month old, an ADHD almost 5 year old, and my hands always seem to be full with stuff to put in or take out of the car. 

FFFC: Today I was parked 2 spots over from the prime spot. While home I see that neighbor guy had left. I went out and moved my car to the prime spot. In my defense, I knew it would rain this evening, and I had to load both kids and 4 donation boxes into the car. No shame.

Since I had my son I cannot STAND when people with no kids take convenient spots.

I'm carrying a huge carrier and baby inside the carrier plus a diaper bag and purse- please let me have a close spot! As a world in harmony thing when my baby is older I will be happy to park out again as I did when I was single

SimpleJane

hopanka said:

Wendi, I read you have a crack pipe in the basement.....I did only have 4 hrs of sleep, tho

Me too! I had to reread it a few times.

twister22

Nineoceans said:

It's late, but oh well.

Background: In our apartment complex the parking is right outside the door (like 10 yards) and our apartment is on the end. However, there is one spot that is "prime." It's either me or this one guy who seems to always get it. No one else seems to care about that spot, and will even park one or two down even when that one is open. Anyway, I know I am no more entitled to this spot than the neighbor guy, but it pisses me off to no end that he always takes it. He is a single dude, in great shape, and his hands are always empty walking to and from his car. I have a 10 month old, an ADHD almost 5 year old, and my hands always seem to be full with stuff to put in or take out of the car. 

FFFC: Today I was parked 2 spots over from the prime spot. While home I see that neighbor guy had left. I went out and moved my car to the prime spot. In my defense, I knew it would rain this evening, and I had to load both kids and 4 donation boxes into the car. No shame.

Since I had my son I cannot STAND when people with no kids take convenient spots. I'm carrying a huge carrier and baby inside the carrier plus a diaper bag and purse- please let me have a close spot! As a world in harmony thing when my baby is older I will be happy to park out again as I did when I was single

I always park right next to the cart corrals when I'm at the store. I just load the kids and bags into the cart and it makes things so much easier. Plusalso, when I'm done shopping I can buckle the kids in, unload my cart, and stick the cart back in the corral.

To add the the FFFC, I have thought about asking the apartment management if can pay extra each month to have that spot assigned to me. Not even kidding. DH told me I was crazy :P.

ambrvan

It's late but I must get it out.

So we just took out a little more on our personal loan to fix the hubby's transmission last month. Well something is still wrong with his truck and we can't seem to fix it. So we're at the dealership right now looking at trading it in. They are appraising it as I type.

FFC: I wish they would tell him his truck is not worth crap so he would have to keep it. I'd rather keep it and with on fixing it. And he has drilled holes in it on the interior against my advice to mount lights (it is a personal response vehicle for the rescue squad he volunteers on), and I kind of just want to be right.

And it's my turn to get a vehicle for heaven's sake! I mean what do I have to do to really make you see how much it is going to hurt my feelings if you get a new vehicle? Not only will you be getting another car again, but if this goes through it will be a NEW (well almost new, first one we've ever bought from a dealership) one.

And if it falls through, I'm going to have to listen to DH whine about it and be in a bad mood when I don't think a new vehicle is all that important right now and all I want to do is say, "I told you so. AGAIN!"

Littlejen22

wendilea said:

I want to leave DH.  Yes, I say that every year as we inch towards Christmas, but I really do. 

He's bitching that he's between a rock and a hard place with the SKs, so he plays the "the CO says" and by God you're doing it card.  We had therapy scheduled for yesterday, and he cancelled.  So the parts pertaining to him telling the SKs that it was their decision, he would love to see them, but he understands they have jobs and lives, and what schedule works for THEM I recorded on my iPhone.  His only response was "If I do that, I don't think I'll ever see them again."  I said, "If you force them, I can guarantee you'll never see them again."  They are 16 and 17, and forcing the issue isn't going to work.  Maybe when they realize they miss their dad, they'll make an effort.  And if they don't, well in the meantime it's that much less stress on me, I won't have to deal with 2 entitled, ungrateful, lazy near-adults.

There's a crack in a pipe in the basement.  He's tried a few things, and failed.  We run a de-humidifier constantly and have 2 big shop fans to dry it out.  It's not working.  But because it doesn't affect HIM, he's not making any effort to work on it anymore.

Grrr.  OK done.

OMG Wendi, I am apparently way to tired to be bumping because I thought you said there was a CRACK PIPE in the basement!  I was thinking WTF???

Littlejen22

OK, just saw that others thought that too but I replied before reading further, haha.  And no, I did not think you were a crack whore but thought your DH took up a new hobby!

mccall0113

What she said^^^

mccall0113

FFFC on Sunday: I hope BD falls off the face of the earth. Too cheap to buy the kids winter boots. I was very snarky with him and I never stoop to that level. But it felt good to get it out. I hope his parents disappears as well, while I'm at it. Stop making excuses for your son. I don't care if he has a cold. I was in the hospital and no one stepped up to help.

Nineoceans

ambrvan said:

It's late but I must get it out.

So we just took out a little more on our personal loan to fix the hubby's transmission last month. Well something is still wrong with his truck and we can't seem to fix it. So we're at the dealership right now looking at trading it in. They are appraising it as I type.

FFC: I wish they would tell him his truck is not worth crap so he would have to keep it. I'd rather keep it and with on fixing it. And he has drilled holes in it on the interior against my advice to mount lights (it is a personal response vehicle for the rescue squad he volunteers on), and I kind of just want to be right.

And it's my turn to get a vehicle for heaven's sake! I mean what do I have to do to really make you see how much it is going to hurt my feelings if you get a new vehicle? Not only will you be getting another car again, but if this goes through it will be a NEW (well almost new, first one we've ever bought from a dealership) one.

And if it falls through, I'm going to have to listen to DH whine about it and be in a bad mood when I don't think a new vehicle is all that important right now and all I want to do is say, "I told you so. AGAIN!"

Ambrvan, did you guys end up getting a new car?

ambrvan

Check out the call out thread with my name. Short version, yes.

+just+j+

I read crack pipe too.

Wendilea - i just saw this i am so sorry. You know how to get ahold of me.