I had lunch with Allie. She is on "yellow" for talking. She said "please don't be upset. I am on yellow right now. I am doing my personal best to correct my behavior."
Tonight is skate night. Yesterday, She came home on yellow for touching. The deal was she had to come home on green to earn the privilege to go. I can't say no if she is doing her "personal best!"
Re: How can I say no to this?
You gave her very clear expectations: Green = skating party. Yellow (or any other color) = no skating party.
She needs to know that when you say something, you mean it. Otherwise next time she won't take you seriously. I'm pretty sure you already know this, but because she's saying all of the right things (and probably being super cute when saying them), she's making it hard for you to stick to your guns!
Either way, I'm glad she came home on green and you didn't have to say no.