Am I pregnant?

henderson1026

BubblyDevil said:

Well I'm not afraid of the penis, so of course we have dtd.

pretty sure it has more to do with our own bodies and making sure they are fully healed, whether it be from a vaginal delivery or c-section.

WashingtonQueen

nnikki10 said:

Well I'm not afraid of the penis, so of course we have dtd.

@washingtonqueen I wanna change my BSC vote to bubblydevil

If you want to write in a vote on the thread I will count it.

WashingtonQueen

BubblyDevil said:

BubblyDevil said:

Well I'm not afraid of the penis, so of course we have dtd.

Well either am I, but I AM afraid of an infection and screwing with my future fertility. But that's just me.

One and done here. I wouldn't be able to handle another child unfortunately.

Ok.....So your are trying to hurt yourself so there is no possibility of another? You know you could just get your tubes tied, right? :-/

BubblyDevil

WashingtonQueen said:

BubblyDevil said:

Jill9288 said:

BubblyDevil said:

Well I'm not afraid of the penis, so of course we have dtd.

Well either am I, but I AM afraid of an infection and screwing with my future fertility. But that's just me.

One and done here. I wouldn't be able to handle another child unfortunately.

Ok.....So your are trying to hurt yourself so there is no possibility of another? You know you could just get your tubes tied, right? :-/

Yup totally want to hurt myself. Totally want to die.

nnikki10

WashingtonQueen said:

nnikki10 said:

@washingtonqueen I wanna change my BSC vote to bubblydevil

If you want to write in a vote on the thread I will count it.


Done and done

WashingtonQueen

@BubblyDevil, I think you are missing the point.

BubblyDevil

No, I'm not stupid. I work in the medical field. I knew the risks of what we did and based on how things were and are in our relationship, I chose to have sex.

I don't understand why so many women on the bump (this board and others) are afraid of sex pp. They write of delaying it long past 6 weeks because they are scared of it possibly causing pain or whatever.

Maybe that makes me BSC, but at least I know that I'm not truly nuts like the others I've been lumped with.

*end rant*

WashingtonQueen

Ok, well let me ask you this, did you tear?

BubblyDevil

No. I was very lucky.

LJUTCMommy

@Bubblydevil Your experience isn't everyone's. For those of us with traumatic births, DTD is very painful. I've only tried twice now and gave up both times half way through

I am not scared of penis; I am in physical pain.

I know some women are DTD 4 weeks pp, but that's not everybody. You shouldn't criticize other women for what they choose to do with their own bodies.

Revez

FWIW the public health nurse here told me I could DTD whenever I felt ready. At almost 8 weeks pp I'm only just now starting to think about it.

If someone isn't ready then they just aren't ready. That's just my opinion

BubblyDevil

@LJUTCMommy Likewise. I never criticized anyone. The original post back whenever it was, just said that I didn't understand why people were afraid.

WashingtonQueen

BubblyDevil said:

No. I was very lucky.

Ok, then why are you judging other people when they are afraid it might hurt? You don't know what you are talking about.

With DS I had 2 giant tears going in opposite ways from the opening of my vagina. It hurt like a motherfucker. I could barely sit down. Even after 6 weeks the spots where the tears and stitches were still hurt. I waited until about 12 weeks PP before I was brave enough to try sex and you know what? It HURT! It took a few go arounds to start feeling better.

With DD I had a tiny little nick. We had sex one day shy of 6 weeks and it was fine.

Different birth experiences equal different physical and mental trauma.

However, having sex when you did was not safe.

"A fatal air embolism, when air enters the bloodstream, can occur due to sex shortly after childbirth before the placental bed has healed, particularly if the woman's knees are pressed against her chest, but this is rare. More common complications of having sex early after pregnancy are tears to incisions and infection of the uterus."

Cosmic+Love

My husband's penis is girthy. So, yeah. I was afraid to dtd.

Soleil3

*changes vote to BD for batshitcrazy*

"No, I'm not stupid. I work in the medical field. I knew the risks of what we did and based on how things were and are in our relationship, I chose to have sex."

Meaning what, exactly?

BubblyDevil

I guess we'll just have to have different views based on our life experiences.

BabyE143

BubblyDevil said:

No, I'm not stupid. I work in the medical field. I knew the risks of what we did and based on how things were and are in our relationship, I chose to have sex.

I don't understand why so many women on the bump (this board and others) are afraid of sex pp. They write of delaying it long past 6 weeks because they are scared of it possibly causing pain or whatever.

Maybe that makes me BSC, but at least I know that I'm not truly nuts like the others I've been lumped with.

*end rant*

First off, quit getting all butthurt over the fact that you were nominated most likely to be BSC. You're proving everyone's point and probably going to win the award, js.

And I'm sorry if I don't want a penis in my vagina days after a baby came out of it. I too had an easy labor with no tearing or stitches and it was all natural to boot but I sure as heck wouldn't want to DTD just 2 weeks after. I just cringe thinking of all the nasty that went on down there.... it was a bloody hott mess!

Soleil3

BubblyDevil said:

I guess we'll just have to have different views based on our life experiences.

I edited, I want clarification before you GTFO.

LJUTCMommy

Soleil3 said:

BubblyDevil said:

I guess we'll just have to have different views based on our life experiences.

I edited, I want clarification before you GTFO.

I just assumed her SO is one of those asshats who pressured her or threatened to cheat if she didn't give it up.

BubblyDevil

Soleil3 said:

*changes vote to BD for batshitcrazy*

"No, I'm not stupid. I work in the medical field. I knew the risks of what we did and based on how things were and are in our relationship, I chose to have sex."

Meaning what, exactly?

Long story short, it didn't help things and now we are divorcing. Things weren't good during the pregnancy (if anyone remembers) and now with ppd on top of it it has all gotten ugly.

WashingtonQueen

I was also wondering about the relationship thing. Sounds crappy.

Soleil3

LJUTCMommy said:

BubblyDevil said:

I guess we'll just have to have different views based on our life experiences.

I edited, I want clarification before you GTFO.

I just assumed her SO is one of those asshats who pressured her or threatened to cheat if she didn't give it up.

Seeing as she took it in the ass at week 1, I'm assuming the same.

Revez

BubblyDevil said:

@LJUTCMommy Likewise. I never criticized anyone. The original post back whenever it was, just said that I didn't understand why people were afraid.

I'm scared because I torn (again) at 4 weeks from just wiping with gusto. Who does that?!

That and I haven't come to terms with the way it looks down there yet. If I have to try and keep my lunch down just from looking at myself naked I don't think I'd be comfortable enough for DH to see me yet.

We all have our reasons.

Soleil3

petey1106 said:

@soleil3 I picked this one for you.

Awww yes!!

WashingtonQueen

BubblyDevil said:

*changes vote to BD for batshitcrazy*

"No, I'm not stupid. I work in the medical field. I knew the risks of what we did and based on how things were and are in our relationship, I chose to have sex."

Meaning what, exactly?

Long story short, it didn't help things and now we are divorcing. Things weren't good during the pregnancy (if anyone remembers) and now with ppd on top of it it has all gotten ugly.

I am very sorry you felt the need to put yourself in danger to appease an asshole like that. And the fact that he can't stand by his woman when she has PPD, I want to rip his dick off.

Soleil3

BubblyDevil said:

*changes vote to BD for batshitcrazy*

"No, I'm not stupid. I work in the medical field. I knew the risks of what we did and based on how things were and are in our relationship, I chose to have sex."

Meaning what, exactly?

Long story short, it didn't help things and now we are divorcing. Things weren't good during the pregnancy (if anyone remembers) and now with ppd on top of it it has all gotten ugly.

Well. I'm glad you are divorcing. Now if you'd stop running around bragging that you slept with a douchebag 1 week PP maybe peopl wouldnt think you are BSC.

LJUTCMommy

Zever000 said:

BubblyDevil said:

@LJUTCMommy Likewise. I never criticized anyone. The original post back whenever it was, just said that I didn't understand why people were afraid.

I'm scared because I torn (again) at 4 weeks from just wiping with gusto. Who does that?!

That and I haven't come to terms with the way it looks down there yet. If I have to try and keep my lunch down just from looking at myself naked I don't think I'd be comfortable enough for DH to see me yet.

We all have our reasons.

If it makes you feel better, DH saw my wreckage at 8 weeks pp and I just looked a couple days ago. It's a mess.

He doesn't seem phased by my new, Picasso style vagina. He is still very attracted to me and lets me know it all the time.

I'm also lucky that he respects me and has never pressured me to DTD when it's been uncomfortable. He even encouraged me to wait until I was comfortable, even after the dr cleared me.

BlondieBia21

@bubblydevil-

(In a complete non-snarky manner.) So if your relationship wasn't crappy, would you have waited the 6+ weeks to have sex? Did you feel like it would help your relationship if you did and that's why you did, or did you just not care about the risks? 

I am sorry that your relationship is ending. He must be a real ass hat to leave you at this time. Hang in there, your sweet baby needs his mama!!

Revez

@LJUTCMommy That's one awesome DH you have on your hands there! Definitely a keeper!
Mine's the same way, he's never asked to DTD and has always been super supportive. This one's all me, I hated my body before LO and now it's just a disaster. I've always had body issues though.

BubblyDevil

@BlondieBia21 Yes I fully intended to wait the full 6 weeks. He was finally showing interest in me sexually and that's why we had sex so soon.

Soleil3

Douche. Bag.

BlondieBia21

BubblyDevil said:

@BlondieBia21 Yes I fully intended to wait the full 6 weeks. He was finally showing interest in me sexually and that's why we had sex so soon.

THAT information clarifies a lot. I'm sorry that that happened to you, I really am. I hope things get better for you. 

jbbolton

Haven't DTD yet to get pregnant...    

LJUTCMommy

BubblyDevil said:

@BlondieBia21 Yes I fully intended to wait the full 6 weeks. He was finally showing interest in me sexually and that's why we had sex so soon.

This makes me very sad. Sorry your ex was such an asshole. I dated a guy like that--who was never interested in me sexually after about 3 months of dating. It did a number on my self esteem. He was also a porn addict. I was 19 at the time so I had no idea what I was doing. Fortunately, I've become wiser with age.

Just know that it's his issue--not yours. I can't believe he's bailing on you while you've got PPD and a newborn. Sounds like divorce was the right decision.

BubblyDevil

Thanks guys.

magdalina.h

I got a pap yesterday and tried to climb out of my own skin it hurt so bad. I'm going to have a glass of wine or two on Saturday

Revez

@BubblyDevil No one deserves to be treated like that. I'm sorry you're going through this and I hope your situation starts to get better soon.

henderson1026

Soleil3 said:

*changes vote to BD for batshitcrazy*

"No, I'm not stupid. I work in the medical field. I knew the risks of what we did and based on how things were and are in our relationship, I chose to have sex."

Meaning what, exactly?

meaning her husband is a douche and couldn't handle waiting??  I really cant imagine anything else.

ETA:  i wrote that before I finished reading the thread.  I'm very sorry you are going through such a rough time.  He really is a douche though and you are better off without him.

BabyE143

BubblyDevil said:

Well I'm not afraid of the penis, so of course we have dtd.

BubblyDevil said:

@BlondieBia21 Yes I fully intended to wait the full 6 weeks. He was finally showing interest in me sexually and that's why we had sex so soon.

If that was me, I'd definitely be scared of the penis.

starshower22

HauntedRadio said:

I didn't tear and at 1-2 weeks pp I could barely sit I was so sore and swollen still. I can't even imagine wanting to dtd at that point.

But then again I'm one of those weird people that don't LOVE sex. *shrug*

Ditto to all of this!

I tried to DTD 6 weeks pp and it was physically painful. We had to stop and after that I was worried about trying again too soon because of the pain I had experienced. If that wasn't the same expeirence as someone else, great. I'm only worried about what I went through. I'm not going to tell anyone they are wrong or weird about their expeirence.