DS1 is nonverbal. He also lack the physical skills to sign. Up until recently we've been doing well with guessing and redirecting but with school and the constant stimulation there and their demands of him he's really gained a lot of cognitive skills. And the tantrums have started. They're completely out of frustration and lack of communication. I couldn't imagine being him and wanting or needing something and having no way of communicating it.
Today he had a total meltdown because he wanted to walk into the mulch and down the hill (it's a really steep hill that is covered in juniper bushes so we couldn't walk down and explore it) and I kept turning his gait trainer and moving him. It ended up turning into a complete disaster because he wanted to walk into the gravel or down this steep hill and of course a walker doesn't go there. After a few failed attempts at making him happy and a few more tantrums he had an epic meltdown. I lost it, yelled at him and hauled his butt inside and put him in the crib for a few. When he got up I gave him a snack and he hate a HUGE amount.
So maybe the tantrums were brought on by the fact that he was a bit hungry on top of not getting his way?
We have a few minimal "signs" that he can use, like he crawls to his chair in the kitchen when he wants to eat. But he's pulling to stand now and pulls everything off tables and counters and pulls up on our stove (which is old and he cannot be anywhere near when it's in use) so we've gated the kitchen off. Sometimes if we have a snack container out he'll bring it to us to open, but he hands us lots of things that aren't snacks either.
What is the basic start of communication? We've tried some BASICPECS, like a pic of two toys and he pics one, and he has zero interest in it and won't choose, he just turns away.
I've thought about downloading a speech app for the IPad and slowly introducing it. But I'm at a loss. Any suggestions?
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