Jealousy shame

KTZ17

My SIL is almost as pregnant as I was when I had DD and I'm starting to get jealous. Her baby shower is coming up and I just keep wishing I had been able to have mine. I know my DD is home and healthy now, and I am so happy that she is, but I can't help but wishing I had been pregnant to term and gotten big and had a baby shower. Sorry for the pity party, I just need to vent to ladies who get it! ETA: the title is jealousy shame because I feel guilty to feel this way.

LaciJaxx

Why can't you have a baby shower? Some people wait until the baby is born. And your circumstance is different.

megs2011

I know how you feel. My SIL got pg around the time pf my EDD. She complained her entire pregnancy. Around the 33-34 week mark she started wishing her baby would just come already. That really annoyed me because my girls came early and I didn't want them to. She went to just shy of 40 weeks. I kept telling her, you don't want her to come early, don't wish her here, she needs to develop and grow. I was getting so angry with her I couldn't be around her anymore (she complained from about 3month on).

I agree with PP, have a baby shower anyways. My mom had one after I was born because that's what they did.

KTZ17

Well we cancelled the baby shower when she was in the NICU because it would have been too hard for me to not be pregnant at my shower and not have my baby home with me yet. Now she's almost 5 months old and I feel like it's too late. We thought about throwing a party over the summer, but then I got too worried about having her around a big group of people. Maybe for our next baby we'll have a per-baby party to make up for this time.

Throw3ks

@ktz17 have a meet the baby shower. I had my shower post baby, not planned that way of course and everyone was super supportive. I am positive your friends and family will understand.

conradtn

I totally understand!

I barely made it to my family shower (I went in the hospital a couple days later). I felt awful the whole time because my blood pressure was up. And I had to carry my pee container because I was doing the 24 hour urinalysis. 

My work shower was me going and picking up my presents while LO was in the NICU.  They said they'll have a little party when I go back. I had to pick them up because they got my travel system and I needed the car seat for her car seat test.

jbranden12

Totally normal feelings. Also, I had my showers when Anna was a couple months old and still in the NICU. It was tough but everyone was nice and happy to see me since most of them hadn't seen me since her birth and wouldn't for a while after we got home either!