UO anyone?

brideandbreve

jldubb0626 said:

benjaminsmommy16 said:

I don't get why anyone thinks Norman Reedus is hot. I mean, he isn't the ugliest person alive or anything but I just don't think he is that good looking.

Whhhaaa?? REALLY? I totally fell in love with him the first time I watched Boondock Saints. Which is my favorite movie, BTW. He's even better in The Walking Dead. I'd follow Daryl Dixon into the gates of hell as long as I could ride on the back of the motorcycle and carry his bows. :P

I first need to confess: I am, and forever will be, Team Shane. Say what you want about his lack of humanity, or how he was an ass, whatever. He was eye candy, and I miss him.

That being said, Daryl ain't half-bad. I think part of the appeal with him isn't about his looks, really. It's the persona. It's the tough-as-nails attitude coupled by the fact that he has his softer moments here and there that kind of surprise you. Plus, most men look more attractive sitting on a motorcycle or shooting a crossbow. It's fact.

kwinkle1980

 

ccip82 said:

kwinkle1980 said:

I will preface my UO by saying that I nursed my son for 19 months, I am pro-breastfeeding and have zero issue with nursing in public. Okay...here goes. I think women who act superior for nursing are being very thoughtless to those who were unable to nurse for whatever reason. I understand completely the feeling of wanting to defend breastfeeding and being an advocate, but there are those who treat it almost like a religion and seem to go out of their way to make monthers using formula feel like crap. To me, that is not okay and not an affective way to advocate for your beliefs.

I agree with you as someone who too BF their child for 19 months, but I also think this could be applied to any type of parenting choice/belief. I dislike it when anytime a parent comes across this way

Absolutely agree! The nursing one just seems to bother me the most because it is so often used as a way to say "my kid is more attached to me/smarter/better" and it isn't necessarily a choice for everyone. If it was purely up to choice I don't think it would be so offensive, but shame on anyone who is rubbing nursing in the face of a woman who, for example, had a double mastectomy or something.

brideandbreve

ccip82 said:

kwinkle1980 said:

I will preface my UO by saying that I nursed my son for 19 months, I am pro-breastfeeding and have zero issue with nursing in public. Okay...here goes. I think women who act superior for nursing are being very thoughtless to those who were unable to nurse for whatever reason. I understand completely the feeling of wanting to defend breastfeeding and being an advocate, but there are those who treat it almost like a religion and seem to go out of their way to make monthers using formula feel like crap. To me, that is not okay and not an affective way to advocate for your beliefs.

I agree with you as someone who too BF their child for 19 months, but I also think this could be applied to any type of parenting choice/belief. I dislike it when anytime a parent comes across this way

This.

Whatever choice you make for your child is your business, but there is no need to stand up on a soap-box and shame another mother for making a decision different from yours.

On top of that, I feel like if you're the kind of mom who needs to take every opportunity to tell people about how long you are/have BF your child (like these women who harp on it constantly while judging others), it makes me think that you're really insecure about your decisions as a mother and you're looking for an audience to pat you on the back that you're doing/have done the right thing.

KristaBelieve

LuGal623 said:

My UO is that I cannot stand when people bring their cellphones everywhere with them in the office.  I have a few coworkers on my team who practically have their cells glued to their hands, in our meetings, in the bathroom, in the lunchroom, they carry it everywhere with them.  I think it's very unprofessional and if you need to carry it with you be discreet and put it in your pocket.

edit: typo

I disagree with this.  I always have my cell with me at work, in meetings, at my desk, etc. (not in the bathroom though, I agree with you on that!).  I can't even tell you how much I use it in meetings; I pull up old emails that are relevent in the discussion, respond to urgent emails that come up during the meeting that need my boss' response or action (we discuss how she should handle and I respond on behlaf of her), look up events on my calendar, schedule our next meeting based on what our calendars look like, use the calculator for budget issues, take a photo of a worksite if needed, etc.  I am not rude about it but I do have it sitting on the table (on silent). 

lolinshag

izenb1dm said:

Yeah, that did come off as sounding really spoiled. At least it's fitting for the unpopular opinions! :P

I will repeat that I never expected/asked my parents to buy us anything and I don't have anything against good used items. My problem is when the gifts are junky. Or, like on the cloth diapers, I want to buy new ones. That's just a want I have and we have been saving specifically for them for a while. I don't expect anyone else to buy them for me, but if I am specifically looking for new, don't gift with used. Don't gift with anything! If you really want to get something, get some cute onesies.

I don't agree with the things my siblings want for Christmas, but I understand that we are not the same and I try to get thing items that they would like, even if I think they are ridiculous.

This will continue to be unpopular, and I get that. 

My MIL loves loves LOVES to shop at Dirt Cheap, garage sales, Junk stores, consignment stores, etc. I do too. Hell I will get up at 5am on a Saturday if I know of a good garage sale happening! I am appreciative of anything she gets for us/DDs. The problem comes in when she gives us something that is complete trash. I love that she thought of me, but hate that she wasted her money on something I will never use/wear/whatever. 

Example: She sent me a pic message from a consignment sale she went to of some clothes for DD1 so I could choose what I wanted and just pay her back. I sent her back the ones I liked. I even said something about one of the items like "There is no way I would let Lily would wear that, haha". Guess what? Two weeks later DD1 got the outfit for her bday.

The "but they have money" part of your post was what was offensive to me. Compared to my MIL/FIL, DH & I and BIL & SIL are "rich" (we're not really, just make more than they do.) We constantly hear stuff like "why don't you buy ______ for so-n-so. You can afford it." 

jldubb0626

Since I "loved" @tootsscott UO, I'll elaborate why I liked it.

I don't see anything wrong with someone bringing their moms to their appointments. Teenagers or otherwise. My own mom comes to my appointments with me sometimes.

But, from things I've seen at my own OB, I agree with the idea that some teenagers really do need to just grow up. I've seen teenage girls with their moms in the waiting rooms and some, not all, are on their iPhones, not paying attention when the receptionist or nurse calls them because of said iPhone and seriously put off by the idea that they even have to be at the doctors office at all. I was waiting once to schedule my next appointment and a teenager with her mom was in front of me. Said teenager was talking to whoever on the phone, complaining about having to do her glucose test while her mother was trying to ask her when she'd like to schedule her next appointment. When the mom finally got the daughters attention, she responded with "Whenever is good for you. You know I don't want to come to these stupid appointments anyway."  In that case, I fully agree with toots in that mommy shouldn't have to hold your hand and you need to be "a big girl" and take care of this on your own. I'm grateful the future child has someone who cares enough (the grandma to be), but she really did need to grow up and take responsibility for herself.

twobluelines

SunflowersBride said:

sventurarn said:

I might get flamed but i think euthanasia should be legal. At least over a certain age. I see so many cases of people ready to die who have to live the rest of their lives slowly deteriorating and losing more and more of what "life" really means to them just because their bodies just keep on ticking, no matter how bad off they are.

100% agree.  And I will up the ante here and say I think it's a waste of resources to keep people alive in many circumstances when it is clear they will not be getting better.  I also think that after age 80 or so, people should stop being given cancer tests.  Cancer grows very slowly when you are elderly, and there is no point in anyone getting chemo or other treatment at that age. Yeah, flame away

The bolded part really bothers me. My mother is 51 (diagnosed at 44) and she will never get better. The only reason she is alive is because of her treatment. That is most certainly not a waste of resources.

thank you for saying this @bmreid I have been trying to ignore this part of the conversation all day because of the news we got about my father last night and the idea that someone will say categorically after a certain age he no longer even deserves testing or treatment seems cruel and heartless. While I support the right to choose euthanasia to end suffering it should completely be the choice of the patient. My father is 71 and his parents each lived alone without support in their home well into their 90's.

tootsscott

jldubb0626 said:

Since I "loved" @tootsscott UO, I'll elaborate why I liked it.

I don't see anything wrong with someone bringing their moms to their appointments. Teenagers or otherwise. My own mom comes to my appointments with me sometimes.

But, from things I've seen at my own OB, I agree with the idea that some teenagers really do need to just grow up. I've seen teenage girls with their moms in the waiting rooms and some, not all, are on their iPhones, not paying attention when the receptionist or nurse calls them because of said iPhone and seriously put off by the idea that they even have to be at the doctors office at all. I was waiting once to schedule my next appointment and a teenager with her mom was in front of me. Said teenager was talking to whoever on the phone, complaining about having to do her glucose test while her mother was trying to ask her when she'd like to schedule her next appointment. When the mom finally got the daughters attention, she responded with "Whenever is good for you. You know I don't want to come to these stupid appointments anyway."  In that case, I fully agree with toots in that mommy shouldn't have to hold your hand and you need to be "a big girl" and take care of this on your own. I'm grateful the future child has someone who cares enough (the grandma to be), but she really did need to grow up and take responsibility for herself.

Thanks. This is what I'm talking about. My example for this post was a girl this morning discussing how dumb her appointments are and then yelling at her mom to go outside and smoke before she got called!

Edit to include: I had to be at the hospital early on hardly any sleep, had belly u/s, internal u/s, glucose test, blood draw and pre-admit appointments. 6 hrs of everything that makes me uncomfortable, not to mention lacking patience because I'm pregnant!!

MrsGraham06

Ok, so about the cravings...I have to put my 2 cents in here...

I agree that not everyone experiences the "I NEED to have ______ NOW!!!! or someone will DIE" moments, but that they do happen. I had that with my other pregnancies, not as much with this one (as in, I can't think of anything at the moment that I have craved). This time I've had more aversions and I'm eating differently than I normally do- more nuts and beans, less sugar and beef. It's driving me bonkers!!!

COgirl29

KristaBelieve said:

LuGal623 said:

My UO is that I cannot stand when people bring their cellphones everywhere with them in the office.  I have a few coworkers on my team who practically have their cells glued to their hands, in our meetings, in the bathroom, in the lunchroom, they carry it everywhere with them.  I think it's very unprofessional and if you need to carry it with you be discreet and put it in your pocket.

edit: typo

I disagree with this.  I always have my cell with me at work, in meetings, at my desk, etc. (not in the bathroom though, I agree with you on that!).  I can't even tell you how much I use it in meetings; I pull up old emails that are relevent in the discussion, respond to urgent emails that come up during the meeting that need my boss' response or action (we discuss how she should handle and I respond on behlaf of her), look up events on my calendar, schedule our next meeting based on what our calendars look like, use the calculator for budget issues, take a photo of a worksite if needed, etc.  I am not rude about it but I do have it sitting on the table (on silent). 


I agree with @kristabelieve - I've been in sales most of my career and you better believe my cell phone was going EVERYWHERE with me. Why? Mr CEO can be incredibly difficult to get ahold of, and if he calls to close that account, I better be available to pick up!

buckeyebride22

Firefly9 said:

Bookshelves said:

I've totally considered taking my mom or MIL to my one-hour test and labs in a couple weeks. DH can't go. I have a history of fainting after blood work, so fasting + nasty drink + blood work seems like disaster. MIL came with me to my repeat-loss lab tests, too, because they drew so much blood. I'm 31. I'm still a big girl. (That said, we do behave in the waiting room.)

If my mom wasn't 2.5 hours away, I'd have her come to my follow up ultrasound tomorrow.  I know she'd really enjoy being there.  DH probably won't go, he's really busy at work, so it'd also be nice to have someone with me.


I've taken my mom with me to appts. Especially in the first tri. I'd prefer to not get bad news alone. Guess I'm not a big girl either.

Dishylo

BMReid said:

SunflowersBride said:

100% agree.  And I will up the ante here and say I think it's a waste of resources to keep people alive in many circumstances when it is clear they will not be getting better.  I also think that after age 80 or so, people should stop being given cancer tests.  Cancer grows very slowly when you are elderly, and there is no point in anyone getting chemo or other treatment at that age. Yeah, flame away

The bolded part really bothers me. My mother is 51 (diagnosed at 44) and she will never get better. The only reason she is alive is because of her treatment. That is most certainly not a waste of resources.

Wow, I either didn't see that post or read right over the bolded. 

I don't believe it's a waste of resources at all!  I think the waste of resources is if somebody wants to die but the system keeps them alive, basically against their will.  That is a waste of resources. 

If a person has a terminal illness and wants their life to end yet we keep them alive, on machines when they don't want that, somebody else could be in that bed with that equipment.  Somebody who wants to be there.  I believe people have the right to choose.  If somebody chooses to do what they can to stay alive, for whatever reason, that's what hospitals, hospices etc are for.

lolinshag

BMReid said: SunflowersBride said: sventurarn said: I might get flamed but i think euthanasia should be legal. At least over a certain age. I see so many cases of people ready to die who have to live the rest of their lives slowly deteriorating and losing more and more of what "life" really means to them just because their bodies just keep on ticking, no matter how bad off they are. 100% agree.  And I will up the ante here and say I think it's a waste of resources to keep people alive in many circumstances when it is clear they will not be getting better.  I also think that after age 80 or so, people should stop being given cancer tests.  Cancer grows very slowly when you are elderly, and there is no point in anyone getting chemo or other treatment at that age. Yeah, flame away The bolded part really bothers me. My mother is 51 (diagnosed at 44) and she will never get better. The only reason she is alive is because of her treatment. That is most certainly not a waste of resources.
The problem I have with euthanasia and the above bolded is WHO is going to make these decisions about YOUR life/health? Should some government flunky (to whom you are just a # and who is more worried about the bottom line) be able to say "Nope. Sorry. You can't get _______ because you are too old"? 

Also, if the elderly have to give up the freedom of choice medically, eventually that will start to trickle down to younger and younger groups(maybe not now, maybe not 10 years from now, but eventually it will happen, human nature and all). "Well, she is over 35 so since chances of birth defects go up, we will deny her IF treatments" or "This baby will never survive a year, so lets just let it die". Once you give a right up, it is hell to get it back.  (BTW: The last is what the doctors said about my Downs sister who lived till she was 8 with a great quality of life!)

MrsGraham06

@lolinshag said The problem I have with euthanasia and the above bolded is WHO is going to make these decisions about YOUR life/health? Should some government flunky (to whom you are just a # and who is more worried about the bottom line) be able to say "Nope. Sorry. You can't get _______ because you are too old"? Also, if the elderly have to give up the freedom of choice medically, eventually that will start to trickle down to younger and younger groups(maybe not now, maybe not 10 years from now, but eventually it will happen, human nature and all)

Not euthanasia, but other medical treatments, are already being denied to people. My dad at 57, an active farmer, is denied an MRI to see what's wrong with his knee. Other than a sore knee, and being 57, he doesn't have any other health issues, and he'd like to get it fixed. So does his doctor. Insurance approved it also.

I don't think people are seeing that this stuff is happening NOW, not in 10 years. To people who still may have a decade or 2 (or more) to "contribute to society".

daltosostarby

SunflowersBride said:

goldenB said:

peanutmuse said:

goldenB said:

I don't think cravings are a 'real' thing. I think it's just an excuse we pregnant ladies use to get our hands on some extra goodies

@goldenB, I haven't had any cravings at all this pregnancy. I don't discount any pregnancy symptoms because I can't comment on things I haven't experienced. But in my own personal experience, cravings just don't exist.

I guess I just keep waiting for that moment where I need <<insert delicious food here>>> and it hasn't happened. Sure, I am hungry (all the time), but I have never gone out of my way to get some type of food. 

Note: I love chocolate and chips this pregnancy. But I loved chocolate and chips pre-pregnancy. The difference is that now I feel like I can actually eat (more of it) because after all I am making life and that deserves a red velvet cupcake once in a while. 


I totally agree with all of this.  I keep seeing posts where people say something like they made dinner and then didn't want it so they went out and got something else or made something else. I guess it's one thing if whatever you made is making you sick (also not something I experienced) but if I took the time to make food, I'm going to eat it regardless of whether or not I really wanted a burger and fries from McDonalds.  It just seems really silly to me.

This. Lately I've been able to eat more, however, something that sounds great in my head, doesn't always smell good, making me feel sick again. However, when that happens, I generally don't go out to get something, I finish it for DH, or gave him finish it if I can't, and then eat soup, or rice for dinner. Boring, but it works.

daltosostarby

My UO for the day is that I despise any food that has nuts in it. I'm not allergic, I just think the dichotomy of crunchy hard nuts and say a soft brownie is disgusting.

lolinshag

MrsGraham06 said:

@lolinshag said The problem I have with euthanasia and the above bolded is WHO is going
to make these decisions about YOUR life/health? Should some government
flunky (to whom you are just a # and who is more worried about the
bottom line) be able to say "Nope. Sorry. You can't get _______ because
you are too old"? Also, if the elderly have to give up the freedom of choice medically,
eventually that will start to trickle down to younger and younger
groups(maybe not now, maybe not 10 years from now, but eventually it
will happen, human nature and all)

Not euthanasia, but other medical treatments, are already being denied to people. My dad at 57, an active farmer, is denied an MRI to see what's wrong with his knee. Other than a sore knee, and being 57, he doesn't have any other health issues, and he'd like to get it fixed. So does his doctor. Insurance approved it also.

I don't think people are seeing that this stuff is happening NOW, not in 10 years. To people who still may have a decade or 2 (or more) to "contribute to society".

Wow that totally sucks for your dad! It sucks that this is happening now. And I am so afraid it will only get worse as the years go by.

wedbliss5

Here's my UO for today:  I'm really over the need to tip everyone for everything!  I find it irritating at the airport when the bus drivers refuse to let you handle your own luggage and then expect a tip, or that Starbucks has a tip jar in the drive-thru, or that a pizza deliver guy once asked me for MORE money when we had already pre-tipped on the credit card.  What happen to tipping being reserved for great service?  You didn't come to my table for a good 10-15 minutes, I ran out of water 3 times, you brought my DD's food out LAST, and then you never came back to check if everythign was ok, and now I'm suppose to tip you?  Here's a tip, bitch - get off your fucking cell phone and do your job!  

Wow... that felt great!

ashleywiz

Dishylo said:

....chop chop

If a person has a terminal illness and wants their life to end yet we keep them alive, on machines when they don't want that, somebody else could be in that bed with that equipment.  Somebody who wants to be there.  I believe people have the right to choose.  If somebody chooses to do what they can to stay alive, for whatever reason, that's what hospitals, hospices etc are for.

I absolutely believe people should have the right to choose their own fate in those cases, not the family. Especially if on true life support. I went to a bioethics conference and one of the speakers talked about this specifically and it is very interesting what the laws (and lack thereof) are out there. It's a super sticky spot for healthcare providers because they are supposed to save life, not "let" it end, no matter if they know the quality of life isn't going to improve, etc.  

Maybe my UO is I hardly ever have a real UO. I'm lame. 

SunflowersBride

My "waste of resources" comment is referring to the fact that we spend an exorbitant amount of money keeping people alive when hope is futile.  Now, if you have cancer or a disease that is more chronic, and death isn't exactly imminent, that's one thing.  And I also think it's different when someone is 50 versus being 80.  It's obviously a personal viewpoint, but if I were very sick and wasn't going to get better, I would prefer to stop treatment and enjoy the time I had left.  I also think doctors are uncomfortable being truthful to patients about their actual prognosis, and allow for families to believe a miracle could happen so they continue on with treatment.  

But I think about people who are in persistent vegetative states, and who have family members that are SO SURE they are going to wake up one day and be perfectly fine.  To me, that's a waste of resources to keep someone like that alive.  I also think routine screenings for the elderly are a waste (pap smears, mammograms, etc.)  I didn't mean to imply I didn't think the elderly should be tested for cancer, just that there isn't a need to routinely screen.

I also think hospice is such a wonderful program, and is sorely underused, mainly because patients/families don't want to feel as though they have "given up".

Anyway, obviously my feelings are a UO.  I'm not trying to insult anyone here and obviously going through this situation is awful, and I'm sorry to those dealing with it.

daltosostarby

wedbliss5 said:

Here's my UO for today:  I'm really over the need to tip everyone for everything!  I find it irritating at the airport when the bus drivers refuse to let you handle your own luggage and then expect a tip, or that Starbucks has a tip jar in the drive-thru, or that a pizza deliver guy once asked me for MORE money when we had already pre-tipped on the credit card.  What happen to tipping being reserved for great service?  You didn't come to my table for a good 10-15 minutes, I ran out of water 3 times, you brought my DD's food out LAST, and then you never came back to check if everythign was ok, and now I'm suppose to tip you?  Here's a tip, bitch - get off your fucking cell phone and do your job!  

Wow... that felt great!

I understand this I a point, but I work at Starbucks, and our pay SUCKS for the most part. Tips are what I try to use to pay for gas to and from work so I don't have to dip into my paycheck that often. I try to always give great service, but it seems that most people don't feel they should tip for good service. It's kind of disheartening. I would look for a new job, but I NEED the insurance since I'm pregnant.

Rebis58

sventurarn said:

I might get flamed but i think euthanasia should be legal. At least over a certain age. I see so many cases of people ready to die who have to live the rest of their lives slowly deteriorating and losing more and more of what "life" really means to them just because their bodies just keep on ticking, no matter how bad off they are.

I agree completely. I work in home care nursing and a big part of my job is palliative care, so I have seen some slow, drawn out, painful deaths where the person does not feel they have dignity or control towards the end. We try our best to provide dignity, comfort, symptom control, etc. but it's not always possible to fully relieve suffering. I've had some clients and family members wish that the person could take a larger dose of morphine and drift away peacefully, and I can understand why they would want their lives to end that way when they are suffering and they know the end is coming and may be very painful or uncomfortable for whatever reason.

wedbliss5

@daltoso - I guess I see Starbucks like most any other drive-thru place, and I definitely DON'T feel guilty about not tipping the person at the McDonalds/Wendys/Burger King/etc drive thru. 

daltosostarby

wedbliss5 said:

@daltoso - I guess I see Starbucks like most any other drive-thru place, and I definitely DON'T feel guilty about not tipping the person at the McDonalds/Wendys/Burger King/etc drive thru. 

I get that, I think I'm more annoyed with people who actually come in the store, ask for 80 bajillion things, treat me like crap, and then can't even tip me for the service I give them with a smile. It gets really wearing when you feel as if most people look at you as slave labor for them to treat like crap.

csandroo

Starbucks drive thru deserves a tip jar. Get to work before 5am ... crazy busy with people who are crabby cause they obviously "hadn't had their coffee yet" .. The drive thru is the hardest part working there! I would get through the morning rush (which lasts several hours) covered in milk/syrup/coffee-you burn yourself- can barely hear people through the headset- it is freezing in winter- people don't pull up close enough ... I used to have to get steroid shots in my thumb from the repetitive motion. so much hard work goes into your little cup of coffee ... I don't think its weird to tip baristas at all. Asking got a tip like the pizza guy is a bit tacky - but I always tip well at cafés - bars - restaraunts- salons etc.

AprlShwrs18

kwinkle1980 said:

I will preface my UO by saying that I nursed my son for 19 months, I am pro-breastfeeding and have zero issue with nursing in public. Okay...here goes. I think women who act superior for nursing are being very thoughtless to those who were unable to nurse for whatever reason. I understand completely the feeling of wanting to defend breastfeeding and being an advocate, but there are those who treat it almost like a religion and seem to go out of their way to make monthers using formula feel like crap. To me, that is not okay and not an affective way to advocate for your beliefs.

This makes me think of a woman I used to know who was almost like a warrior about it.  I nursed my son for 13 months, and NIP with a cover.  I met her at my nursing mom's support group.  She would NIP and just let her boob hang out for everyone to see.  I haven't seen her in a year and I can still picture it.  I feel like in her act of being so obviously nursing and displaying her breast so obviously while her son grazed, she was making it hard for other women who were trying to NIP but not make a big deal out of it.  I don't know it I've expressed myself right. 

LuGal623

@KristaBelieve and @COgirl29 I do not work in a field or office where it would ever remotely necessitate bringing your cellphone with you yet I have two coworkers who carry it around like it is their life support.  One who refuses to turn off the sound the other who doesn't even look at it yet has to have it on the table at our meetings.  So in my office it will forever be unprofessional as far as I'm concerned.

COgirl29

LuGal623 said:

@KristaBelieve and @COgirl29 I do not work in a field or office where it would ever remotely necessitate bringing your cellphone with you yet I have two coworkers who carry it around like it is their life support.  One who refuses to turn off the sound the other who doesn't even look at it yet has to have it on the table at our meetings.  So in my office it will forever be unprofessional as far as I'm concerned.

Makes sense!

MrsGraham06

About tipping and servers doing their job: DH and I never go to Applebees anymore, since there are 3 that we've been to, with horrible service. 2 of them didn't cook DH's burger through and one of those the fries should have been left in longer. Another one, we were taken to a table and given menus, we looked at it for a couple minutes but already knew what we wanted, and after 10 minutes no one had come to even ask what we wanted to drink. When we left, the girls were standing at the front doing their make-up and flirting with the guys. 5 employees just standing around flirting, and few customers, and they couldn't come see us once in 10 minutes! (can you tell I'm still PO'd about it??? and it's been like 5 years!!!!)

Yes, I was a waitress. I expected tips to be based on the service I provided. The best one was someone left about $4 worth in quarters, and had them arranged as a smiley face

wedbliss5

@carisue143 - I'm not saying the job isn't sucky (and the fact the morning Starbucks crew is way too happy at 6am always impresses me), but other drive thrus are the same and deal with the same unclassy patrons.  I just don't see why Starbucks people need the tips when McDonalds doesn't, does that make sense? 

Winnieella

I'm commenting now and then will finish reading these. 

1. To the poster who posted about Moms being there, I just wen through a scare and spent time in the L and D part of the hospital. My wonderful husband wasn't able to be there, so my mom was there for me. If if didn't have someone there for me, I don't know what I would have done. 

2. I don't like facial hair..it scratches me and leaves a rash. 

3. I hate cheap toilet paper, I also hate cheap tissues and napkins. 

and my UO is I'm not a fan of surprise parties. 

ashleywiz

BMReid said:

@blondie7385 Haha! I'm one of those freak smilers! I will catch myself just'a smiling as I drive and walk. I've also been told I smile when I write. But I've never told someone else to smile.

I'm a weirdo smiler, too. Perma-happy-face, essentially. I wouldn't ever tell anyone to smile, though--that's just weird. 

casholmes

jldubb0626 said:

benjaminsmommy16 said:

I don't get why anyone thinks Norman Reedus is hot. I mean, he isn't the ugliest person alive or anything but I just don't think he is that good looking.

Whhhaaa?? REALLY? I totally fell in love with him the first time I watched Boondock Saints. Which is my favorite movie, BTW. He's even better in The Walking Dead. I'd follow Daryl Dixon into the gates of hell as long as I could ride on the back of the motorcycle and carry his bows. :P

100% agree!! 

My UO is I hate when some girls use pregnancy as an excuse not to do anything at work. Right now (just on my shift) there are 6 pregnant girls. Two of them claim they can't do anything harder than wiping the counter (no dr's note) and one just leans against the counter and says that she's so hormonal that she 'can't deal with people' or 'i'll go home'. I had to tell her one day to just clock out and leave, because we weren't paying her to stand around. 

EDIT: About the tipping. I try to tip well whenever I'm somewhere that tipping is expected, but I don't think I'd tip in a Starbucks drive-thru (the closest one to me doesn't even have one). That said, I do tip when I go inside. Not sure why it feels different but it just does. I spend the majority of my work day working a drive-thru, and no one would think for a second about tipping me! (McDonald's). Not that we'd be allowed to accept it anyway. 

Rebis58

jldubb0626 said:

benjaminsmommy16 said:

I don't get why anyone thinks Norman Reedus is hot. I mean, he isn't the ugliest person alive or anything but I just don't think he is that good looking.

Whhhaaa?? REALLY? I totally fell in love with him the first time I watched Boondock Saints. Which is my favorite movie, BTW. He's even better in The Walking Dead. I'd follow Daryl Dixon into the gates of hell as long as I could ride on the back of the motorcycle and carry his bows. :P

Agreed! I think it's his attitude that makes him hotter. Love him.

notthecheat

MrsGraham06 said:

@lolinshag said The problem I have with euthanasia and the above bolded is WHO is going
to make these decisions about YOUR life/health? Should some government
flunky (to whom you are just a # and who is more worried about the
bottom line) be able to say "Nope. Sorry. You can't get _______ because
you are too old"? Also, if the elderly have to give up the freedom of choice medically,
eventually that will start to trickle down to younger and younger
groups(maybe not now, maybe not 10 years from now, but eventually it
will happen, human nature and all)

Not euthanasia, but other medical treatments, are already being denied to people. My dad at 57, an active farmer, is denied an MRI to see what's wrong with his knee. Other than a sore knee, and being 57, he doesn't have any other health issues, and he'd like to get it fixed. So does his doctor. Insurance approved it also.

I don't think people are seeing that this stuff is happening NOW, not in 10 years. To people who still may have a decade or 2 (or more) to "contribute to society".

Only on page 6, but want to clarify my own opinion. Im not talking about denying anyone anything except I think its wrong to deny people the right to die peacefully and quickly if that's what they choose. I don't think they should suffer just because they are incapable of ending their own life and it is illegal for anyone else to assist them. I feel like it is cruel that people are forced to keep living in such situations, and it is a waste of resources for someone who no longer wants to live and is ready to go.

notthecheat

SunflowersBride said:

My "waste of resources" comment is referring to the fact that we spend an exorbitant amount of money keeping people alive when hope is futile.  Now, if you have cancer or a disease that is more chronic, and death isn't exactly imminent, that's one thing.  And I also think it's different when someone is 50 versus being 80.  It's obviously a personal viewpoint, but if I were very sick and wasn't going to get better, I would prefer to stop treatment and enjoy the time I had left.  I also think doctors are uncomfortable being truthful to patients about their actual prognosis, and allow for families to believe a miracle could happen so they continue on with treatment.  

But I think about people who are in persistent vegetative states, and who have family members that are SO SURE they are going to wake up one day and be perfectly fine.  To me, that's a waste of resources to keep someone like that alive.  I also think routine screenings for the elderly are a waste (pap smears, mammograms, etc.)  I didn't mean to imply I didn't think the elderly should be tested for cancer, just that there isn't a need to routinely screen.

I also think hospice is such a wonderful program, and is sorely underused, mainly because patients/families don't want to feel as though they have "given up".

Anyway, obviously my feelings are a UO.  I'm not trying to insult anyone here and obviously going through this situation is awful, and I'm sorry to those dealing with it.

This. Thank you.

notthecheat

Re: tipping. I think we should not be "expected" to tip anywhere. Employees should be paid appropriately by their employer, like everyone else. Yes, I understand this will drive costs of services up, but I'm OK with that if it means the employees don't have to rely on regular tipping to live. There are assholes all the time who under tip or don't tip at all even for exceptional service and it drives me crazy. They shouldnt get to save their money just because its not illegal to not tip good service, even though its expected and employees depend on it.

apickett925

MrsGraham06 said:

@lolinshag said The problem I have with euthanasia and the above bolded is WHO is going to make these decisions about YOUR life/health? Should some government flunky (to whom you are just a # and who is more worried about the bottom line) be able to say "Nope. Sorry. You can't get _______ because you are too old"? Also, if the elderly have to give up the freedom of choice medically, eventually that will start to trickle down to younger and younger groups(maybe not now, maybe not 10 years from now, but eventually it will happen, human nature and all)

Not euthanasia, but other medical treatments, are already being denied to people. My dad at 57, an active farmer, is denied an MRI to see what's wrong with his knee. Other than a sore knee, and being 57, he doesn't have any other health issues, and he'd like to get it fixed. So does his doctor. Insurance approved it also.

I don't think people are seeing that this stuff is happening NOW, not in 10 years. To people who still may have a decade or 2 (or more) to "contribute to society".

My dad is turning 60 in a month and had a knee replaced last summer.  He had no issues getting MRIs, PT or anything deemed customary or necessary by his Dr or Insurance, but he does have very comprehensive insurance.