capture your grief day 9

lrichmond86

Day 9. Music: This might be hard to capture in a photograph so why not post a youtube clip of a piece of music that reminds your of your baby/ies/child/ren. Why this piece of music?

lrichmond86

The song that reminds me of baby Gary is "Over You" by Miranda Lambert. The whole first verse correlates so closely to our loss it's scary. "Weatherman says it's gonna snow. By now I should be used to the cold. Mid February shouldn't be so scary. It was only December, I still remember the presents, the tree, you and me. " Baby Gary was born in due February 18 th and born December 14 th. The week before I went into the hospital we were putting up our Christmas tree and wrapping presents and looking forward to our first Christmas as a family. Then the refrain, "they say II'll be ok but I'm not going to ever get over you". This line always makes me cry. It could only come from someone who really understands what grief is. Dh have me tickets to a Miranda Lambert concert for my birthday the summer after we our son passed. When she played that song we both just held each other and cried for our little boy.

Noethola

@lrichmond86 I cried when you mentioned being at the concert. Its a simple sentence, but I can literally feel the grief you must have felt at that moment. Perhaps its just an emotional day, but music has a way of bringing out more emotions than a lot of other things.

***Siggy warning***

For me, its JJ Heller's Your Hands. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4l3CEMWCxSk

I played this song on repeat after we lost Elsie. My sister sent it to me. So I felt closer to her, closer to Elsie and just kept telling myself there was hope and peace out there somewhere. We played it at her memorial service and it became a piece of artwork on our wall (I made a sign using the phrases.) It kinda became my mantra as we have been going through this journey of love, loss, and expecting once again. 

shandorfml2

Here is mine...youtube wiveo with lyrics. Thursday- "Voices on a String"
I have a lot of songs that make me sad, but this one makes me happy.

https://youtu.be/Wr0MgzFw9oQ

BrittianyM

Day 9. Music:

One song that reminds me of Brooke is "Carrying your love with me" by George Strait. I know she is carrying my love with her in heaven and I am carrying her love with me everyday.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jG3pK3orGpk

schulme2

This song gives me a little peace and really every word is what I would want to say to Mary... L
https://youtu.be/-rMp_hbWh4Q

Also... I used to sing this to her when she was still in my belly. I also used some of the lyrics on the memorial cards I made for her funeral "when the day is grey and ordinary, Mary makes the sun shine bright". https://youtu.be/p5D_6yjr2qc

TwinkleTor

Day 9. Music: This might be hard to capture in a photograph so why not post a youtube clip of a piece of music that reminds your of your baby/ies/child/ren. Why this piece of music?

Talking to the Moon by Bruno Mars

I love the stars and when we got home from the hospital we received in the mail a certificate of a purchased star named Domenik Rey. After I got that I started looking up at the stars and moon when I wanted to talk to Domenik.

LYRICS:
I know you're somewhere out there
Somewhere far away
I want you back
I want you back
My neighbors think I'm crazy
But they don't understand
You're all I had
You're all I had

[Chorus:]
At night when the stars light up my room
I sit by myself talking to the moon.
Trying to get to you
In hopes you're on the other side talking to me too.
Or am I a fool who sits alone talking to the moon?

Ohoooo...

I'm feeling like I'm famous
The talk of the town
They say I've gone mad
Yeah, I've gone mad
But they don't know what I know
Cause when the sun goes down
Someone's talking back
Yeah, they're talking back
Ohhh

[Chorus:]
At night when the stars light up my room
I sit by myself talking to the moon.
Trying to get to you
In hopes you're on the other side talking to me too.
Or am I a fool who sits alone talking to the moon?

Ahh... Ahh... Ahh...
Do you ever hear me calling?
(Ahh... Ahh... Ahh...)
Oh ohh oh oh ohhh
'Cause every night I'm talking to the moon

Still trying to get to you
In hopes you're on the other side talking to me too
Or am I a fool who sits alone talking to the moon?

Ohoooo...

I know you're somewhere out there
Somewhere far away

Auki13

The song- If I Die Young by The Band Perry really hits me hard when I hear it.  The quote I have in my picture is,
"Lord make me 

a rainbow

I'll shine down on my mother

She'll know I'm safe

with you when

she stands under

my colors..."

princezjk

Day 9 - Music #captureyourgrief https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=YXuB6md9zPk When I held my Izzie for the first time and I stared at her adorable little face, this song kept playing in my mind. It's not a song I am particularly familiar with, so I wasn't sure why it kept coming to me. I have come to believe that my Izzie sends me songs. I know it may sound crazy, but it has happened a few times. I think she sent me this song they day she was born sleeping to try and comfort me. So, this will forever be Izzie's song.

schulme2

Thank you all for posting. All of these songs have made me very emotional today! I think music is so powerful in conveying our feelings.

Dixon813

As a musician (high school choir director and director of music at church) my life is surrounded with music. There are many songs that make me think of Leah, Rachel and Gabriel (or that make me think of how much I'm hurting) but the one that is the most powerful is "Lullaby (Goodnight, My Angel)" by Billy Joel. 

After they died, Andy shared with me how he had songs running through his head for each of them.  (I hope he doesn't mind me sharing). Leah's song is "Lullaby" Rachel's song is "Homesick" by MercyMe and Gabriel's song is "Joseph's Lullaby" also by MercyMe. When we saw them, together for the first and last time, Andy sang a verse of "Lullaby" to them. That will always be the song I hear when I think of them. And they will always be my first thoughts when I hear that song. 

Someday we'll all be gone, but lullabies go on an on.  They never die, that's how you and I will be. 

shandorfml2

Auki13 said:

The song- If I Die Young by The Band Perry really hits me hard when I hear it.  The quote I have in my picture is,
"Lord make me 

a rainbow

I'll shine down on my mother

She'll know I'm safe

with you when

she stands under

my colors..."

This hits me really hard to, came out when I was pregnant. I cannot listen to it anymore

Auki13

mrsgerman said:

The song- If I Die Young by The Band Perry really hits me hard when I hear it.  The quote I have in my picture is,
"Lord make me 

a rainbow

I'll shine down on my mother

She'll know I'm safe

with you when

she stands under

my colors..."

wow I've heard this song so many times but never had that one lyric stand out to me until now

 Yeah and it actually continues...
Life ain't always what you think it ought to be, no Ain't even grey and she buries her baby. 

I bawl every time I hear this song.

neptunebljc

There are so many great songs on here.

Day 6: Music

I love music. I find driving and singing at the top of my lungs so helpful and so calming. This is my go to song though. I love all of Brandi Carlile's music. It just has so much soul in it.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8AV5TRO1BqU

mingaling2

I've been listening to Sun Kil Moon a lot lately.  

"Gentle Moon" is on repeat: https://youtu.be/adit8UcLIb4

These lyrics really speak to my heart:

All calendars pass, days die off 
And hope cannot last 
But if love was like stone, then yours was mine 
Through to my bones 
But how can we give back to those 
With whom we can't live 
When will the flame break 
And spare the good people it takes 
Gentle moon, find us soon.