Toddler Discipline Help

Emilinha

Good Morning!

I'm sure this question has been asked a billion times on here, but I'll ask it again

Does anyone have any recommendations for any good books on toddler discipline? Or any advice from what you've done?

I have a 17-month old girl who is hitting the kids in her daycare, acting out with screaming fits, etc, and I'm not sure which direction to go. I've heard time-outs work as early as 18 months, but then I've also read that they aren't appropriate until 3 years old....ugh! I'm having a hard time with just redirection, since sometimes when I try to redirect her she writhes out of my hands and has a screaming fit. 

Thanks for any feedback  you have!

EMOmamma

Her tantrums are totally normal, so yes I would look into "discipline" but not punishment - if that makes sense.  

Your best bet would be to go to the library and get a few different ones to see what fits you and your LO's personality best.  Some to check out are Happiest Toddler, 123 Magic, etc.  I can't even remember them all, I read so many when we were having trouble with my DS biting (he was 20 months).  I ended up just taking bits and pieces from a lot of different books.

I will say that time-outs do work for us.  We call them "breaks" and use them more to head off problems than as punishment.  At 18months I would just set them down and count to 10 (or sing ABCs or something calming/distracting) then say"we don't hit, are you ready to play nice?  Only use gentle touches" (and show them a soft touch on the arm and encourage them to copy you)

artichoken

I use the parenting with love and logic book.

Aisham28

I read baby whisperer for toddlers and it helped some. I got my basic game plan from that and went with my own stuff. It helps. She has specific instances in what to do for like biting and hitting too.

reb84

For tanturms and fits, I ignore her.  If she's throwing herself on an uncarpeted surface, I will cusion her head throw back, but otherwise I wait for her to finish.  When she does a short time later we discuss (as much as you can with a 16 month old) what behaviors are acceptable or why she couldn't have or do whatever she wanted which brought on the tantrum.  I use breaks or redirection when she's being naughty, but when she's naughty at home it's really because she wants my attention and so then I redirect her by playing with her and her toys.  FB or the bump can wait. 

zbeesma86

Like others say- when throwing a tantrum I make sure she's safe but other than that I ignore it. Wait until she's done and let her come to me.

We do time outs- but consistently! I usually try to redirect FIRST then if she does it again she has to sit on the step. No toys. No TV.

She's been big into pulling hair. So she's redirected once then step every time after that.

You  just need to find something that works for you- my neighbor uses her PNP for timeout. Her daughter HATES it and she can usually say, "if you don't stop you will go in timeout." she usually stops.

bridein08

1,2,3 magic was our miracle cure on the tantrums. It was really a great book and DS had it down within three days. Now when we count, he starts to listen immediately. So wonderful and easy!