I previously visited this board often when my oldest son (now 7) was diagnosed with Apraxia. I haven't been on in awhile because things have been going well but I was hoping you ladies could give me your thoughts on a situation with my middle child.
Background: Brandon attended a pre k program 5 days per week for 3 hours per day last year. While the school reported he was doing very well it became clear towards the end of the year he pretty much flew under the radar because he was a good and generally quiet child. The teachers even told us at his first conference that they barely heard him speak in class (he is very shy in groups but with kids he knows he is not quiet at all!). At the end of the year he couldn't write his name without being told the letters and could not identify most letters. When we registered him for Kindergarten (in June) they recommended he attend a full day kindergarten program instead of the standard half day. At that time we declined the option because it was at a different school (same district) then my oldest child attended and because we had many questions about the program that went unanswered (that school did not return my calls to discuss the program...essentially all I received was a letter in the mail).
Fast forward to today...we focused a lot on Brandon over the summer and got him to the point he can write his first and last name without being told the letters. He can identify 21 out of 26 capital letters, can identify 17 out of 26 lower case letters and can identify 20 out of 26 sounds that letters make (I tested him on this last night). Our school gave him the DIBELS test sometime in the last 2 weeks and according to the school he scored very very low. They reported he does not participate in class and seems to just go from area to area because that is what the group does. We have a conference scheduled for Wednesday with the teacher and the principal which I believe is to discuss possibly transfering him to the full day intensive kindergarten program.
My concerns: This is a different school from the one he is attending although it is still in our school district. This requires him to ride a different bus (they send a small individual bus out for these students). He currently attends the same school and rides the same bus as his older brother and all the kids in our neighborhood. I'm concerned how this will make him feel...getting on a special bus going to a special school, etc...Obviously it's all how we present it to him but I'm struggling with how this will impact his self esteem. I had trouble getting that school to return any of my phone calls when this was initially suggested...will this continue to be the case? The size of the school is significantly larger. Our school has 4 half day kindergarten classes and 2 first grade classes. This school has 12 half day kindergarten classes, 2 all day kindergarten classes and 13 first grade classes.
FYI: the school asked permission to evaluate him for speech services (we had him evaluated at 3 and he passed but they said they are noticing some difficulties which I can see). We signed the permission for evaluation form on 10/2 so while he does not have an IEP yet I believe he will in the next month. Does that have any impact on this proposed transition?
Sorry this was so long! Any advice you could give would be greatly appreciated. I'm trying to keep my emotions out of this decision but it's difficult.
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