Single Parents

a little venting, maybe looking for some support/advice-

So I havent posted in a while, some might be familiar with my situation

Basically I left BD before I knew I was pregnant, when I found & told him, he ran/disappeared. 
(knocking up another poor girl 2 months after creating my child)

Anyways, he hasn't been involved at all, he's never met his son, he's not once tried to contact me, The only contact I've had with him is when I was pregnant, he told me "its not mine, I'm not physically able to have kids, If you file for CS I'm going to request a DNA test and Laugh in your face when it comes back negative, and you have to pay for it" 

Well, the DNA confirmed to him that he is in fact the father, he cooperated with child support enforcement up until just now.. 
We had a scheduled mediation for child support last week and he didn't show up. He also blocked the phone number of our case worker, she tried calling him from her office and got a recording saying "this subscriber is no longer taking calls from this number"
So now we have to actually go to court. I just have to wait for them to send me a court date, which she said would be in 4-6 months (really?!) AND they will have to pay a process server to serve him the paper court documents telling him to go to court. 
It just sucks.. the jackass participated to 'prove me wrong' then he's proven wrong and disappears again.. 

Is it wrong of me to kind of hope he doesn't show? Because he's already abandoned his son by state law, he has no rights at all... If he doesn't show, I'm thinking the judge will most likely rule in my favor, Do you ladies think its wrong to ask for back pay? I wasn't going to but now he's delayed this and it'll be going on for over a year once we finally get a court date... I think my son deserves back pay... I'm a single mom, working, and full time college student... Day care prices are breaking me! At least give me enough for day care.. jackass... 

Anyways.. anyone been through this.. ? what type of outcomes did you have.. ? 
I used the online state calculation tool that they have on our child support enforcement page... and plugged us in as both minimum wage, and added my daycare expenses... Its saying his monetary obligation is going to be around $500, that sounds high to me.. I wasn't expecting that much.. Is that a normal amount ? 

thanks ladies! 

Re: a little venting, maybe looking for some support/advice-

  • I can't offer advice, since my BD has yet to reappear. I was told that once a court order is established, they will go back to the date the case was initially filed and he will owe back support. But he hasn't even been served the paperwork for his finances yet, since he's on the road and they can't find him. I'll probably never see a singly penny from the worthless piece of garbage. But GL to you. Sorry your BD is such a jackass.
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  • I'd say yes, go for back child support if you're going for support. I want to live in your state. I guess technically my state considers it abandonment after 6 months but all a BD has to do is prove he called, email, text, send a letter to mom and that's negated and it really doesn't do me any good that GD has abandon LO because as long as I'm single it doesn't help me at all. Good luck. It's such a frustrating and angry feeling watching someone ignore the well being of the LO you love so much.
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