I've got a lot of these!
The upside to having a kid who is a rule-follower is that I never had to child proof anything. Yesterday DS picked up my sewing scissors and carefully laid them on the counter and admonished me not to leave them lying around where the kitties could get hurt. He also is not a bookcase scaler, treat stealer, or biter/hitter. When we tell him he can watch one cartoon before bed, he'll obediently bring the Ipad out to us when his cartoon is done and say good night. When he was younger we would put him in his crib and say "close your eyes and go to sleep" and I swear, he'd close his eyes and we wouldn't hear a peep from him all night.
The upside to DS not interested in pretend play is that I still get to pick his Halloween costume for him. I'm sewing him an Angry Birds costume.
The upside to low-tone, always tired, is that he will always go to bed early, sleep in when we want him to, and nap when we want him to (or when WE need a nap!)
Rachel Sonnier said:
The upside to having delayed fine motor skills is that my son never did many of the things as a toddler that most parents complain about. He never unbuckled himself from his car seat, he never unhooked the cabinet latches, he never took off his diaper, he never undressed himself, he never opened the door and wandered outside, he never played in my makeup, he never tried to play with knives, he never tried to stick anything in the electrical outlets.
nomadica said:I'm in a bit of a dark place so it's hard for me to find upsides right now. But one thing I can say is that my son's autism has certainly made me a better professional (I'm a neuropsychologist). Not only do I know WAY more about autism than I ever wish I did, but I can relate to the parents of the children I see with special needs in a much more real way.
I'm in a bit of a dark place so it's hard for me to find upsides right now. But one thing I can say is that my son's autism has certainly made me a better professional (I'm a neuropsychologist). Not only do I know WAY more about autism than I ever wish I did, but I can relate to the parents of the children I see with special needs in a much more real way.
The upside to DS needing an advocate is I've started growing a spine. My level for tolerating BS has dropped dramatically and my people pleasing tendencies...... With friends and family I've just stopped putting in the effort with those who don't return it. And I don't feel bad about it.
This completely. It's team DD or get out, I finally understand where my parents' priorities were/are and can keep DD away from that no matter what it takes.
Also, finding out it is in the genetic tree - my brother's daughter is SPD and my sister's son is behavioral/anxiety (ADHD I think, no one talks dx) - so even if we don't all talk about it, we all know our parents don't accept it and that we are not alone in the holidays.
Upside to many appointments - not feeling bad for "spoiling" here and there. I have also learned to hang on to gift cards for months at a time now...for the both of us
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The upside to ds2 having down syndrome is that I have met many new people in the last year and courtesy of our "Mom's night outs" I actually have some semblance of a social life.
The upside of ds1 having aspergers: the supper table conversation is anything but boring. Dh is getting through to ds1 that sources are a very important part of a debate and so they can get some very interesting debates going. Plus, ds1 and dh love to try to out-pun each other. Words are toys around our table.