When to tell?

artichoken

I want to wait to tell my older children and the father about it being twins until I know for sure that baby b will stick. Do you think I should do it at the next appointment if baby b is bigger? Or wait until im a little more out of the woods??

ETA: Currently my children are the only one's who do not know I am pregnant. 

kellibelle0417

Everyone is different, but in my opinion the father should know. No advice on when to tell your older kids. I'm a FTM. However, we did tell our immediate family including nieces and nephews as soon as we found out it was twins. Congrats and sending good thoughts your way!

Paradisemoon

My DH would be really disappointed if he found out I knew it was twins from the beginning and waited WEEKS to tell him. Although, I'm not privy to your relationship to the father of your new babies so I can't really advise you on that. And what is the maturity level of your oldest son? He's 8 or 9. Imagine his shock if someone lets it slip your PG and you weren't the one to tell him. Yikes.
Good luck!

TheDairyQueenx3

I'm not much help because my husband is always at every appointment and ultrasound so he saw the screen before I did. But that isn't something I would keep from him. Everyone's situation is different but just because the one may not make it it's still his child and he should be aware of him/her and say B doesn't make it a loss is still a loss reguardless of another being in there and I personally wouldn't want to go through that alone. Telling family and friends even children is a different story that can wait but thy father should of known by this point in my opinion. Like I said I know everyone has specific reasons for doing things their way and really only you will know when it is right. Just go with what you feel is right for him and you. It is a lot to take in so I wouldn't wait too long.

zazu13

I agree that the father should know. As for your kids, I think I might hold off a few weeks to tell them about it being twins but you could let them know you're pregnant (at least the older one). Good luck!

artichoken

the reason I haven't told my kids is because they will blab to the fathers side of the family. they don't like me much as it is and always badger nee for abortions with my other children and once they find out we're spitting AND I'm pregnant...shit will hit the fan and with baby b possibly not sticking I just wanted a few weeks of stress free for baby b to thrive.

that's probably why I didn't tell the dad either