New and confused...

linds2417

Hey everyone! I found out Wednesday that I'm carrying twins! two sacs 7w2d today! Both had hearbeats at around 120.. Everything since then has been a blur... and im afraid and feel guilty for saying this that im not feeling excited... I'm not quite sure whats happening. I'm thinking that this pregnancy is going to be horribly difficult and scary and that I might die or they might die or one of them could die. I want to be excited and happy but I'm not there yet... I feel weird talking about having twins to other people in my family who are way more excited then I am. Is this normal? Has anyone else experienced this? 

PinkinProvence

What you are feeling is 2000% normal.  I posted an almost identical post at 6w6d when I found out I was carrying twins and received encouraging words and amazing support - That was more than 20 weeks ago!  You just need time to process.

I was so overwhelmed, scared and not too excited.  DH felt the same way.  Our families and friends thought it was the most exciting news ever - that made me feel guilty!

Stick around and you will find a lot of kindred spirits here.  For what it's worth, I am over the moon now and realize this was my fate and reality.  It will be hard, but it will be worth it.  There are still lots of scary and overwhelming moments (pregnancy and baby-wise) but with each passing day and week, it becomes easier!

 

katieg314

I think almost everyone feels this way! It's easy for other people to be excited- they don't actually have to carry, birth, and care for multiple children at once. They just get to buy them things. At 15 weeks, I have started to move past the panic stage, but I can't say i am completely thrilled just yet. Just take it one day at a time and you will be fine!

shaunah816

I cried DURING the ultrasound that found twins at 20 weeks. Ugly, ugly cry. I was horrified, terrified, not happy a single iota. Finding out we were having twins felt like a nightmare I'd never wake up from. After a couple weeks I was able to crack jokes about having twins, but I was definitely not "excited" about it. It took me until unpacking from my baby shower at 28 weeks to actually start feeling happy and excited about bringing home two babies, and now I couldn't possibly be any more in love with my boys, and I absolutely LOVE having twins. It takes everyone a different amount of time to adjust, and you just found out! You're totally normal, and allow yourself as much time as you need. You're not a bad person or a bad mom for not being excited yet. It's such a shock to find out. You'll get there  

hjoy_06

Totally normal!! I honestly think I was around 20 weeks before I was really excited. But you will soon find out that having twins is absolutely amazing, you just need to get over the inital shock )  I know you will be told time and time again about the risks and how hard things will be but that's not always the case. Other than a very big belly (measured 56 weeks when I had them at 36w1d...but didn't look a day pregnant from the back...BIG belly!!!) I had an extremely easy pregnancy. For the most part I was surprisingly comfortable, slept like a rock, zero complications with me or the boys, and they were born via a c-section weighing 6.1 lbs and 6.4 lbs. Neither had any problems, came right to our recovery room with us, and we all went home 4 days later. I know there are risks and can be complications but please know this isn't always the case. Listen to your doctors and when they say relax and drink water...do it ) Enjoy and try not to worry too much...you'll have plenty of time to worry the next 18 years )

ballygirl

Absolutely normal.  I found out I was having mono-di twins at around 7w.  DH and I were in total shock for about 6 weeks. We could barely even talk about it we were so freaked. I know its scary but most twin pregnancies are successful and many have no complications at all.  Reading about the added risks of twins really stressed us out at first and for most of the pregnancy I think we sort of curbed our enthusiasm, mentally preparing ourselves for some complication or another.  Now I am at 36 weeks and have had not a single complication the entire pregnancy. I think it took until about 7 months before we really started to accept and celebrate our little miracles.

Give yourself some time to get used to the idea and don't feel guilty.  There are many things in any pregnancy that are beyond your control, so the best thing you can do is to take care of yourself, make sure you are getting proper nutrition and rest, and find ways to relieve your stress if you start feeling overwhelmed. This is a really good, supportive board too and I've found all the ladies here really helpful during my pregnancy!

linds2417

Thanks everyone for all the kind and supportive words! It has definitely made me feel a little better! 

legaleagles

Sweetie, I'm right there with you. I'm 7w6d today...found out exactly 1 week ago...and my very similar post is just down the page. Today is the first day I haven't cried about it. I have a toddler already and never envisioned myself with 3 kids. I didn't want twins...I wanted to do IVF instead of IUI to avoid this...but we didn't and I just have to assume that all the choices I've made (and I don't know if yours were spontaneous or if you've done IF treatment) have been for a reason. Assuming all goes well...this is my new normal...a mom of 3....and I'm scared shitless....but in just a week of posting a couple of times on this board and confiding in friends who I know will support me...I know I will soon grow to be excited, ecstatic even about my new babies! 

Just please know that everything you're feeling right now is so so normal...and I'm still feeling it....and since we're pretty close...I'm happy to "meet" another new soon to be mom of twins....and looking forward to getting to know you and those babies when they make their appearance. 

megs2011

Normal. I worried too. Especially when you research and know what can go wrong. It goes away a little when we hit 24 weeks and goes down from there with every week. I had mine early and they were fine but I worried till they came home from the hospital. They are 1 year old now and doing amazing.