Good morning ladies! I hate to be all whiny, but I feel like I can't talk to anyone IRL right now about this because they don't get it and it is somewhat embarrassing. So ladies, thank you in advance for listening!
As most of you know, I have been benched since my mmc last November due to finding out I had a uterine septum, then a postponed surgery, then a 2-3 month recovery from that, followed finally by AF now showing up and needing to be induced with Provera. All of that was also coupled with some timing issues because of grad school clinical rotations. So needless to say, I was super excited that this would FINALLY be the 1st cycle that DH and I could TTC again!! About 7 months ago, DH had a conversation with his manager (owner of the company he works for) about adding me on to his insurance October 1st since my coverage through my old job ends Sept 30th (I had to stop working since I just started clinical rotations for school). His manager said that in lieu of a raise this year, he was going to cover the total expense (both employer and employee portion) for putting me on his insurance. Fast forward 7 months, DH and his boss had a conversation on Friday and his boss claims that he only meant he would pay for the employer portion. He also said he would rather me not go on the company plan, but would give the equivalent of the employer contribution in cash to DH each month. That amount does not cover any plans we have found. We feel that he has completely gone back on his word and now we are left just 2 days before needing coverage, scrambling for a private health insurance plan. I have the option of COBRA, which will cost $560/month. Many of the private plans we are looking at have waiting periods for maternity coverage. So basically it comes down to that we have to postpone TTC again for at least another month. I've been so patient over the past year and now just want to cry. Yes, in the grand scheme I know that waiting another month isn't the end of the world, but how many times can we keep saying "just another month."
Thank you ladies for listening. I think I'll go start off my Sunday with a mimosa.... (if I could ever figure out how to do a PIP, I'd have one waiting for all of you!)
Oh hon, that totally sucks! And of course you can come whine to us, it's totally justified. I know how much long term TTA sucks and adding another month stings, especially when you've been planning on finally getting off the bench. Sending you huge ((hugs)) and I hope you guys can find an insurance plan soon. I'm so angry at your DH's boss for going back on his word, that totally sucks.
Started TTC June 2010 BFP #1 07/04/10. EDD 03/14/11. Missed m/c 08/09/10. D&C 09/27/10. }Casey & Jaimie{
BFP #2 01/14/11. EDD 09/25/11. Missed m/c 02/18/11. D&C 02/24/11. }Dustin{ TTA for 18 months and then TTC for 12 months
BFP #3 08/18/13. EDD 04/30/14. Missed m/c 09/25/13. D&C 09/26/13. }Daylin{ TTA for 7 months Jan-Mar 2014 - RPL, SHG, karotyping: all results normal TTC Again May 2014 Progesterone & baby aspirin combo for 5 cycles - All BFN's SA with DNA fragmentation = Perfect results Diagnostic cycle monitoring = Polycystic ovaries leading to premature egg release TTA Oct 2014 - Jan 2015 Jan 2015 - Medicated cycle with timed intercourse
Oh hun, I am so sorry. This is so incredibly shitty of his boss. I wish knew a way to make this better. It is completely understandable to feel so upset and disappointed, even if it is only a month. So many (((HUGS)))
Oh sweety. I went through the insurance drama too. I'm no longer eligible for an individual plan because I'm such a high risk to them. I think all my drama went down before you joined us.
It's so frustrating and hard. And in your situation you've basically been lied to. COBRA is such a hassle too. I had a really hard time finding coverage. I don't quite understand how your DHs employer can just change his mind like that. Do they have any written policy for insurance coverage? He shouldn't be allowed to dictate who gets coverage like that.
Your situation sound so familiar, it makes my heart break. You think finally its time to TTC again and now the brakes are jammed on. I'm sorry you are going through this!! Just keep looking for individual plans. They are obviously better than COBRA. Hang in there!!!
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and GBCB
BFP 8/2/12 EDD 4/9/13 Addie was delivered 1/4/13 at 26 weeks due to Eclampsia
BFP 9/15/14 EDD 5/28/15 Please be ourR AI NBOWtake home baby BOY
((hugs)) I'm so sorry! Insurance problems are sucky enough without adding in an asshat boss! I can't believe he can just take that back like that. Is there any way your H would be willing to go and argue for getting you on the insurance?
Oh no! That is awful!! What a terrible thing to do and horrible timing. Did your H get what he agreed to in writing?! I'm so sorry....sending you lots of (((hugs)))
Began trying for a baby January 2012 BFP 4.25.2013 EDD 1.3.2014 MMC 6.3.2013 D&C 6.19.2013 BFP 11.3.2013 CP 11.6.2013 BFP 3.31.2014 EDD 12.10.2014 Baby boy Carlson born 12.19.2014
Thank you ladies! I really appreciate all of your hugs and support. It is a crappy situation and I try to remind myself that there are people out there in much worse situations, but realize that I can only worry about my own situation. Unfortunately DH had nothing in writing X( but from what he said, the conversation was pretty spelled out. This is the 2nd empty promise from this boss....maybe it is time for DH to search for something else?
I am in the process of filling out an application for an Aetna plan now, so FX that this all goes smooth!
UGH!! I'm sorry. That has to be really frustrating. I hope you are able to figure out the insurance thing soon, and that it is really JUST another month before you can get back in the game!
Married my wife 8/2007 ~ TTC #1 since 7/2011 9 IUIs = 9 BFNs IVF October 2012: 22 eggs retrieved, 17 fertilized, 5 frozen ET #1: 1 blast = BFP; Blighted ovum discovered at 7w5d; D&E FET #1: 1 blast = BFP; Missed m/c discovered at 9w5d; D&E Karyotyping: normal ~ RPL Testing: normal ~ Hysteroscopy: normal FET #2: 1 blast transferred 10/25; BFP 10/31! EDD 7/13/14 ~ Induced at 37w4d due to pre-eclampsia ~ Born on 6/28/14 *Everyone welcome*
Oh no! That is so incredibly frustrating. Even though it's only another month, it still sucks because you've already been waiting so long. I totally get it. ((Hugs))
And huge double TP to YH's boss for treating you like that. Not ok.
TTC #1 since March 2011
BFP #1: EDD 4/16/13~~blighted ovum w/ 2 gestational sacs~~Loss on 9/18/12 BFP #2: EDD 9/3/13~~Slow HB at 1st U/S~~MMC -Loss on 2/13/13
9/13, 10/13, 1/14: letrozole + trigger + TI = All BFNs
I am sorry love. What the hell?!?!? Seriously. Is it a small company? Isn't obamacare supposed to fix this? Can you purchase insurance through your university as a student?
I believe you can sign up on October first. I don't know much, but it's probably worth looking into.
TTC #1 since March 2011
BFP #1: EDD 4/16/13~~blighted ovum w/ 2 gestational sacs~~Loss on 9/18/12 BFP #2: EDD 9/3/13~~Slow HB at 1st U/S~~MMC -Loss on 2/13/13
9/13, 10/13, 1/14: letrozole + trigger + TI = All BFNs
I am sorry love. What the hell?!?!? Seriously. Is it a small company? Isn't obamacare supposed to fix this? Can you purchase insurance through your university as a student?
Obamacare isn't effective until the new year. Then individual plans can no longer refuse people. But the rates are still higher than work provided insurance.
THE DARK SIDE IT IS
and GBCB
BFP 8/2/12 EDD 4/9/13 Addie was delivered 1/4/13 at 26 weeks due to Eclampsia
BFP 9/15/14 EDD 5/28/15 Please be ourR AI NBOWtake home baby BOY
Good luck with the new plan! I was turned down by 3 before giving up and joining DHs insurance. Us is the same price as COBRA so it was our last resort. FX you hear back from them quickly!!
THE DARK SIDE IT IS
and GBCB
BFP 8/2/12 EDD 4/9/13 Addie was delivered 1/4/13 at 26 weeks due to Eclampsia
BFP 9/15/14 EDD 5/28/15 Please be ourR AI NBOWtake home baby BOY
I'm so sorry (((hugs))). My DH has been in insurance forever and from what you are describing, you losing insurance sounds like a qualifying event. What he was wondering is if any other employees have spousal coverage - if no, then they do not offer it. If yes, I don't think the boss is allowed to deny enrolling you from what you described.
I am sorry love. What the hell?!?!? Seriously. Is it a small company? Isn't obamacare supposed to fix this? Can you purchase insurance through your university as a student?
The Obamacare stuff will go effective Jan 1st. What it comes down to with this Aetna plan is that I will be covered for maternity care assuming that I am "not deemed pg" as of Oct 15th (the date the plan starts). Well.......they consider date of conception (according to dr. I believe) to figure out if I would qualify or not. If my ute and ovaries work as they should, O will be sometime between Oct 9-12th. Awesome, that means if I O any time before CD25 and we were oh so fortunate to conceive this month, I wouldn't be covered for maternity services until after Jan 1 (when it is mandated by obamacare to cover maternity).
It is just a month....it is just a month....that is my mantra of the day
I am sorry love. What the hell?!?!? Seriously. Is it a small company? Isn't obamacare supposed to fix this? Can you purchase insurance through your university as a student?
I believe you can sign up on October first. I don't know much, but it's probably worth looking into.
I should have been able to sign up for October 1st, however DH's a**hole boss didn't sit down with him in time to discuss this (DH had been asking him for a few weeks about this). You have to apply 5 days prior to the start date of the plan. So for an Oct 1st start date, I would've had to apply by Sept 25th. The boss didn't handle the situation until Friday the 27th. Total TP!
Oh no! That is awful!! What a terrible thing to do and horrible timing. Did your H get what he agreed to in writing?! I'm so sorry....sending you lots of (((hugs)))
I was going to ask the same thing. If he got anything in writing? I'm sorry you're going through this! I am learning so much from you ladies and the more I learn about everyone's situations my heart just breaks for all of us. I hope it is only another month:( (((hugs)))
I am sorry love. What the hell?!?!? Seriously. Is it a small company? Isn't obamacare supposed to fix this? Can you purchase insurance through your university as a student?
I believe you can sign up on October first. I don't know much, but it's probably worth looking into.
I should have been able to sign up for October 1st, however DH's a**hole boss didn't sit down with him in time to discuss this (DH had been asking him for a few weeks about this). You have to apply 5 days prior to the start date of the plan. So for an Oct 1st start date, I would've had to apply by Sept 25th. The boss didn't handle the situation until Friday the 27th. Total TP!
I see. What a jerk.
TTC #1 since March 2011
BFP #1: EDD 4/16/13~~blighted ovum w/ 2 gestational sacs~~Loss on 9/18/12 BFP #2: EDD 9/3/13~~Slow HB at 1st U/S~~MMC -Loss on 2/13/13
9/13, 10/13, 1/14: letrozole + trigger + TI = All BFNs
Gotcha. I am disappointed for you.
So your husband's company doesn't provide family insurance to any employee?
They don't. His boss was going to make an exception and do us a favor, but then decided it wasn't a good business decision for him. I should just be happy that he is going to still give DH some cash towards insurance. I just wish he would've been honest from the beginning, b/c we would've made some different financial plans over the past few months and also taken care of this situation so that I'd be covered as of October 1st.
Ugh. I'm so sorry love. I hate hate hate hate hate hate this for you!
I didn't realize that insurance through work could even deny offering family/spousal coverage. We are both very fortunate that our jobs pay for our portion (as the employee). Both mine & dh's allow us to add family members, but if anybody else is added to the insurance policy we have to pay for their portion OOP.
I think somebody else asked, but does your school program offer any type of student insurance you could look into? I know at the big university here for grad programs they offer insurance policies to specific programs, it's not just a "generalized" student program it's a more-indepth insurance.
BFP#4 3/17/14 - rainbowBaby BOY arrived 11/10/14 !!
Ugh! This sucks! Im soo sorry! I definitely understand your frustration. Insurances can be a big pain in the ass and your DH's boss sure isn't helping. I went through insurance issues as well and actually had to pay for my previous ultrasounds all out of pocket, so I totally get it and you have every right to be pissed. (((Hugs)))
BFP #1: 3/23/13, EDD: 11/22/13, MC: 4/2/13
Convinced it was a boy and missing him every day!
BFP #2: 10/25/13, EDD: 7/3/14, Grow baby Grow! Anabelle Rose born 6/6/14
I am so sorry, I would be seriously angry if I were in your position, both because of TTA for another month and because of the uncertainty of he insurance. Can your DH confront him and really explain that this puts you in a bad position with only 2 days notice? I wouldn't back down without being more assertive
I am so sorry, I would be seriously angry if I were in your position, both because of TTA for another month and because of the uncertainty of he insurance. Can your DH confront him and really explain that this puts you in a bad position with only 2 days notice? I wouldn't back down without being more assertive
DH is going in to talk to him about it tomorrow. There have been some other empty promises, so this just fuels the fire. Luckily DH is an extremely calm man, so I know he will stay level headed during the conversation!
Hope your DH has some success in sorting out this mess! So sorry for the hassle and another set back. It is frustrating and while it may be *just* a month, it still is months of waiting when you add it all up. ((hugs))!!!
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TTC #1 since October 2012
BFP #1 11/22/12 EDD 7/29/13 MMC 1/14/13, D&C 1/16/13 BFP #2 5/7/13 EDD 1/14/2014 Ectopic discovered 5/21/13, lost left tube Referred to RE, blood work done August 2013, AMH 0.27, all else normal, HSG clear
BFP #3 12/1/13 EDD 8/8/14, MC 12/24/13
January 2014: RE #2, blood work repeated, homozygous MTHFR c677t, SHG clear
BFP #4 4/7/14 EDD 12/15/14Our rainbow was born 12/6/14 at 4:26pm!
I'm so sorry you're having to deal with this right now. FX that things work out with the Aetna plan or that DH has some luck with his boss tomorrow. (((Hugs)))
TTC #1 since January 2013
BFP #1: April 5, 2013; EDD December 11, 2013; Missed M/C May 15, 2013
BFP #2: February 17, 2014; EDD October 30, 2014; M/C March 15, 2014
BFP #3: August 1, 2014; EDD April 14, 2015 - Praying for ourRAINBOW!
((HUGS)) I'm so sorry that you are going through this!!! It's horrible for DH's boss to go back on his word like this at the last minute. I hope that you are able to find something quickly!
>:D<
TTC #3 since 8/2012 DX Endometriosis 2/2002 (lost left tube due to a cyst), PCOS 6/2010 BFP - 10/18/2012, EDD - 6/26/2013, Baby Girl lost at 22 weeks (T21), D&E 2/15/2013 BFP - 4/23/2014, EDD - 1/2/2015 Twin Boys lost at 12 weeks, M/C 6/25/2014 My charthereAll ALers welcome!
Ugh, that is such BS!! It is too bad that it wasn't discussed in e-mails b/c then at least YH would have it in writing. I'm so sorry. Huge ((hugs))
BFP #1 ended in MMC. Discovered Oct 2005 @10w5d, baby stopped growing around 6w. D&C. BFP#2 Nov 2005. Baby's heart stopped @ 8w3d. D&C Jan 2006. Trisomy 18 BFP#3 Nov 2006. My "miracle baby" DD born 7/25/07 BFP #4 11/6/12. EDD 7/16/13~my birthday! No sac found @ 5w1d, betas not increasing. Natural m/c started 11/20/12.
BFP#5 11/9/13. EDD 7/21/14 Our beautiful rainbow born on his due date!!
Oh Alyson, I am so sorry. I was SO SO excited when we had your bench burning last week, and I hate this.
In my experience, I will never trust an employer without something in writing. Empty promises are extremely common. If you feel that your husband could get better coverage through another employer I think it would be worth looking into but I realize it wouldn't solve your problem of having to TTA this month.
I would think you would have excellent coverage when you are done with clinicals right? Would any of this even out if you have to pay out of pocket now?
I am so sick of the healthcare system treating pregnancy as a disease instead of a celebration.
This exact problem is why we put off TTC until I moved into my new job because of this whole pre-existing condition nonsense. So frustrating.
I am so pissed for you. I want to go yell at all of these jerks for you.
"It's, not, where you are, it's where you're going, And it's, not, about the things you've done, it's what you're doing, now" TTC Journey Began 8/12 BFP #1 11/9/12, MMC/D&C 12/21/12 @ 9w2d, EDD 7/24/13 SAs: 2%-3% Morph - RE Official Diagnosis Unexplained BFN = IUI #1 (Clomid) | IUI #2 (Letrozole) BFP #2 4/19/14 = IUI #3 (Letrozole) Expecting Our Elf 12/27/14 ~All Welcome~
I'm so sorry that you are facing this situation!!! I also have shed many a tear over insurance battles (mainly for paying bills that I just felt were so unfairly high). I completely empathize with you and I hope that DH can straighten it out. Keep looking out for the insurance companies. My MIL had to change insurances and it took a long time to find a good one (and of course she isn't looking for maternity coverage), but sometimes the better insurance plans at reasonable prices just take a few extra calls to find. FX that you find a great one soon!
Married my best friend 7/2/11 - Furbaby born 7/9/11
and brought into our home 9/1/11
BFP#1: 2/2/13 ~ exact m/c date unknown but
around 3/20 at 10 weeks ~ diagnosed with PMP ~ D&C on 4/5 ~ TTA for at
least 1 year due to PMP ~ cleared to TTC 1/14
BFP#2: 2/7/14 ~ m/c 2/20/14 ~ possibly due
to chemical pregnancy ~ TG no D&C is needed
Surprise BFP#3: 4/4/14 ~ super duper extra happy
(and nervous) about this one - EDD 12/9/14!!!
John Joseph was born on 12/12/14 at 7 lbs. 11 oz. He is the most beautiful rainbow baby we could have wished for!
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BFP #1 07/04/10. EDD 03/14/11. Missed m/c 08/09/10. D&C 09/27/10. }Casey & Jaimie{
TTA for 18 months and then TTC for 12 months
TTA for 7 months
Jan-Mar 2014 - RPL, SHG, karotyping: all results normal
TTC Again May 2014
Progesterone & baby aspirin combo for 5 cycles - All BFN's
SA with DNA fragmentation = Perfect results
Diagnostic cycle monitoring = Polycystic ovaries leading to premature egg release
TTA Oct 2014 - Jan 2015
Jan 2015 - Medicated cycle with timed intercourse
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It's so frustrating and hard. And in your situation you've basically been lied to. COBRA is such a hassle too. I had a really hard time finding coverage. I don't quite understand how your DHs employer can just change his mind like that. Do they have any written policy for insurance coverage? He shouldn't be allowed to dictate who gets coverage like that.
Your situation sound so familiar, it makes my heart break. You think finally its time to TTC again and now the brakes are jammed on. I'm sorry you are going through this!! Just keep looking for individual plans. They are obviously better than COBRA. Hang in there!!!
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and GBCB
BFP 8/2/12 EDD 4/9/13 Addie was delivered 1/4/13 at 26 weeks due to Eclampsia
BFP 9/15/14 EDD 5/28/15 Please be our R A I N B O W take home baby BOY
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Began trying for a baby January 2012
BFP 4.25.2013 EDD 1.3.2014 MMC 6.3.2013 D&C 6.19.2013
BFP 11.3.2013 CP 11.6.2013
BFP 3.31.2014 EDD 12.10.2014 Baby boy Carlson born 12.19.2014
DX: Septate Uterus. Septum resection 6/4/13
9 IUIs = 9 BFNs
IVF October 2012: 22 eggs retrieved, 17 fertilized, 5 frozen
ET #1: 1 blast = BFP; Blighted ovum discovered at 7w5d; D&E
FET #1: 1 blast = BFP; Missed m/c discovered at 9w5d; D&E
Karyotyping: normal ~ RPL Testing: normal ~ Hysteroscopy: normal
FET #2: 1 blast transferred 10/25; BFP 10/31!
EDD 7/13/14 ~ Induced at 37w4d due to pre-eclampsia ~ Born on 6/28/14
*Everyone welcome*
And huge double TP to YH's boss for treating you like that. Not ok.
BFP #2: EDD 9/3/13~~Slow HB at 1st U/S~~MMC -Loss on 2/13/13
BFP #2: EDD 9/3/13~~Slow HB at 1st U/S~~MMC -Loss on 2/13/13
Oh no! How incredibly frustrating and irritating. am sorry you are going through such a hassle. FX everything goes smoothly with Aetna.
BFP #1 - 7/24/2013 (EDD: 3/31/2014) - mmc 8/12/13 - D&C 8/15/2013
BFP #2 - 3/6/2014 (EDD 11/14/2014) - Beta #1 (17dpo): 1400 - Beta #2 (19dpo): 3170
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THE DARK SIDE IT IS
and GBCB
BFP 8/2/12 EDD 4/9/13 Addie was delivered 1/4/13 at 26 weeks due to Eclampsia
BFP 9/15/14 EDD 5/28/15 Please be our R A I N B O W take home baby BOY
~All AL always welcome~
THE DARK SIDE IT IS
and GBCB
BFP 8/2/12 EDD 4/9/13 Addie was delivered 1/4/13 at 26 weeks due to Eclampsia
BFP 9/15/14 EDD 5/28/15 Please be our R A I N B O W take home baby BOY
~All AL always welcome~
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DX: Septate Uterus. Septum resection 6/4/13
DX: Septate Uterus. Septum resection 6/4/13
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I see. What a jerk.
BFP #2: EDD 9/3/13~~Slow HB at 1st U/S~~MMC -Loss on 2/13/13
DX: Septate Uterus. Septum resection 6/4/13
Ugh. I'm so sorry love. I hate hate hate hate hate hate this for you!
I didn't realize that insurance through work could even deny offering family/spousal coverage. We are both very fortunate that our jobs pay for our portion (as the employee). Both mine & dh's allow us to add family members, but if anybody else is added to the insurance policy we have to pay for their portion OOP.
I think somebody else asked, but does your school program offer any type of student insurance you could look into? I know at the big university here for grad programs they offer insurance policies to specific programs, it's not just a "generalized" student program it's a more-indepth insurance.
BFP#4 3/17/14 - rainbow Baby BOY arrived 11/10/14 !!
DX: Uterine Septum - Resection 9/5/13 || MTHFR Hetero A1298C || My Chart
TTC since April 2012
BFP #1, 10/03/2012 - EDD 6/15/2013 - MMC 11/15/2012 - D&C 01/04/2013
BFP #2, 04/06/2013 - EDD 12/17/2013 - MC 04/19/2013
6/12/2013 Diagnosed with Balanced Translocation (12 & 16)
IVF #1 with PGS: 10/2013: Canceled 9/27/2013 for issues with genetic lab
IVF #1.5 with PGS: 11/16/2013: Canceled. 11 eggs retrieved, 9 mature & 9 fertilized, all unhealthy embryos
IVF #2: 1/22/14: Canceled. 16 eggs retrieved, 14 mature, 7 fertilized, all unhealthy embryos
IVF #3 with PGS: 5/10/2014: Switched to FET in July. 10 eggs retrieved, 9 mature, 8 fertilized, 2 healthy embryos!
FET #1: 7/31/2014: Transferred 2 nearly perfect (6AA, 6BA) healthy embryos- BFFN
Laproscopy: 10/2014: Healthy uterus
IVF #4: 12/8/2014: Canceled. 17 eggs retrieved, 15 mature, 10 fertilized, all unhealthy embryos
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DX: Septate Uterus. Septum resection 6/4/13
BFP #2 5/7/13 EDD 1/14/2014 Ectopic discovered 5/21/13, lost left tube
Referred to RE, blood work done August 2013, AMH 0.27, all else normal, HSG clear
TTC #1 since January 2013
BFP #1: April 5, 2013; EDD December 11, 2013; Missed M/C May 15, 2013
BFP #2: February 17, 2014; EDD October 30, 2014; M/C March 15, 2014
BFP #3: August 1, 2014; EDD April 14, 2015 - Praying for our RAINBOW!
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DX Endometriosis 2/2002 (lost left tube due to a cyst), PCOS 6/2010
BFP - 10/18/2012, EDD - 6/26/2013, Baby Girl lost at 22 weeks (T21), D&E 2/15/2013
BFP - 4/23/2014, EDD - 1/2/2015 Twin Boys lost at 12 weeks, M/C 6/25/2014
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BFP#1 1/31/12. Empty sac discovered 3/5/12. MTX due to location in uterine horn.
BFP#2 2/27/13. Empty sac confirmed 3/20/13. Mifepristone + Cytotec.
Operative hysteroscopy to remove septum 9/18/13.
BFP #3 12/24/13. Natural m/c 1/17/14.
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BFP #1 ended in MMC. Discovered Oct 2005 @10w5d, baby stopped growing around 6w. D&C.
BFP#2 Nov 2005. Baby's heart stopped @ 8w3d. D&C Jan 2006. Trisomy 18
BFP#3 Nov 2006. My "miracle baby" DD born 7/25/07
BFP #4 11/6/12. EDD 7/16/13~my birthday! No sac found @ 5w1d, betas not increasing. Natural m/c started 11/20/12.
BFP#5 11/9/13. EDD 7/21/14 Our beautiful rainbow born on his due date!!
In my experience, I will never trust an employer without something in writing. Empty promises are extremely common. If you feel that your husband could get better coverage through another employer I think it would be worth looking into but I realize it wouldn't solve your problem of having to TTA this month.
I would think you would have excellent coverage when you are done with clinicals right? Would any of this even out if you have to pay out of pocket now?
I am so sick of the healthcare system treating pregnancy as a disease instead of a celebration.
This exact problem is why we put off TTC until I moved into my new job because of this whole pre-existing condition nonsense. So frustrating.
I am so pissed for you. I want to go yell at all of these jerks for you.
"It's, not, where you are, it's where you're going,
And it's, not, about the things you've done, it's what you're doing, now"
TTC Journey Began 8/12
BFP #1 11/9/12, MMC/D&C 12/21/12 @ 9w2d, EDD 7/24/13
SAs: 2%-3% Morph - RE Official Diagnosis Unexplained
BFN = IUI #1 (Clomid) | IUI #2 (Letrozole)
BFP #2 4/19/14 = IUI #3 (Letrozole)
Expecting Our Elf 12/27/14
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BFP#1: 2/2/13 ~ exact m/c date unknown but around 3/20 at 10 weeks ~ diagnosed with PMP ~ D&C on 4/5 ~ TTA for at least 1 year due to PMP ~ cleared to TTC 1/14
BFP#2: 2/7/14 ~ m/c 2/20/14 ~ possibly due to chemical pregnancy ~ TG no D&C is needed
Surprise BFP#3: 4/4/14 ~ super duper extra happy (and nervous) about this one - EDD 12/9/14!!!
John Joseph was born on 12/12/14 at 7 lbs. 11 oz. He is the most beautiful rainbow baby we could have wished for!