Never will I ever..

PreDempsey

Leave my infant in it's stroller in the main aisle of Walmart while it is sleeping with some groceries leaned against it's face, and I'm chatting with a girlfriend 15 feet away.

I know it's naive of me to say as a FTM to say I won't ever do something but I feel good about this one.. Any other never will I ever thoughts?

Winnieella

Never will I ever put my infant car seat on top of a shopping cart. I can't believe that people do that, with out realizing just how dangerous it can be. 

cnwilbur1030

MrsJWoodJr said:

Never will I ever put my infant car seat on top of a shopping cart. I can't believe that people do that, with out realizing just how dangerous it can be. 

Oops! Did that with DD without any harm.

HappyDoc

Never will I ever leave my baby alone in a car.

Winnieella

cnwilbur1030 said:

MrsJWoodJr said:

Never will I ever put my infant car seat on top of a shopping cart. I can't believe that people do that, with out realizing just how dangerous it can be. 

Oops! Did that with DD without any harm.

That's okay. Now you know.

Winnieella

BKau said:

HappyDoc said:

Never will I ever leave my baby alone in a car.

This.  I will never understand people who do this.  

With the windows rolled up...that is what really bugs me. 

HappyDoc

KaitiMac said:

Never will I ever let my kid run around WalMart in ONLY a diaper that's leaking poo everywhere. (I legit saw this last weekend)

G.R.O.S.S.

sugarland726

Raise a kid who doesn't know manners. The insolence of children and teenagers these days is baffling. My children will know and use their manners.

 

Winnieella

Google Mucus Plug...the thread the other day made me curious....yea..nope. 

apickett925

Allow my child to stand in the basket of a shopping cart.  When I was a cashier in college I saw a little kid "surfing" in the cart, he leaned back and the whole thing fell over.  He cracked his head on the floor and we had to call an ambulance while one of my managers held his head together.  2nd scariest moment of my life.

pennstated912

...tell my kid that if they throw something from the shelf on to the floor that it is the employees job to pick it up. You drop something, you pick it up.

There was a million times I saw this happen at my old job.

apickett925

pennstated912 said:

...tell my kid that if they throw something from the shelf on to the floor that it is the employees job to pick it up. You drop something, you pick it up. There was a million times I saw this happen at my old job.

That too!  I'm one of those anal people that fixes shelves when products are all over or not facing the right way.  And you don't want to see me walk down the towel aisle....

PreDempsey

MrsJWoodJr said:

Google Mucus Plug...the thread the other day made me curious....yea..nope.

Instead everyone should google "shaved guinea pig" because they look like little hippos when they're naked.

Winnieella

PreDempsey said:

MrsJWoodJr said:

Google Mucus Plug...the thread the other day made me curious....yea..nope.

Instead everyone should google "shaved guinea pig" because they look like little hippos when they're naked.

They do...they look super cute/ 

katie-lynn3313

When I read the title do this thread I kinda rolled my eyes expecting to see some silly responses...like some of the things I thought before I had kids BUT all of these are legit in my books!! The kids cart surfing??? WTF were those parents thinking? Just crazy to me,,,and to leave kids in the car really bugs me too...there has never been something i have had to do that is so important that I would risk my sons safety....I have skipped doing things to save me from getting him out of the seat but could never leave him in the car u attended.

Winnieella

Never will I ever name my kid La-a (Ladasha) or after the city they were conceived in. 

pennstated912

apickett925 said:

Allow my child to stand in the basket of a shopping cart.  When I was a cashier in college I saw a little kid "surfing" in the cart, he leaned back and the whole thing fell over.  He cracked his head on the floor and we had to call an ambulance while one of my managers held his head together.  2nd scariest moment of my life.

That is terrifying and a huge fear of mine.

I never understood why parents did this. Is it really too hard for your grown kid to walk through a store?? Also, if my 10 year asks to sit inside the cart, I will flip. There is no reason to do any of this.

waittilltomorrow

Never will I ever leave my baby alone in a car.

I do this, I refuse to wake a sleeping baby if I need to run in and pay for petrol. I think common sense needs to be used with this.

waittilltomorrow

Let my kids go shoeless to a shopping centre. Or take them to the shops barefoot, nappy in full view and a dirty t shirt. Saw this last week

casholmes

Let my kids throw food all over a restaurant (Or, if they're too little to no better, I won't let them do it without at least trying to clean up after them) Can't tell you how many times I've had to sweep up dissected nuggets and tiny little pieces of french fry!

Also: oh lordy I want a little baby hippo!!!

Mrs.Awesome

Never will I ever let my child sit at the table with headphones on, reading a book, or playing video games during meal time.

I try hard not to judge the parenting choices of others and I know there are things far worse than reading at the dinner table, but for some reason it drives me crazy to see this out at restaurants.

sugarland726

waittilltomorrow said:

Never will I ever leave my baby alone in a car.

I do this, I refuse to wake a sleeping baby if I need to run in and pay for petrol. I think common sense needs to be used with this.

:-O Let me know how that works for you when you car gets stolen with your infant inside. You can't pay at the pump?

kiki1978

MrsJWoodJr said:

Never will I ever name my kid La-a (Ladasha) or after the city they were conceived in. 

There was a girl in the school I teach in whose name was La-a.

BabyChill

Never will I leave my child (or any other one for that matter) alone in the house while I go outside to do something while they are really small! My MIL tells me stories all the time how she would go outside to smoke or do yard work and would just leave my DH alone in front of the TV! So far the stories have ranged from when he was a newborn until he was 4! This is also the #1 reason why my child will not be aloud to stay with her! Her smoking is the #2 reason.

csandroo

sugarland726 said:

waittilltomorrow said:

HappyDoc said:

Never will I ever leave my baby alone in a car.

I do this, I refuse to wake a sleeping baby if I need to run in and pay for petrol. I think common sense needs to be used with this.

:-O Let me know how that works for you when you car gets stolen with your infant inside. You can't pay at the pump?


I gotta flame leaving a kid in the car even to pay for gas .... Would you leave your purse on the front seat with a bunch of money sticking out?? I would hope not ... Why then would you leave a far more precious possession of your child in the car?!! It truly only takes one moment for something bad to happen- and where I live it is illegal to do even if just for a moment. I would rather wake my baby and have them cranky and crying but safe and following the law then the horrible alternative.

MrsGraham06

pennstated912 said:

Allow my child to stand in the basket of a shopping cart.  When I was a cashier in college I saw a little kid "surfing" in the cart, he leaned back and the whole thing fell over.  He cracked his head on the floor and we had to call an ambulance while one of my managers held his head together.  2nd scariest moment of my life.

That is terrifying and a huge fear of mine. I never understood why parents did this. Is it really too hard for your grown kid to walk through a store?? Also, if my 10 year asks to sit inside the cart, I will flip. There is no reason to do any of this.

Sometimes, it is necessary to have your older child ride in the cart instead of walk through the store. If they get into a "mood", it keeps them from pulling stuff off shelves, getting in people's way, sitting in the middle of the aisle refusing to move...But I don't have a 10-yo, so I don't know how I'll feel about it then.

ac1259

Mrs.Awesome said:

Never will I ever let my child sit at the table with headphones on, reading a book, or playing video games during meal time.

I try hard not to judge the parenting choices of others and I know there are things far worse than reading at the dinner table, but for some reason it drives me crazy to see this out at restaurants.

While I don't love it, there's a huge difference between reading a book at the table and listening to headphones or playing a video game..in public I don't think I'd allow any of the above but there's a possibility if I had an avid reader(like myself) I'd let it fly

ac1259

BabyChill said:

Never will I leave my child (or any other one for that matter) alone in the house while I go outside to do something while they are really small! My MIL tells me stories all the time how she would go outside to smoke or do yard work and would just leave my DH alone in front of the TV! So far the stories have ranged from when he was a newborn until he was 4! This is also the #1 reason why my child will not be aloud to stay with her! Her smoking is the #2 reason.

Yeah I would never do it with my baby in front of the TV but I've mowed the lawn while DD napped with the monitor on my hip..and if we're going somewhere and I need to pack up the car or put the dog in the car I'll put her in her pack n play while I'm running in and out. Also unloading groceries involves putting her in the pack n play- I'm not gonna leave her in the car!

hopeful808

MrsGraham06 said:

pennstated912 said:

Allow my child to stand in the basket of a shopping cart.  When I was a cashier in college I saw a little kid "surfing" in the cart, he leaned back and the whole thing fell over.  He cracked his head on the floor and we had to call an ambulance while one of my managers held his head together.  2nd scariest moment of my life.

That is terrifying and a huge fear of mine. I never understood why parents did this. Is it really too hard for your grown kid to walk through a store?? Also, if my 10 year asks to sit inside the cart, I will flip. There is no reason to do any of this.

Sometimes, it is necessary to have your older child ride in the cart instead of walk through the store. If they get into a "mood", it keeps them from pulling stuff off shelves, getting in people's way, sitting in the middle of the aisle refusing to move...But I don't have a 10-yo, so I don't know how I'll feel about it then.

It's not necessary you can choose to leave the store instead of continuing to shop. My mom has quite a number of stories about leaving stores even with carts full of groceries because my sister/I weren't behaving well enough to walk in the store. We have ADHD so self control and emotional regulation was a big issue growing up.  By allowing them into the cart you are rewarding their bad behavior by getting to ride in the cart especially if that is not typically allowed. 

PerpetuaP

...say never! Mom to 3 plus our newest addition due Jan 10

wedbliss5

hopeful808 said:

MrsGraham06 said:

pennstated912 said:

apickett925 said:

Allow my child to stand in the basket of a shopping cart.  When I was a cashier in college I saw a little kid "surfing" in the cart, he leaned back and the whole thing fell over.  He cracked his head on the floor and we had to call an ambulance while one of my managers held his head together.  2nd scariest moment of my life.

That is terrifying and a huge fear of mine.

I never understood why parents did this. Is it really too hard for your grown kid to walk through a store?? Also, if my 10 year asks to sit inside the cart, I will flip. There is no reason to do any of this.

Sometimes, it is necessary to have your older child ride in the cart instead of walk through the store. If they get into a "mood", it keeps them from pulling stuff off shelves, getting in people's way, sitting in the middle of the aisle refusing to move...But I don't have a 10-yo, so I don't know how I'll feel about it then.

It's not necessary you can choose to leave the store instead of continuing to shop. My mom has quite a number of stories about leaving stores even with carts full of groceries because my sister/I weren't behaving well enough to walk in the store. We have ADHD so self control and emotional regulation was a big issue growing up.  By allowing them into the cart you are rewarding their bad behavior by getting to ride in the cart especially if that is not typically allowed. 

My 5 yr old does NOT see riding in the cart as a reward, however leaving the store and hitting up fast food because we couldn't finish shopping would be. Its gray your mom could just leave the store, and have the store workers deal with her full cart anytime it was necessary. That doesn't work for everyone one. I'd judge you more for leaving a full cart than having a kid throw a tantrum and not giving in.

redheadalisha

I will never allow my kids to open sugar packets at the table in public and make a huge mess for a server making next to nothing an have to clean up. I also will not go to the mall and allow my kid to scream at the top of her lungs and make a scene. We will totally finish up and pay and leave. If DH is with he will take her to the car and wait while I finish up paying. DH will have an active role in fathering our daughter. One thing I will allow is my daughter to grow up in a loving safe nurturing home where she knows she can do anything she puts her mind to.

AnnikaD20

My brother in law suggested that if we have a girl, we could name her Ma~ (Matilda) since La-a is getting overdone. He was not serious.

I used to have a lot more "I will nevers" before I got pregnant, but now I'm starting to actually reconsider a lot of it. For example, I said I will never use tv to babysit my kids, but then watching a STM friend deal with pregnancy exhaustion and a 3 yr old, I can't blame her at all for putting on the occasional episode of Elmo.

KatelynEA90

hopeful808 said:

MrsGraham06 said:

pennstated912 said:

apickett925 said:

Allow my child to stand in the basket of a shopping cart.  When I was a cashier in college I saw a little kid "surfing" in the cart, he leaned back and the whole thing fell over.  He cracked his head on the floor and we had to call an ambulance while one of my managers held his head together.  2nd scariest moment of my life.

That is terrifying and a huge fear of mine.

I never understood why parents did this. Is it really too hard for your grown kid to walk through a store?? Also, if my 10 year asks to sit inside the cart, I will flip. There is no reason to do any of this.

Sometimes, it is necessary to have your older child ride in the cart instead of walk through the store. If they get into a "mood", it keeps them from pulling stuff off shelves, getting in people's way, sitting in the middle of the aisle refusing to move...But I don't have a 10-yo, so I don't know how I'll feel about it then.

It's not necessary you can choose to leave the store instead of continuing to shop. My mom has quite a number of stories about leaving stores even with carts full of groceries because my sister/I weren't behaving well enough to walk in the store. We have ADHD so self control and emotional regulation was a big issue growing up.  By allowing them into the cart you are rewarding their bad behavior by getting to ride in the cart especially if that is not typically allowed. 

I disagree.
My nephew sees riding in the cart as a punishment because he isn't walking like the other big kids(he is 3). Also, leaving doesn't work for all situations. What are you doing to do if your toddler is screaming because she wants to go back outside? Taking her outside would be exactly what she wants and certainly isn't teaching her how to behave in a store.

ccip82

BKau said:

benjaminsmommy16 said:

sugarland726 said:

waittilltomorrow said:

Never will I ever leave my baby alone in a car.

I do this, I refuse to wake a sleeping baby if I need to run in and pay for petrol. I think common sense needs to be used with this.

:-O Let me know how that works for you when you car gets stolen with your infant inside. You can't pay at the pump?

Whenever I haven't had my card, I wake DS up if I have to and take him into pay. What if the gas station got held up while he was outside in the car and I couldn't leave the gas station? What if someone stole my car? Bad things can happen fast, even in a good area. not worth the risk to me.

Exactly this. There was a lady in our area that left her kid in the car while she went to do something just 20 feet away (and was still in sight of her car) and someone took off with her car with her baby in the backseat. She literally watched her car get stollen with her baby inside. It's never, EVER worth that risk, no matter how quick you think you're going to be!!!



Devil's advocate here...in the UK (where it sounds like poster is possibly from). You almost always have to pay for petrol inside. Not saying I do this, but it is very common to leave your child in the car while you go in and pay. I see it all the time. Also, crime here in most places is not at all like it is in the States.

apickett925

KatelynEA90 said:

MrsGraham06 said:

pennstated912 said:

I disagree. My nephew sees riding in the cart as a punishment because he isn't walking like the other big kids(he is 3). Also, leaving doesn't work for all situations. What are you doing to do if your toddler is screaming because she wants to go back outside? Taking her outside would be exactly what she wants and certainly isn't teaching her how to behave in a store.

There's a BIG difference between sitting in the cart VS. standing in the cart.  My statement that started this was about standing in the cart.  They're not made to handle objects higher then the sides and tip very easily when the center of gravity is raised.  

I'm all about picking battles, that's one I can't give in on based on what I've personally witnessed.

hopeful808

@katelynea90 While it may not work in every situation it is another option. The person I quoted made it seem like there aren't other options to having an unruly child ride in a shopping cart. Which IMHO can be extremely dangerous, especially if being in the cart doesn't calm the child down. My mom tried to put my in a cart once because I threw a fit in a store, I stood up and fell out of the cart trying to escape and hit my head on the floor.  I was ok, but it could have been very bad.  

KatelynEA90

@hopeful808 @apickett925

I agree about sitting vs standing.

angiek1

JmeMichelle said:

Another one I just thought of, and DH is in total agreement:
 
Allow my kid to have a cell phone or social networking before the age of 16. And I think 16 is generous. No need for all of that nonsense. The only reason she will have a phone at 16 is because she will be legal to drive and I want to keep tabs.

While I agree kids don't necessarily need their own phone, we will have a spare phone that we rotate between the kids. It'll be a straight up cell phone w/o the bells and whistles. This way if they are at an activity that we aren't present at they have a way to reach us. 

"back in my day" we had pay phones, since those are essentially obsolete I will want my kids to have a way to reach me.  I know they can ask to borrow someone's phone, but I'd rather them have a way to connect with me in case of an emergency. 

I don't think we'll have age dictate privileges; I was 16 when I got a no curfew because I showed my parents I was responsible.   My sister didn't get the same no curfew until she was 18.   I think if my child is within the terms of use age group and understands the responsibility needed to have a social profile I will let them have an account.

BabyChill

@ac1259 - I did not think about in those cases. But I guess that I am spoiled because my husband always brings in the groceries and he does the yard work too. So I never do those. My MIL would not put the kids in a pack n play or have them in a crib while napping. I am talking about leaving a 2 year old just sitting in the floor in front of a tv not being ok while you are out of the house.

growingmybun

Mrs.Awesome said:

Never will I ever let my child sit at the table with headphones on, reading a book, or playing video games during meal time.

I try hard not to judge the parenting choices of others and I know there are things far worse than reading at the dinner table, but for some reason it drives me crazy to see this out at restaurants.

You may change your mind on this one when you have a kid that runs around a restaurant if they aren't occupied. Perhaps you overestimate the attention span of toddlers.