FFFC?

MarisaKathleen

LoisLayn23 said:

MarisaKathleen said:

LoisLayn23 said:

MarisaKathleen said:

I didn't find the Supermom thread offensive.  I know I'm an awesome Mom.  I don't need my internet friends who have never met my kid to validate that for me.  Also, if I did want that, I would sit here and AW all of the awesome things I do, because seriously, I do a lot of awesome things for and with my small person.

FFFC: My DHs Grandpa died this morning.  It's our last grandparent.  I feel terrible that I'm at work when I know that my DH is having such a hard time.  I have a program orientation this afternoon and have 15 students coming, and it's too late for me to reschedule them all when my next meeting isn't until 10/23.  I'm irritated that my SIL posted about it on FB and even more irritated that she posted that it was so hard to hear my FIL crying about it.  My FIL cheated on his wife (Grandpa was MIL's Dad) and hasn't seen that side of the family more than 1x since our wedding 5 years ago.  My SIL does things so very, very different than DH and I do.  It's like my husband was raised by respectful, normal wolves, while SIL was raised by her loser father.  

Nor do we, and that wasn't the point of our drinking in a closet woes.

I didn't say you did.  I said I didn't personally find it offensive for the reasons I stated.  I wasn't calling you or anyone else out.  If you want to drink in your closet for any reason at all, that's cool with me. 

You insinuated that we were offended because of the reasons you listed and that you werent

I'm not in control of how you interpret things.  I apologize if that's how you took it, but all I did was tell you why I WASN'T offended since there were several people who brought it up or commented on it.  I was giving my opinion, the same way people were chiming in about retarded, gay and everything else.  I didn't have anything to say about that, I had something to say about the other thread.  Like I said, sorry if that's how you interpreted it, but I wasn't thinking about you or anyone else who was whatever about it when I wrote my response.

hmp1

We don't eat at CFA anymore. It wasn't difficult for us to give up but I do sometimes miss their breakfast. 

hmp1

thechimichanga said:

I find myself judging the moms at daycare who are in gym clothes. Not because they are in gym clothes and dropping their LOs off at daycare. It is solely because I am jealous that they are going to the gym and I wish I had that kind of time.

I always wonder what people think I do since I drop off the kids in yoga pants and flip flops pretty much every day. I wonder if anyone thinks I'm a SAHM with 2 kids in daycare.

Pokedot

LoisLayn23 said:

Pokedot said:

After reading 3 pages:

1. I don't think the "Super Mom" thread should make any of us feel inadequate as a mom. I "shouted" out to all mom's because damn it it's hard. Whether you're single, married, working. SAHM it's hard! We all have our ups and downs, our strengths and weaknesses! We are all doing the best we can with what we have!

2. We've been having some health issues to deal with with my 86 year old grandma. She's the last grandparent I have. Today we got the diagnosis that she has bone marrow cancer. She's as frail as frail can be and literally probably 90 lbs. I'm doing all I can to hold it together right now. I've been more involved in her care and choices than her own son (my uncle) and right now I want to shit stomp him for his lack of concern. She constantly seeks his approval and he does nothing but get short with her and only help when it benefits him. I guess this really isn't a FFFC unless me stomping on him is considered it.

3. @MarisaKathleen I'm sorry for your loss! Losing anyone is never easy. It seems especially difficult when your spouse losses someone close.

I'm sorry you are going through this. Maybe he's just coming to the realization that she's 86, lived a good life, and that pursuing treatment may not be in her best interest?

Unfortunately not. He's always been anti social and not as family orientated with our side but his wife (soon to be ex's side) he was always close. They are very similar so I understand that is why they butt heads. He was recently diagnosed with OCD as is my grandma but he has NO patience for her whatsoever. I feel bad for her but I think she finally realizes how he is. It only took 43 years! Also he's the baby and she had him when she was 43 (9 years between him and my dad.) He's just a butthead! But thank you for the condolences! We'll see how it goes!

eshee8198

hmp1 said:

thechimichanga said:

I find myself judging the moms at daycare who are in gym clothes. Not because they are in gym clothes and dropping their LOs off at daycare. It is solely because I am jealous that they are going to the gym and I wish I had that kind of time.

I always wonder what people think I do since I drop off the kids in yoga pants and flip flops pretty much every day. I wonder if anyone thinks I'm a SAHM with 2 kids in daycare.

I've been wearing yoga pants and a sweater when I drop DD off on Mondays, since that's the day I work from home. DH would die if he saw me, since he knows I firmly believe that yoga pants/tights should not be worn as real pants.

icedcoffeeluv

eshee8198 said:

hmp1 said:

thechimichanga said:

I find myself judging the moms at daycare who are in gym clothes. Not because they are in gym clothes and dropping their LOs off at daycare. It is solely because I am jealous that they are going to the gym and I wish I had that kind of time.

I always wonder what people think I do since I drop off the kids in yoga pants and flip flops pretty much every day. I wonder if anyone thinks I'm a SAHM with 2 kids in daycare.

I've been wearing yoga pants and a sweater when I drop DD off on Mondays, since that's the day I work from home. DH would die if he saw me, since he knows I firmly believe that yoga pants/tights should not be worn as real pants.

I'm sorry @eshee8198 but we cannot be friends. I firmly believe yoga pants should be the only acceptable form of bottoms. Tights are a different story.

MommaP12

I have 2:

I used a dryer sheet with all of DD's clothes I washed from her bday party.  Her skin should be tougher now and I'm not dealing with static!!

I ordered $85 worth of Gymboree clothes when someone posted the sale on here.  They shipped me the same exact order twice.  I'm keeping the clothes and the gym bucks.  DH said all monopoly style "the bank made an error in your favor."  

Pokedot

eshee8198 said:

hmp1 said:

thechimichanga said:

I find myself judging the moms at daycare who are in gym clothes. Not because they are in gym clothes and dropping their LOs off at daycare. It is solely because I am jealous that they are going to the gym and I wish I had that kind of time.

I always wonder what people think I do since I drop off the kids in yoga pants and flip flops pretty much every day. I wonder if anyone thinks I'm a SAHM with 2 kids in daycare.

I've been wearing yoga pants and a sweater when I drop DD off on Mondays, since that's the day I work from home. DH would die if he saw me, since he knows I firmly believe that yoga pants/tights should not be worn as real pants.

I would wear yoga pants every day if I could. That shit is comfy!

jbBeans

I felt the supermom post kind of pointed out that we're all "supermom" in some way or another--that the woman who is perfect in every way doesn't exist but that we're all great for various reasons.

Also, I think that just like the compliment threads, people who participate are the ones who tend to get mentioned. Now in my case, that didn't actually happen, but it was worth a shot, right? :P

hmp1

LuvSD said:

Based on the UO. I think if your parents can and want to help you out then that's great. I don't think it makes you any less of an adult. My parents help me out a lot. I'm a always very grateful and don't take advantage of them. I don't see this as a problem.

I think there is a big difference in giving an adult child money for school or paying for their wedding or giving them money for a down payment on a house/car or give them free childcare..., and using health care that they are not paying for.

willy_gert

MommaP12 said:

I have 2:

I used a dryer sheet with all of DD's clothes I washed from her bday party.  Her skin should be tougher now and I'm not dealing with static!!

I ordered $85 worth of Gymboree clothes when someone posted the sale on here.  They shipped me the same exact order twice.  I'm keeping the clothes and the gym bucks.  DH said all monopoly style "the bank made an error in your favor."  

I have to say that I don't think the second one is right at all.  It is lying and stealing by omission.  

Pokedot

MommaP12 said:

I have 2:

I used a dryer sheet with all of DD's clothes I washed from her bday party.  Her skin should be tougher now and I'm not dealing with static!!

I ordered $85 worth of Gymboree clothes when someone posted the sale on here.  They shipped me the same exact order twice.  I'm keeping the clothes and the gym bucks.  DH said all monopoly style "the bank made an error in your favor."  

I have to say that I don't think the second one is right at all.  It is lying and stealing by omission.  

I agree! Plus what would you do with 2x the exact same clothes? Also I've been using softener with DS's clothes for a while now. I was all "dye free detergent" then gave up. He's perfectly fine!

Flamingemu

MommaP12 said:

I have 2:

I used a dryer sheet with all of DD's clothes I washed from her bday party.  Her skin should be tougher now and I'm not dealing with static!!

I ordered $85 worth of Gymboree clothes when someone posted the sale on here.  They shipped me the same exact order twice.  I'm keeping the clothes and the gym bucks.  DH said all monopoly style "the bank made an error in your favor."  

I have been using dryer sheets for months. I usually lump all our wash together anyway and have found that my skin is more sensitive than hers. 

As for the Gymboree, my conscience would KILL me. I equate that to theft even if it wasn't intentional. I have had that happen to me twice before and both times when I called the company, they let me keep everything anyway, 

MommaP12

Flamingemu said:

MommaP12 said:

I have 2:

I used a dryer sheet with all of DD's clothes I washed from her bday party.  Her skin should be tougher now and I'm not dealing with static!!

I ordered $85 worth of Gymboree clothes when someone posted the sale on here.  They shipped me the same exact order twice.  I'm keeping the clothes and the gym bucks.  DH said all monopoly style "the bank made an error in your favor."  

I have been using dryer sheets for months. I usually lump all our wash together anyway and have found that my skin is more sensitive than hers. 

As for the Gymboree, my conscience would KILL me. I equate that to theft even if it wasn't intentional. I have had that happen to me twice before and both times when I called the company, they let me keep everything anyway, 

It is killing me but DH was like "they should keep better track of that."  I think I'm going to call them and see what they say.  It's like 7 items that came in a huge box and I don't want to have to pay the shipping for their mistake either because it won't be cheap so their mistake would be screwing me. I don't have a store near me at all to bring them too either.  I'll call them.

MarisaKathleen

Last Christmas I ordered something from Kohl's and they shipped me my whole order twice.  When I went to the store and explained it, the woman returned all my duplicate stuff and I left.

I opened my charge bill the next month and she had returned it to my credit card, vs just returning it to them.  

At that point there was no way I was going to call them and tell them their mistake for a 2nd time.  I felt like it was the universe's way of saying "here's $73 on us."

MommaP12

MarisaKathleen said:

Last Christmas I ordered something from Kohl's and they shipped me my whole order twice.  When I went to the store and explained it, the woman returned all my duplicate stuff and I left.

I opened my charge bill the next month and she had returned it to my credit card, vs just returning it to them.  

At that point there was no way I was going to call them and tell them their mistake for a 2nd time.  I felt like it was the universe's way of saying "here's $73 on us."

I feel like Kohl's pays people to shop normally anyway, LOL!  

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BillyMollyEmmy

The Gymboree mistake wouldn't make me feel guilty at all. I'd keep that shiz.

MommaP12

BillyMollyEmmy said:

The Gymboree mistake wouldn't make me feel guilty at all. I'd keep that shiz.

LOL!  I actually called and they told me to box it back up and leave it with my doorman and they'll pick it up.  I need good Karma, so I hope this helps, hahaha.  

mrsjenni

As much as I love the name Emerson Mae for baby girl, it's been so hard for me to give up the name Sawyer for a girl.  I almost wish I could name her both!  DH doesn't really like Sawyer but he LOVES Emerson (and so do my sisters/mom, and while I'd pick a name they didn't like without a problem, I do value their opinion) so Emerson it is.

But I want Sawyer too!

ETA: And I don't like the name Emerson Sawyer, so that won't work.  Guess I'll be naming my next dog Sawyer

MRoxy0628

shiggybop said:

Mh left our big dog outside most of the night by accident. I woke up to her barking. She has never been outside that long and was probably scared shitless. Mh felt like an ass and I didn't comfort him at all like I should have. I know it ruined his day but his lack of attention gave me anxiety about him caring for our pets and ds. I'm fully aware I'm being dramatic. Haha

Eek.  If MH did that, I wouldn't comfort him either.  And I personally don't think you're being dramatic, but I'm very attached to my dog. 

willy_gert

mrsjenni said:

As much as I love the name Emerson Mae for baby girl, it's been so hard for me to give up the name Sawyer for a girl.  I almost wish I could name her both!  DH doesn't really like Sawyer but he LOVES Emerson (and so do my sisters/mom, and while I'd pick a name they didn't like without a problem, I do value their opinion) so Emerson it is.

But I want Sawyer too!

ETA: And I don't like the name Emerson Sawyer, so that won't work.  Guess I'll be naming my next dog Sawyer

Sawyer Mae would be adorable!  I'm sorry you are having a tough time with this!

MommaP12

mrsjenni said:

As much as I love the name Emerson Mae for baby girl, it's been so hard for me to give up the name Sawyer for a girl.  I almost wish I could name her both!  DH doesn't really like Sawyer but he LOVES Emerson (and so do my sisters/mom, and while I'd pick a name they didn't like without a problem, I do value their opinion) so Emerson it is.

But I want Sawyer too!

ETA: And I don't like the name Emerson Sawyer, so that won't work.  Guess I'll be naming my next dog Sawyer

Sounds like you need to go for baby #5 so you can have Emerson AND Sawyer.

Hyaline

Sometimes the newspaper carrier leaves a copy on our sidewalk.  We don't pay to get a paper.  Should I return it?  Track down the guy and make him take the paper back?  Should I put the paper immediately in the recycling so I don't enjoy it, as I didn't pay for it?  Or should I do what I do--shrug and say, "hey, a free paper" and skim it while I have my coffee?

It's smaller than the Gymboree order, yeah, but if a company makes an error in your favor I don't think you're beholden to correct it for them (ie, spend your time or effort to correct a mistake that they made and that no one really benefits from correcting--they'd probably spend more shipping it back and restocking it than it's worth anyway). If you want to call, that's nice of you.  

Pokedot

As much as I love the name Emerson Mae for baby girl, it's been so hard for me to give up the name Sawyer for a girl.  I almost wish I could name her both!  DH doesn't really like Sawyer but he LOVES Emerson (and so do my sisters/mom, and while I'd pick a name they didn't like without a problem, I do value their opinion) so Emerson it is.

But I want Sawyer too!

ETA: And I don't like the name Emerson Sawyer, so that won't work.  Guess I'll be naming my next dog Sawyer

Emerson is the name we have for our hypothetical girl name. I heard it like 12ish years ago and fell in love with it! I'm kind of pissed its getting so popular (<-nothing to do with you of course.) The good news is that it isn't popular around here! Love the name and I'm sure once that baby girl comes you'll know it fits!

ifwisheswerefishes

1. I get irrationally hurt and even a little pissed when people on TB get up on me for what I post/say on my IG account. I know I shouldn't, but I do. 

2. I don't boycot. Ever. Maybe it comes from my being on both sides of an issue (grew up conservative Christian but I support gay rights, etc.) and having so many people telling me what I should and shouldn't eat, where I should/shouldn't shop, etc. gets me all twisted up. 

3. My grandmother passed away on Saturday, and I bawled like a madwoman that I wouldn't get to see her again, but I'm not sad that she died. She was so ready to see Jesus and my grandpa, she was old and lived an amazing life, and she left an amazing legacy. I feel like crap that I'm not MORE sad. But honestly, I'm HAPPY for her. 

Flamingemu

ifwisheswerefishes said:

3. My grandmother passed away on Saturday, and I bawled like a madwoman that I wouldn't get to see her again, but I'm not sad that she died. She was so ready to see Jesus and my grandpa, she was old and lived an amazing life, and she left an amazing legacy. I feel like crap that I'm not MORE sad. But honestly, I'm HAPPY for her. 

I had a similar reaction when my great-grandmother died 2 years ago. She was 96. She lived a long, full life. She deteriorated quickly at the end and it was just her time. I was sad to never see her again, but okay with everything much sooner than if she had been younger or it was sudden.

eshee8198

icedcoffeeluv said:

eshee8198 said:

hmp1 said:

thechimichanga said:

I find myself judging the moms at daycare who are in gym clothes. Not because they are in gym clothes and dropping their LOs off at daycare. It is solely because I am jealous that they are going to the gym and I wish I had that kind of time.

I always wonder what people think I do since I drop off the kids in yoga pants and flip flops pretty much every day. I wonder if anyone thinks I'm a SAHM with 2 kids in daycare.

I've been wearing yoga pants and a sweater when I drop DD off on Mondays, since that's the day I work from home. DH would die if he saw me, since he knows I firmly believe that yoga pants/tights should not be worn as real pants.

I'm sorry @eshee8198 but we cannot be friends. I firmly believe yoga pants should be the only acceptable form of bottoms. Tights are a different story.

@icedcoffeeluv - we can be friends, you just have to overlook me staring at your butt. I can't help it, it's the pants.

BillyMollyEmmy

I had a pumpkin spice latte last weekend for the first time ever and it was okay.. but not mind blowing or anything. However I do sorta want another one.

I currently don't like two of my three pets. They hate the baby. They pee everywhere. They wake her up in the middle of the night yowling. UGH. I'm over them. I love them, but I'm at my wits end.

IForgotMyLogIn

I just changed out of pajama pants, after lunch. I considered putting on yoga pants but went for jeans since we have to leave the house. 

danabsd

Baby #2 due May 22.

That's happening.  I am not ready to put it in my siggy because that will make it real.  I am still in shock.  I was sure AF was missing due to weaning.  I want to go to the doctor and get a blood test before we tell our families but I haven't brought myself to call and make one yet.

Yikes.

 

jenmbott

thechimichanga said:

I find myself judging the moms at daycare who are in gym clothes. Not because they are in gym clothes and dropping their LOs off at daycare. It is solely because I am jealous that they are going to the gym and I wish I had that kind of time.

The supermom thread also bugged me and made me feel like I should be more put together and do more for my kid than I already do when I'm just trying to keep my head above water, I imagined others felt like that too.

Hell, some days I feel like I'm barely keeping my head above water too.....FTR I'm the OP for the supermom thread.  The purpose of the thread was to make someones day, in one form or another.  I think people that did not like the thread may have felt certain feelings based on insecurities in their own parenting styles.  Personally, I know I've got a lot of work to do in the patience department and I'm pretty damn good at sticking to a routine for LO.  However, it feels good to be complimented, and one thing I'm trying to work on is giving more compliments when they pop in my mind instead of keeping them in my mind.  I am well aware that some posters may have gotten mentioned based on the amount of times they post or based on the content they post.  But if you can make it look damn good, I'm gonna give you a shout out.  I know there are plenty of bumpies that are doing a "super" job but may be more introverted or private, but the later posts that gave props to military families, single moms, SAHM moms etc....gave props to them too. 

On another personal note, I feel very insecure about my life (parenting style, decorating style, house maintenance, financial goals etc) after reading blogs of certain moms.  But I am aware that we all have strengths and weaknesses; and I keep it in the back of my mind when reading posts by these bloggers.  At the end of the day, as long as you are aware of your strengths and weaknesses and are making strides to improve in certain areas, that you're doing just fine.  You're NOT barely keeping your head above water. 

mrsjenni

Pokedot said:

As much as I love the name Emerson Mae for baby girl, it's been so hard for me to give up the name Sawyer for a girl.  I almost wish I could name her both!  DH doesn't really like Sawyer but he LOVES Emerson (and so do my sisters/mom, and while I'd pick a name they didn't like without a problem, I do value their opinion) so Emerson it is.

But I want Sawyer too!

ETA: And I don't like the name Emerson Sawyer, so that won't work.  Guess I'll be naming my next dog Sawyer

Emerson is the name we have for our hypothetical girl name. I heard it like 12ish years ago and fell in love with it! I'm kind of pissed its getting so popular (<-nothing to do with you of course.) The good news is that it isn't popular around here! Love the name and I'm sure once that baby girl comes you'll know it fits!

I don't really find it to be popular at all!  It's still 244 on SSA and it seems to be going up and down over the past few years.  I only know one person IRL with that name for their daughter. And I agree with you... once she is born we wouldn't be able to imagine any other name on her, I'm sure.

I hope you get to use it!

mrsjenni

jonesaj said:

As much as I love the name Emerson Mae for baby girl, it's been so hard for me to give up the name Sawyer for a girl.  I almost wish I could name her both!  DH doesn't really like Sawyer but he LOVES Emerson (and so do my sisters/mom, and while I'd pick a name they didn't like without a problem, I do value their opinion) so Emerson it is.

But I want Sawyer too!

ETA: And I don't like the name Emerson Sawyer, so that won't work.  Guess I'll be naming my next dog Sawyer

Ivy. Her name is Ivy.

LOL, so true.  It will definitely be her NN for sure!

thebanich

danabsd said:

Baby #2 due May 22.

That's happening.  I am not ready to put it in my siggy because that will make it real.  I am still in shock.  I was sure AF was missing due to weaning.  I want to go to the doctor and get a blood test before we tell our families but I haven't brought myself to call and make one yet.

Yikes.

 

CALL! And please make sure you have another girl so we can continue to see adorable headbands.

MeatballEsq

danabsd said:

Baby #2 due May 22.

That's happening.  I am not ready to put it in my siggy because that will make it real.  I am still in shock.  I was sure AF was missing due to weaning.  I want to go to the doctor and get a blood test before we tell our families but I haven't brought myself to call and make one yet.

Yikes.

 

CONGRATS!!!!

Oh and if you thought this was flameful you really don't know us

MommaP12

danabsd said:

Baby #2 due May 22.

That's happening.  I am not ready to put it in my siggy because that will make it real.  I am still in shock.  I was sure AF was missing due to weaning.  I want to go to the doctor and get a blood test before we tell our families but I haven't brought myself to call and make one yet.

Yikes.

 

Congratulations!!  Call!

MeatballEsq

LoisLayn23 said:

jenmbott said:

thechimichanga said:

I find myself judging the moms at daycare who are in gym clothes. Not because they are in gym clothes and dropping their LOs off at daycare. It is solely because I am jealous that they are going to the gym and I wish I had that kind of time.

The supermom thread also bugged me and made me feel like I should be more put together and do more for my kid than I already do when I'm just trying to keep my head above water, I imagined others felt like that too.

Hell, some days I feel like I'm barely keeping my head above water too.....FTR I'm the OP for the supermom thread.  The purpose of the thread was to make someones day, in one form or another.  I think people that did not like the thread may have felt certain feelings based on insecurities in their own parenting styles.  Personally, I know I've got a lot of work to do in the patience department and I'm pretty damn good at sticking to a routine for LO.  However, it feels good to be complimented, and one thing I'm trying to work on is giving more compliments when they pop in my mind instead of keeping them in my mind.  I am well aware that some posters may have gotten mentioned based on the amount of times they post or based on the content they post.  But if you can make it look damn good, I'm gonna give you a shout out.  I know there are plenty of bumpies that are doing a "super" job but may be more introverted or private, but the later posts that gave props to military families, single moms, SAHM moms etc....gave props to them too. 

On another personal note, I feel very insecure about my life (parenting style, decorating style, house maintenance, financial goals etc) after reading blogs of certain moms.  But I am aware that we all have strengths and weaknesses; and I keep it in the back of my mind when reading posts by these bloggers.  At the end of the day, as long as you are aware of your strengths and weaknesses and are making strides to improve in certain areas, that you're doing just fine.  You're NOT barely keeping your head above water. 

This is basically what I said, just a little differently. I said sensitivities. I don't think she's saying you're an insecure parent. 

icedcoffeeluv

danabsd said:

Baby #2 due May 22.

That's happening.  I am not ready to put it in my siggy because that will make it real.  I am still in shock.  I was sure AF was missing due to weaning.  I want to go to the doctor and get a blood test before we tell our families but I haven't brought myself to call and make one yet.

Yikes.

 

Yay!!!!!!!!! Congrats!!!

danabsd

hmp1 said:

thechimichanga said:

I find myself judging the moms at daycare who are in gym clothes. Not because they are in gym clothes and dropping their LOs off at daycare. It is solely because I am jealous that they are going to the gym and I wish I had that kind of time.

I always wonder what people think I do since I drop off the kids in yoga pants and flip flops pretty much every day. I wonder if anyone thinks I'm a SAHM with 2 kids in daycare.

I wonder that about a mom who drops her 3 kids off every morning in booty shorts and flip flops or ugg boots.