***Board Etiquette and Guidelines***

thomas930

kbuckleyharp said:

@thomas930 They want you to make Puppies and rainbows. Just like childbirth is completely painless and pretty :-) you make that happen too, right? :-D

Of course I can! labor is totally painless! How else would I be doing it for a third time!

This is where rainbows come from.....do you still want them around? I can't guarantee that they wont stink just because they are from unicorns....or as I call them, horses with swords on their heads!

christinanoelle

merlin974 said:

I think the problem is we are being regulated by Thomas and not baby bump.

Lol! The pregnancy hormones are ROARING on this site! LOL!

thomas930 was CHOSEN to be a moderator. That comment was completely unnecessary and rude. This post offers suggestions to make sure everyone's questions and concerns are taken in to account. It is not meant to control anyone or anything. Those of you complaining need to get over it or move on.

Asljoc

Oh, the butthurt! Some people need to get off their high horses. I appreciate the guidelines.

nikki912

Everyone just needs to chill the eff out. These are suggestions to help you, not alienate you. I appreciate them since this is my first experience on a forum and the etiquette and general feel was something that took time and experience to get used to. These suggestions will probably help quite a few people not get blasted. Say thank you.

Sisimama10

nikki912 said:

Everyone just needs to chill the eff out. These are suggestions to help you, not alienate you. I appreciate them since this is my first experience on a forum and the etiquette and general feel was something that took time and experience to get used to. These suggestions will probably help quite a few people not get blasted. Say thank you.

Same. I've never done a forum before and I thought the general intro was helpful. I didn't take offense to any of it or feel as though any of it was directed at me or making me feel excluded.

TexasGirl81

I have been a part of the bump for almost a year. Except now I came back with a new SN due to security issues with my name. If I would have seen this post a year ago it would have been very helpful and a lot of things would have made more sense. So ladies, appreciate it!

bootsiebabe

Pretty obvious that some of these ladies never spent time on the TTC board. This shiz would have gotten them flamed seven ways to Sunday.

BiggerinRealLife

I'm with @Sisimama10 and other PPs. Never done a forum in my life, and since I'm a bit of a loudmouth rather than a lurk and get the feel, I'm sure I stepped on some toes when I first got here. Luckily you nice ladies put up with me until I got it. It took awhile for me to get the hang of the vibe, when it was ok to post, the acronyms (thanks google!) etc. This would have helped me when I was new, and I loved it when the OP posted it and thought she should be a mod because of it.

If I could make one suggestion: after reading all the 'butthurt' comments on here, it occurred to me that maybe it's the name if the thread that sets the tone and makes this feel more objectionable. "Newbies please read this before posting" may make new people feel like they're in trouble before they start; it just has a less than welcoming tone. Maybe something like, "Welcome! New to our board? Start here!" Or simply just "Board Ettiquite and Guidelines," since I know there are some non-new people that probably need to read this. Not to be all sunshine and rainbows about it, ('cause y'all know I'm not) but in the name of diplomacy.

porterlove525

I would like to add that I second @BiggerinRealLife's rec to perhaps rename the post. I know in the beginning of August us PgALers were extremely hurt by a lot on the board and there was a great divide amongst the regulars and newbies. We've made a lot of progress over the last 3 months and I'm sure we will continue to do so, but I think we need to be supportive of one another and maybe stay away from words/terms that may offend people in a main (sticky) post/title.

I do think that this post and the rules are extremely helpful and beneficial to our little community. Even as a  regular who has been active on many boards here on TB, I still make mistakes (last week is a perfect example). We all have our days and moments and could all use a reminder sometimes.

I also think it's helpful, as intended by jap618 in the beginning, to ensure that your questions are answered and so are your AW's. No one wants to feel left out or like they did something wrong and it's so much easier to see everything and be supportive of one another if things are just a little organized. I think now that we're all heading into the second tri, organization will naturally occur, at least I hope so. And hopefully there will be a lot loss bumhurt comments made as well.

thomas930

@BiggerinRealLife

NP. Its changed! Thanks for the suggestion. I just kept what it was when it was originally posted.

I guess those of us that have been around the internet a bit don't find the term "newbie" offensive....

thomas930

ColleenSwerb said:

I don't understand how newbie is offensive at all. It's ridiculous.

I call the one in my belly a newbie! 

The horror!!!!

BiggerinRealLife

@thomas930 You rock! It shouldn't be a big deal, but since it obviously is, hopefully it helps.

bornmommy

To all those complaining, this is just one more post you can ignore.  I know I am ignoring it.  I do think rule rules are silly but its not going to make me bash the woman who posted it or leave the group because I think its silly.  Just move on along.  You add more fuel to the fire when you bitch about rule makers and the like.

thomas930

Ooopsbaby14 said:

It's not that repeat questions that are being regulated because they are repeats. They are being tamed to make sure no one is getting ignored. For example the other day there was a thread titled boobs then like 2 later there was one titled breasts. Same topic fighting for attention. One may have gotten more attention than the other. Both are worthy posts had they been joined they both may have gotten more attention. I don't know what the post count on either was just a for instance!

People don't seem to get this...its been stated over and over again that the whole intention of this post was to help with that not because we are annoyed with the repeats but people getting upset that their post was being ignored!. I think the complainers have a reading comprehension fail and complainers are just going to complain anyways. 

mrscrcalli

Happy Monday A14!

Mamamonzo

@mrscrcalli love it!! I've eye rolled so many of these complaints I have a massive headache! @thomas930 thanks for trying to explain 6,000 times what the purpose of this was! Some will just never understand....sigh...

thomas930

So just an observation.

I just looked back through all the comments and likes on comments and am realizing that the people complaining and the ones agreeing with them really don't even post here all the much. Now I'm wondering why in the world they care so much if they don't even join in on the regular conversations!

and I've also felt like posting this all day ever since I got called out for "regulating" the board.

and if I could shrink this down it would definitely go in my siggy :P

BiggerinRealLife

@thomas930 Why can't you shrink it? Isn't it just like any other photo? I was able to shrink mine. I only ask because I love love love it, and you should definitely do it.

Rrrrrachel

I think the new thread title is much friendlier . Being a mod is a thankless job, thomas930! There's always at least a few people who think you did the wrong thing, no matter what, so don't let it get to you.

thomas930

BiggerinRealLife said:

@thomas930 Why can't you shrink it? Isn't it just like any other photo? I was able to shrink mine. I only ask because I love love love it, and you should definitely do it.

Because I don't know how.... ">

see even I have newb tendencies B-)

thomas930

@Rrrrrachel

Thank you. I knew going in that I would have some haters...but I got some thick skin and am going to continue making a joke about it  

It helps to have the support of the majority of you lovely ladies too ((group hugs))

BiggerinRealLife

thomas930 said:

BiggerinRealLife said:

@thomas930 Why can't you shrink it? Isn't it just like any other photo? I was able to shrink mine. I only ask because I love love love it, and you should definitely do it.

Because I don't know how.... ">

see even I have newb tendencies B-)

Put it in your siggy just like you did with your other images, then get into the mode where you can see the pic. Click on it and little white squares appear on the corner. Use those to resize. You can do it within a post, too, before you post it.

thomas930

I'll give it a try...I actually tried earlier but I failed

Thank yous!!!

J&NL

I agree, the new title is much better. It's open to everyone and not so much for just the newbs. 

WifeofaComposer

Well... personally, I think @thomas930 did a great thing to repost this information, and the amount of disrespect from a few of the complainers is quite ridiculous. Thank you to all of the rational women who have been so supportive of this guide.

I guess it's a good thing I didn't post the original thread - because I can be the not-so-nice moderator. Hey Tom, we should play "Good Cop, Bad Cop"!!

thomas930

WifeofaComposer said:

Well... personally, I think @thomas930 did a great thing to repost this information, and the amount of disrespect from a few of the complainers is quite ridiculous. Thank you to all of the rational women who have been so supportive of this guide.

I guess it's a good thing I didn't post the original thread - because I can be the not-so-nice moderator. Hey Tom, we should play "Good Cop, Bad Cop"!!

Hehe I'm game!!

I've seriously just laughed at this all the nonsense complaints today..hence my nice new gif in my siggy. Andplusalso, I love Scrubs!

BiggerinRealLife

Yay, @Thomas930, you got the siggy! Love. It.

SeattleMomma

Good deal! I've been getting confused myself. This app is hard to keep up with. It would be nice if it was more open like FB. I'd love too be able to support and congrats everyone, but I only get on so often and I feel left out in most convs. I'm still trying to control my ADHD with taking my meds. Lol
Cations with stars attract me haha jk. Thanks for the update!

merlin974

Thomas, it was so sweet of you to re-word your entire post and the title on the account of us newbies. It made us feel so much more welcomed. I knew that you had good taste when I saw that Mastiff posted on your profile

Serenla

kbuckleyharp said:

@thomas930 They want you to make Puppies and rainbows. Just like childbirth is completely painless and pretty :-) you make that happen too, right? :-D

Wait... is? My mom has been lying to me this whole time just trying to gain my sympathy!

WifeofaComposer

aronie82 said:

I'm a jackass and I just have to throw my two cents in. I personally don't like that this is a sticky. This is not a TTC board. Many people like me just downloaded an app when they found out they were prego. But....... they are friendly guidelines and nobody is jumping down anyone's shit for multiple posts. I'm more if a free spirit. I do what i want and I get along here just fine. If you don't like the guidelines ignore them.

@aronie82 - and this is why I love you. 

Xxooxtina

These suggestions make sense. One thing i find is that its more helpful when post titles are more descriptive of the topic, not just something like "omggg!" I usually dont go into those posts, but instead look for ones i will know right off the bat what the topic is.

dhaas1313

My husband asked me if I still check "the bump" board. I replied no because when I do check it this is always the post at the top. This used to be a fun thing to read.... If you search for posts of questions that have already been asked sometimes it takes a really long time... If you don't want to answer don't, just don't be rude to someone that is already hormonal and curious. This is supposed to be fun and several if you are not making it. There is no right or wrong way to post.....

pineconey

If you hate it so much, then why are you posting here?

BiggerinRealLife

@dhaas1313 You don't visit here any more, which means none of us really know you or have a relationship with you, yet you felt the need to come on and complain on the only post that will stay at the top of the board, where your negativity will be preserved for all time? Makes perfect sense.

We'd better watch out ladies! Maybe we should rethink this post! No matter how awesome and supportive all the other threads are, no matter how much fun we have debating and telling jokes, no matter how much wisdom and help people receive on our board, as long as this thread is at the top our board is NOT A FUN PLACE TO BE.

BiggerinRealLife

pineconey said:

If you hate it so much, then why are you posting here?

@pineconey We are two minds alike. You're just much better at being succinct.

pineconey

@biggerinreallife I just have a low tolerance for stupidity these days- and a small amount of energy

thomas930

I love how people who dont even post here are the ones that complain about this. Do they really think we will all of a sudden change because of their comment?!

Take your own advice and if you don't like the thread then don't respond to it. Read the first two paragraphs and if you still don't understand why this is here to help then there is some pretty major reading comprehension fail going on here.

Edit: totally spelled comprehension wrong. Freaking auto correct! I should go to bed.

AcaAwkward

Is this "issue" seriously still coming up?

cloudninemom2be

ahhh, the craziness, the madness, the...Ladies who stop by just to complain? Man, it's getting to be a bit much with the complaining about this particular post.  It was a great idea to have this post, and to have it at the top where it is available without search is fantastic.  Kudos to every lady here that appreciates a little structure and has no problem with doing the research before posting a question that was asked literally a day ago.  Keep up the great job ladies...just because we are pregnant does not make us lazy to the extreme!