When you can't agree...

allardr

I was just wondering if anyone else had fun/different ways they came up with names for children when they just couldn't agree. For DD this is how hubby and I agreed to do it, but this was all done prior to knowing the sex.

DH got to pick boys fn and I picked girls fn, then I picked boys mn and him girls mn. That way we both had investment in either sex's name. We did have veto power if we hated a name. But it worked well when we had a list of 6 names but each had a different favorite. We're doing it this time around too, though we always seem to pretty well agree on top girl name, but this strategy helps with boys names which we never fully agree on.

Anyone else have a unique way they do it since so many couples have different tastes?

jyoung01

I make a list of names I like and DH vetoes them.  We keep going until there are actually some names left on the list and then we talk about which of those names we like.

jyoung01

HisGirlFriday929 said:

jyoung01 said:

I make a list of names I like and DH vetoes them.  We keep going until there are actually some names left on the list and then we talk about which of those names we like.

Ahahaha... this is totally us - god forbid he come up with a suggestion on his own.  We're still TTC, but now I bring names up right away on purpose just to find out if he HATES them or is "okay" with them so I don't get too set or excited.  I figure the ones he's "okay" with (not a long list) we can discuss after we (hopefully!) get a BFP.

I love names, so I don't mind being the person who makes the list.  And I do that, too--don't want to get attached to a name he hates!  We find out boy or girl in a couple months and it'll all get easier after that.  It's hard for him to be super serious about names until he knows if it even matters to be discussing girl or boy names.

jyoung01

HisGirlFriday929 said:

jyoung01 said:

I make a list of names I like and DH vetoes them.  We keep going until there are actually some names left on the list and then we talk about which of those names we like.

Ahahaha... this is totally us - god forbid he come up with a suggestion on his own.  We're still TTC, but now I bring names up right away on purpose just to find out if he HATES them or is "okay" with them so I don't get too set or excited.  I figure the ones he's "okay" with (not a long list) we can discuss after we (hopefully!) get a BFP.

And good luck!  Waiting to pee on that stick is the worst!

abbyful

Once we have our "short list", one picks the first and one picks the middle name. Next time, we trade.

With baby #1,DH got final pick on the first name and I picked the middle, so this it will be switched.

Scarlett&Gatsby

I have a running list, and run names by him periodically. I usually have him go over the list and find favorites. Every now and then he suggests something---usually a name from something he's reading. But mostly I do the research. I like a lot of unusual names, and usually he agrees to consider one for a while before vetoing.

jennyshawn0808

I always have a list(TTC or not) I'll run a few by DH every once in a while. He either hates it or says "Oh, maybe" He's really no help at all, haha. With DS1 I had his name picked out for years before. DH was ok with it. With the twins, he picked DD first name & DS2 middle name. I picked DD middle & he agreed to one off my list for DS2 first.

divinemsbee

@Scarlett&Gatsby That's us. We're still trying, but we've kept a running list. It was mainly in my head, but I've written it down in the back of a notebook. We add and subtract names or try them with different middle names in the book. We've pretty much decided on first girl/first boy by now.

ArmyWife114

We're pretty similar to most of the PPs.  We downloaded a baby name app (it ended up being mostly way out there names, real ones, but some of them were ... odd) and talked about what we liked and disliked.  DH wanted to use his name for a boy (he's a third), and I agreed on two conditions: DS got a unique (to the family) nn, and I got more sway in the girl name.  We both LOVE the girl fn we had picked out if DS had been a girl, but DH only kind of likes the mn.  He agreed to that mn because DS is a fourth, and it's a mn, you hardly ever use it in most cases.

Cherbear013

We run names we like by one another and they either get put on our list or we throw them out. My husband says I have the final say since I'm the one giving birth

KateLouise

DH and I have fairly similar taste in names, but we still have names that I LOVE and he hates and vice versa.

We print off a list of names of our general taste (old fashioned/classic) and then we each take turns crossing off names we simply wouldn't consider naming our child. So that narrows it down to a list of around 20 names that each of us would consider. 

From there we get into complicated ranking and mathematical sorting systems (we're kinda geeks like that)

It's tough when they cross off a name that you love, but we get over it.

For both our girls, we didn't have a name completed sorted before they were born. We had a list of 4 or 5 contenders and waited until we met baby.

KatFCo

DH and I both made separate lists. We tried to come up with 10-20 names and then compared lists. Any name that was on both lists went on the short list. Any name the other one absolutely hated was eliminated. Then we discussed them, including nicknames.

For the middle name, it was fairly simple, especially because DS's middle name was already set, according to family tradition.

Shobb414

Yah I have names and he says yes or no? If I ask him to think of some of his own and then I veto them he gets really grouchy! I don't get mad when he vetoes my names as much so it's just better that way . He just says no or yes and when I veto I give a reason and it's just not fun ;/!

allardr

I love how the women do the grunt work most of the time looking up names, etc. But like most said I enjoy it. So wish my hubby thought since I give birth I get more say

I do get sad when DH crosses off one I love (Evelyn sigh) but I compare it to if he had a name I hated no matter how much he loved it I'd always hate it and that's not good for anyone. So I get over it.