Summer Birthdays (weird question)

greeneyed_bride

DH and I are planning to start trying for baby #2 by the end of this year. Spacing-wise, we're both ready to start whenever (DS would be almost two and a half when LO #2 was born if I got pregnant this month.) The only thing that's holding me back is probably really, really stupid. I have a fall birthday, and when I was in elementary school, I always loved getting to bring cookies or cupcakes in to school for my birthday and celebrating in class. If we got pregnant now (or October or November), our child would have a summer birthday, and I feel like they'd "miss out" on the fun of celebrating at school. Even just typing it, I know how dumb that sounds. But... if you (or your kids) have a summer birthday, did you feel like you missed out, or did you like it?

greeneyed_bride

speer06 said:

I had a November birthday and never celebrated at school.

I turned 21 over Thanksgiving break in college and didn't celebrate then either.

DD has a June birthday and I'm not really at all concerned about her being able to celebrate at school by bringing in cupcakes, etc. Currently we celebrate with family (a lot of them) but when she gets older, we'll invite her friends over as well.

HOWEVER, if it's a concern for you, then postpone TTC a few months and your DC will have an August/September birthday.

From substitute teaching, I know that some schools don't allow celebrations anymore (because of religions that don't celebrate birthdays), but I wasn't sure if that was wide-spread. 

We were planning to wait until December, but DH would prefer to start sooner rather than wait (assuming I'm on board, obviously.) 

This is a long, boring story for another time, but I've been experiencing chronic pain in my lower gluteal nerve from day one of my cycle until ovulation for about six years now. It seems to be getting worse, and multiple doctors, a physical therapist, an MRI and an ultrasound haven't been able to figure out why. Hormonal birth control helps a lot, but I don't want to get back on it until we're done having kids (we're stopping at two.) While I was pregnant with DS and for the eight months until I got my first post-partum period, I was totally pain free. So that's another motivation to start sooner rather than later.

ncgirlgoingtori

DS has a summer birthday and I am not too worried about it. We will still have a party with his future classmates and maybe I will bring in cupcakes or something before school gets out. 

theseaword

I had a summer birthday. I didn't miss celebrating in school. It was better to always have my birthday "off" and be able to have fun outdoor parties.

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greeneyed_bride

Thanks for the input, everyone! I think I just needed to hear other people say it wasn't really a great reason to put off TTC.

klondikebar

Treats aren't allowed for birthdays at our schools anymore. They get a pencil, eraser or ruler and a little happy birthday crown in the younger grades here. They fit the summer birthdays in at the end of the year so no one is left out.

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phunkyphish

My birthday is in August, and it's awesome. We always got to do cool things like the lake, beach, pool and such for birthday parties. I wouldn't let a possible birthday stop you from trying. 

scoutkate

My birthday is in July and when I was in elementary school, I always wished I could celebrate it in class during the school year.  But it didn't scar me for life or anything!

Hesterlicious

I would love a summer birthday for my  kids so they could have outside parties instead of trying to rent a place that will fit everyone.

EMOmamma

scoutkate said:

My birthday is in July and when I was in elementary school, I always wished I could celebrate it in class during the school year.  But it didn't scar me for life or anything!

Same. The only real bummer was friends were always on vacation and would miss my party.

Team not-a-good-reason-to-wait

Maebb

I know you didn't ask for opinions from people with LOs with winter birthdays, but...

DS's birthday is around Thanksgiving, and if he had been late, he would have been getting towards Christmas. It personally doesn't bother me, but there's the chance that not as many kids will be able to come to his birthday party once he gets to a school age. Plus, we have a pool, but if we celebrate his birthday around the time of his actual birthday, we can't do a pool party.

My point is - there are other months that some people think of as "non-ideal" for having a birthday party, but I wouldn't let that dictate my decision about when to start TTC. Each birthday month has its pros and cons, and like PPs said, it isn't 100% guaranteed when the baby will be born, regardless of how carefully you try to plan.

PunkyBooster

If it helps, the schools in our district don't allow treats to be brought in due to allergies. With that said, we had aimed for a June #2 but it didn't work out. Birthday pool parties appeal to me;)

nanabanana06

I'd rather get pregnant now and have a baby in june/july than be hugely pregnant all freaking summer. Rosie is an August baby and it was horrible being big and pregnant during the heat. Horrible!! The schools in my area don't allow celebrations. Cade's is during Winter break as well so it's not a huge deal. None of them would of gotten school celebrations anyways.

SpaceGirlSpiff

I always had my birthday right after school let out for summer (May 30th), so never have experienced it at school.  I liked it that way, the last place I would have wanted to be was at school on my birthday.

But then again I despised school when I was a younger kid.  Kid's were assholes and I doubt they would have celebrated for me anyway.  (no friends, forever alone) ...haha

lollitots

I hate to tell you this, many schools don't let you really celebrate birthdays in class anymore. We have bring in a little non-edible something, but nobody does.

DD #3 has a June birthday. We are going to rent one of those giant inflatable water slides for her next birthday party. I think it is cool that she gets to do things like that. It will suck if she has to have finals on her birthday in the future (we get out at the end of June), but so be it.

DD #1 is born a few days before Christmas. That sucks. Her parties are always three weeks late because it is impossible to have a birthday party on her birthday and have people free to show up. She doesn't seem to mind though.

MamatoA2010

Both myself and DD have a January birthday and well, it just sucks. Its freezing cold here in January with snow. I had always hoped for a June/July/August birthday for DD but I got pregnant right away the end of May. Her parties are always inside and we usually have a shit-ton of last minute cancellations due to sick kids.

katlizabeth

I didn't read all the responses, so maybe someone said this, but I'm a teacher and we celebrate summer birthdays on their half birthday.

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I would rather have a kid with a summer birthday than one who just misses the cutoff for kindergarten.