This is a bit of a vent and am needing advice. I am 29 weeks today with our first and my wife and I are over the moon excited. I am adopted so this is also very exciting for me to have a biological connection with someone. My family is excited as this is the first grandchild, unfortunately they all love out of state which is about a seven hour drive. Their excitement has been surprising and heartwarming because they have not always been supportive of my "lifestyle". It's been disappointing because my wife's family, with the exception of her mom, has been supportive of our relationship but seem somewhat disinterested in the pregnancy. My wife's younger sister has been trying to get pregnant. When we stopped by her parents the other night and were basically yelled at for even mentioning anything having to do with my pregnancy to or around her sister. My wife was understandably very upset and I felt horrible seeing her like that.
When I was a kid I had a bad reaction to my Dtap vaccine so I never received any boosters. My OB has recommended that I not receive a Tdap until after I give birth and our LO won't receive her first Dtap until she is 8 weeks. On a recommendation from my OB and our pediatrician we have asked immediate family who will be spending a lot of time with us to consider getting their Tdap. My family is on board but we were also yelled at for asking her family. Her dad told us that if we are demanding such things then he doesn't need to be involved with the baby until she's been vaccinated.