Extremely emotional and Family is NOT making it any easier!!!!

thagy2012

I know I'm an emotional wreck. I get it. I'm getting angry and hurt by things I would normally not care about at all. However, my mother works with a man who has a daughter I went to high school with. She is getting married. She is wanting to borrow things from MY wedding. If it were another person, I would be fine, but this girl was AWFUL in high school, to me and my friends. I DO NOT want her using my things. I MADE these things, painted them, decorated them, etc. I don't want her using them AT ALL. I've given in to letting her use a couple of things, but the requests just keep coming and my mom KNOWS I don't want to let her use them. She gives me the "fine." answer when I say no that we all know isn't fine. I know I'm being immature, but I DON'T WANT TO SHARE WITH HER!!! Please tell me there are other women who are feeling extremely emotional and getting upset over trivial things?? I'm hoping I can get over this, but honestly, it's all I can do not to cry.

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PS. I KNOW I'm being immature, no one needs to remind me

FutureMrsMJ12

I can see where you are coming from. If it was a close friend of mine, I might think about it, but someone who was awful to me...no way! I think you need to have a talk with your mother. Maybe taking to her about it will bring back memories of how upset she saw you about this person when you were growing up!

awc1986

but this is the perfect opportunity to sabotage her wedding! mwahahahahahaaaah!!!! booby trap the stuff!

bumpuser9353653

Why does she want to take your stuff?? Did your mother offer it to her coworker?? I dunno, just seems weird. I wanted my wedding to be my own personal style... not someone else's. That just seems like she's trying to copy what you did.  I'd say "heck no. tell her to get her own stuff. sheesh!"

julesf817

This isn't you being immature! It's really weird of this girl you aren't friends with to ask her dad to ask your mom to borrow the DIYs from your wedding! she needs to make her own stuff or buy it.

what a weirdo.

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rainydayluck

F*ck no! I'd say no way! If you want to be nice, just say the stuff holds memories and you don't want to part with it.

akifyre

As the ladies above say, just say no. Its your things and where does it say you are obligated to give them to someone else? If your mother can not understand that, it is her doing, not yours. You do not need to worry about it, just let it go and she will get over it. Especially when she is distracted by grandbaby. My mother did that to me in the past, she would just give things that I valued to other people, pressuring me with the way they know how. Its been almost 2 decades and I still miss my little Egyptian doll she did that to. So, stop giving in and draw the line at what is allowable. 

Magheeta

You could sell rent them to her for a ridiculous price. PROFIT!

yvanehtnioj

Totally agree with all PP...first of all, she wants your stuff, but she can't ask you or even your mom herself? She has her dad ask your mom to ask you?? WTF! Even if she hadn't been a bitch in high school, that is no way to ask for a favor, especially for the use of what are likely very sentimental objects.

If she isn't taking the time & consideration to ask you personally, what does that say about how she'll treat your wedding things (or how reliable she'll be about returning them?) I say to hell with her.

thagy2012

I would lovingly hand over the things to a close friend, in fact, I did lovingly hand over things to my best friend for her wedding. It's not that I don't like sharing, I just don't like her. Like a few of you said, I'm not sure I'd even get the stuff back.
She saw the pictures on my mom's Facebook account, where she's tagged in most of the pictures, I suppose. I just don't understand why she wants so many things of MINE, a person she did not get along with. I would NEVER want her things in my wedding. She's just conniving and mean.
Thanks for all the support, ladies I was nervous about putting this post up, I figured I'd get knocked down off my high horse! Ha! I'm glad to know I'm not the only one who would feel like this!

cnk459

Oh.. I'd totally be all bitchy and say something to her like: 

"wow.. I'm going to have to go to your wedding, since it's going to end up looking EXACTLY like mine... but don't worry, hon.. I mean, I'm sure no one will notice that all these great things were already used at MY WEDDING... <sweet smile> "

soylatte

Just say no! You owe no explanation. Your mother can tell her you'd be happy to share resources, how you made things, where you got your ideas, but the items are sentimental to you and they are being stored as heirlooms. No, no, no. You should not feel bad at all. Plus, what if something gets broken?!