New here, starting work up again

AlexisLA

Hello, my DD is 3 months this week and I started work back up today. I'm lucky to be able to work from home and we hired a nanny to help out with the baby and other things during the day. I am wondering how everyone feels sending their child to daycare or having a nanny or relative take care of your child instead of you? I am having all of these crazy emotions today about it. On the one hand it frees me up to do work to support my family and gives me a break from 24/7 babyland (especially since DD was super colicky) but on the other hand I am feeling sad to not to be the one spending time with her during the day, comforting, her, etc. I know it's necessary but was hoping to commiserate.. feelings, thoughts, perspectives?

sgerrity23

Be glad you get to work from home. I cried on my way to work the first week I went back. Now 2 months later I am still heartbroken to leave her everyday even though my mil watches her.

HarleyKins

I work from home too but we don't have a nanny. I sell real estate so my hours vary day to day - some days I work 12 hours some days I work 2. When I am needing day care, I call up the grandmas or friends that do in home care. She's well taken care of everywhere she goes. Is there some way to cut back on your hours a little or start earlier/work later to spend time during the day with her? That way you can spend some time bonding or doing something fin together.

EmilyStL

From my experience, it gets easier as they get older.  I went back to work when my daughter was 6 months and for me it was very difficult until she was about 18 months.  After that, I stopped minding/feeling resentful about having to work, and just really enjoyed our evenings and weekends together.  I'll go back when my ds is 4-6 months (STILL haven't decided for sure whether to extend my leave) and I expect something similar, though probably (hopefully?) not AS hard since I've BTDT. 

 

AlexisLA

sgerrity23 said:

Be glad you get to work from home. I cried on my way to work the first week I went back. Now 2 months later I am still heartbroken to leave her everyday even though my mil watches her.

I'm sorry to hear this but I know I'd be the exact same way. ((Hugs)) Thanks everyone for sharing your thoughts. I am going to try to work more while she is napping etc. to spend as much time as I can with her.