baby shower

mchaloult

Two of my closest friend offered to throw my baby shower. The invites are out, the shower is in two weeks. Yesterday we met up to talk about decorations and food. We went to the store to look at the decorations and we picked out a few things. At checkout they asked me to pay for half of the bill. I didn't object or even hesitate. I don't want to seem ungrateful but should I be paying for that part of the shower? I enlisted my mother to make 80% of the food and I ordered the cake/ cupcakes, bought the cake topper, and the favor bags. They asked me to bring the drinks and meatballs. I have been to so many showers and some have been a surprise and other when it hasn't but I don't recall any of them bringing food items to their own baby shower. This isn't about money they make more than most do. What is your opinion???

sla626

Seems very odd. Don't go shopping with them for the shower anymore.

artistlife

My opinion is that your friends are cheap. That is incredibly tacky. If you offer to host a shower you host the damn shower. The host or hosts pay for it. It is a gift from them. You basically just paid for half of your own gift.

LoveOfMikesLife

Um... I've never seen the guest of honor bring food. I went shopping with my friend throwing my shower and I MADE her let me help pay. She also threw my first shower for me, I did not help pay for anything with that one. ( yes, I'm having a second shower, the horror)

CAileen

I've always thought of a baby shower as a kind of gift.  I just threw one for a friend and even though I've been out of work since a PTL scare in August and money is tight, I wouldn't ever dream of asking her to pay for or bring something to her own shower.  My throwing the shower in her honor was a gift, from me to her.

mchaloult

Lesson learned.. I don't intend to

Jordanamborn

Moms should not host or pay for their own showers. It is supposed to honor the mom to be. You don't honor yourself with a shower. Your friends should not have asked you to pay. If they couldn't afford a shower, they should find more hostesses or do a smaller scale. Tacky.

babymama619

I say you try to stay out if it as much as possible from here in out. Seems like you're already in pretty deep though. So not cool of your friends

mchaloult

We had a girl day. While we were having pedicures one of them mentioned a party store nearby and we should go to see what they had. That's how I ended up there...

lilybeth12

I agree that you should not be responsible for anything for the shower.  That said, our family shower MH and I ended up cooking most of the food.  we were looking at each other saying "how did this happen?!"  our second shower (with my work friends) was yesterday, and I felt really weird walking in with nothing.  My close friend shower is in a couple of weeks, and I havent had any input, nor do i want any.  and yes, i know that's a lot of showers, but they were other peoples' ideas all.

dobrydney

mchaloult said:

We had a girl day. While we were having pedicures one of them mentioned a party store nearby and we should go to see what they had. That's how I ended up there...

I probably would have fallen for this as well.  But I think it's really tacky that they asked you to pay for half of it.  They shouldn't have offered to host if it wasn't possible financially, as it is generally assumed that they'll pay for it--or kept it super small and simple if that is what finances dictated.

mbafall09

That's really awful of them to put you in that situation, and very odd since you said it wasn't about the money for them. Now I feel less annoyed about my co-workers wanting me to coordinate people's schedules and come up with a date for mine--at least they aren't expecting me to throw it myself!

MrsTucker2011

Don't you think if there were 3 of you total, it was extra tacky of them to ask you to pay for 1/2? You're paying for most of it, and it sounds like the rest of your family is too. Like PP said, don't worry about their hostess gift!