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nancy30005

Anyone up for one?

LuckyDad

Sounds like you have a good one?

nancy30005

I do. 

It's sad. I really miss the infant days. The constant fighting/whining/bargaining/yelling is wearing me down. 

I'm tearing up just thinking about what kind of mother I've become.

robinsokj

I am the opposite if you

Don't miss the infant days in any way

missyishere

Same here @robinsokj. I am down with never having a newborn ever again.

robinsokj

And this seems odd for this board but three has been much mch better than 2

robinsokj

The h and kids are gone and I've been having a nearly naked dance party all day

Not really a confession but that's what I'm doing with my day

robinsokj

And I'd laugh my ass off if the congregation across the street could see me

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nancy30005

emkatrine said:

@nancy30005, I agree with @justaphase the fact that you are worried shows how great of a mom you are. I'm stuck in a weird spot in my life where old friends don't invite me out because I'm not a couple so the dynamic is different. It's hard to ask DH's friends for help with certain things around the house because some of their wives don't want them to come over. I get it. The other night I couldn't sleep because I was fixated on how I shoulda just moved back to Austin where I used to live. I guess this is all just part of settling process. I'll make it work.

I love Austin.

I don't understand why their wives wouldn't want them to come over? Jealousy?

(((hugs))) I'd let DH come and help around the house in a heartbeat!

missyishere

MabelShesTheBomb said:

SookieFrackhouse68 said:

I miss the days when I wasn't a mom a lot these days.

Sorry. Bad morning.

*hugs* I had a solid 3 months of life recently where I REALLY missed my early 20's. I think you and I are the same age with the same number of kids. We're whiny soul sisters.

More of a reason you need to tailgate with us; we can all pretend we're 21 and act like fools together.

LuckyDad

mbenit4 said:

If I didn't have to deal with the infant stuff I would have more kids.

I love having a toddler. I guess I really like not having to carry anyone anymore.

Oh, you don't have carry a toddler?

nancy30005

Wow. Sounds like a bummer morning for everyone. 

Sending lots of Happy Happy Happies!

LuckyDad

emkatrine said:

Thanks everyone!

@nancy30005 yeah I had a friend tell me his wife told him she didn't want him to come by and help me with figuring out why the pool pump wouldn't work (they had the same kind) because I'm single now. I'm not dating, I doubt I ever will. He was really upset because he said he missed seeing DS.

It's not like I was planning on being outside in a bikini and slathering baby oil all over myself. I was gonna take it as an opportunity to close the bathroom door and shit in peace. Lol!

Jesus Christ, what year is it?

I am genuinely upset for you. My mom was older when my dad died, we were all out of the house, but her neighbors kept coming by and doing all kinds of stuff for her. This is what decent people do.

nanabanana06

Dating with kids sucks ass. It just does.

I got a text from MIL that Rosie is sick too. So now we're going to have 2 sick kids. I'm really contemplating pouring vodka in my coffee.

wiggyslilsis

I woke up with a headache and I am trying not to take it out on DH and DD. I am sorry for the crappy mornings all around

CindyRelluh

robinsokj said:

I am the opposite if you

Don't miss the infant days in any way

Agreed. The infant days to me are the worst. It wears me down, having to constantly cater to someone. I love my babies, but I'd be lying if I said my toddler isn't easier. She refuses to pt, but at least she can feed herself!

Mine is I still talk to my ex from England. Well, by talk I mean we snapchat. He has a gf, but we never got closure, so I think there are still some old feelings there. DH sort of knows, but I'm not sure he would care anyway.

I suppose I'll add that DH and I have no spark, and I feel divorce is inevitable in the future.

nancy30005

@TabbiC

I am so, so sorry. We were "no spark" shortly after DS was born. We got over it though, hopefully you guys will too!

(((hugs)))

missyishere

I'm really sorry @tabbic.  I hope you are capable of reaching out to your DH to express your concerns and are able to work things out.  If not, I wish you the strength to get through whatever you need to do for yourself and your family. 

PinkyFloyd73

emkatrine said:

Thanks everyone! @nancy30005 yeah I had a friend tell me his wife told him she didn't want him to come by and help me with figuring out why the pool pump wouldn't work (they had the same kind) because I'm single now. I'm not dating, I doubt I ever will. He was really upset because he said he missed seeing DS. It's not like I was planning on being outside in a bikini and slathering baby oil all over myself. I was gonna take it as an opportunity to close the bathroom door and shit in peace. Lol!

That is really shitty. I'm going to guess it's a combination of her being insecure, not trusting her husband, and you being so incredibly sexy that her husband is powerless to prevent his penis from falling into you. 

PinkyFloyd73

I've been neglecting my health for a long time. After looking into hypothyroidism I think it's a good chance that's what's going on, and I read that it needs to be monitored during pregnancy. We are TTC, so you would think that would be motivation for me to pick up the phone, but no. I need to suck it up and make the call.

virgin4lyfe

@pinkyfloyd73 hypothyroidism sucks balls. I have it. Please call. At least for me it helped me because I was napping most of the day and fatigued when I was awake. I'm still not an energetic person but at least I can function now that I'm being treated.

nancy30005

@pinkyfloyd73

Definitely get it checked out. Synthroid changed my life. And you can take it while pregnant and nursing. GL!!

msdrdg

I too miss the infant days.  Infants don't talk back! 
I love DS like crazy, but days like today make me wonder why anybody would every want more than one.  Dealing with DS and an infant, I think I would be in the loony bin.


That said, I am still incredibly sad that we cannot have a 2nd.

PinkyFloyd73

emkatrine said:

I've been neglecting my health for a long time. After looking into hypothyroidism I think it's a good chance that's what's going on, and I read that it needs to be monitored during pregnancy. We are TTC, so you would think that would be motivation for me to pick up the phone, but no. I need to suck it up and make the call.

I had my GYN do the panels for me before pregnancy and then during. I was always borderline, but stayed on the normal side. Think yours could fit you in? If I'm not mistaken and you are hypo, it will help with the TTC part if you get it treated, right?

I'm not sure, but that's what I worry about. I actually wanted to find a new OB because I wasn't happy with the way they handled things with my last pregnancy and m/c, so I was just going to find a GP for a regular health check up and to have my thyroid tested. 

Thank you for encouragement @emkatrine@nancy30005KJLx121

LadyXaverian

emkatrine said:

@nancy30005, I agree with @justaphase the fact that you are worried shows how great of a mom you are. I'm stuck in a weird spot in my life where old friends don't invite me out because I'm not a couple so the dynamic is different. It's hard to ask DH's friends for help with certain things around the house because some of their wives don't want them to come over. I get it. The other night I couldn't sleep because I was fixated on how I shoulda just moved back to Austin where I used to live. I guess this is all just part of settling process. I'll make it work.

These don't sound like very good friends. I'm sorry.

ETA: I see this has been covered. lol
 

robinsokj

Hopefully no family is lurking bc I haven't "outed" myself yet but I always felt divorce was inevitable as well. I've just started going to counseling and plan to go back to school since I'm a sahm with little prospects.

I'd recommend a therapist. I'm really really happy I've found one

CindyRelluh

That's ladies. We've talked about it, and are working on it for now. I suppose only time will tell.

LoveActually4

@sunnydays26 you're a saint. I don't know how you do it and I wish you a happy, smooth transition when your H comes home.

Maebb

My FFSC is that I just added "hot fudge" to the grocery list because I'm running low, and obviously that is a staple. Lol. I know I could make it myself, but I'm lazy.

Also, DS ate guacamole and refried beans for dinner tonight. I know his next #2 diaper will be awful, and I'm kind of hoping he doesn't have it until he is at daycare tomorrow. I am awful.