Marriage low points

Maebb

So, I'm pretty sure most married people would agree that marriage is hard work. Sometimes it is awesome, and you feel like you have twinkling stars and hearts in your eyes, and sometimes it feels like work to even be around each other. I feel like now is one of the harder times. DS is almost 10 months old, and between taking care of him and both working, we don't spend a lot of quality time with each other. We just had a good talk about it, and we're going to be more intentional about respecting each other and nurturing our marriage, but it is going to take work.

For those of you who have older children, has the dynamic of your marriage changed, and do you have any words of wisdom? We're going to continue working on it, reevaluate, and then seek professional counseling if needed, but I am curious about how having children has impacted other marriages and what you have done to make it work.

MrsT0514

I agree with PPs that communication is key. Our son is 8 1/2 months and so far, its been challenging as far as juggling day to day activities while still communicating well.

Dh and I have been in couples counselling for about 2 months now and its definitely made a difference. Ita teaching us to communicate clearly no matter how tough or comfortable the bmp conversation may be...and thats helped a lot. But as you mentioned, marriage is hard work! Especially once babies come into the mix. But its all worth it in the end; right?

Hang in there! :-)