Mother-in-laws!

blueeyedbookie

Just needed to vent! The MIL likes to drop subtle hints or give "suggestions" that I should do something that she thinks I ought to do. Like, "You can turn off the light, if he'll (my son) will sleep better." Or she'll act like she's talking to my son, and say, like she did last night,  "Mom will have to lotion your arm more during the day, so it doesn't itch so bad." He has baby eczema and the inside of his one elbow is particularly bad. I'm just frustrated, because he's my son, and she has no idea what I do for him during the day! I'm like, let me and my husband raise our own son without your rude comments! If we want your opinion we'll ask for it! Anyone one else dealing with nitpicking mother-in-laws?

blueeyedbookie

Just good to know I'm not the only one! And yes, 99% of the time I ignore the comments. At the end of the day,  I don't need to defend my parenting to her. Thanks for sharing! 

nanabanana06

I know how you feel! My MIL is crazy cakes! My SO won't admit it, but she is. She comes over and constantly tries telling me how to parent. She takes Rosie once a week overnight to give us a break. Then she comes over and tells us how things are run at her house. She undermines our parenting by trying her "methods". Ect. It's beyond annoying. I've talked to SO about it, but he doesn't see it. I just learned to ignore her and continue with what I"m doing.

erinmc1

My FIL was really bad about this.  To the point where he got so used to saying whatever popped into his head about my parenting (and everyone else's interactions with my son), that he actually told my deployed husband not to get excited about our baby smiling at him on Skype, because he was probably just excited about the colors on the monitor, since I don't let him watch t.v.  I lost my mind, we had a sit-down, and things are still strained 2 months later, but he censors himself now. 

jamu

erinmc1 said:

My FIL was really bad about this.  To the point where he got so used to saying whatever popped into his head about my parenting (and everyone else's interactions with my son), that he actually told my deployed husband not to get excited about our baby smiling at him on Skype, because he was probably just excited about the colors on the monitor, since I don't let him watch t.v.  I lost my mind, we had a sit-down, and things are still strained 2 months later, but he censors himself now. 

erinmc1 said:

My FIL was really bad about this.  To the point where he got so used to saying whatever popped into his head about my parenting (and everyone else's interactions with my son), that he actually told my deployed husband not to get excited about our baby smiling at him on Skype, because he was probably just excited about the colors on the monitor, since I don't let him watch t.v.  I lost my mind, we had a sit-down, and things are still strained 2 months later, but he censors himself now. 

That is truly awful!

sschwege

Yup, yup, yup, sounds familiar!  As the years have gone on, it's actually been easier on us thank goodness.  I think it helps that 3 years ago she had 2 grandchildren and now she has 4.  Perhaps that takes some of the focus off of each of them.  Plus this isn't exactly my first rodeo here.  

But I hear ya, I can't tell you how many times she used to try to get us to give DD vitamins.  Each time I would try to calmly explain that her pedi said they weren't necessary and a month or two later, "We used to give our sons vitamins.  Have you considered that?"  No joke DD used to eat peas like candy, by the bowl full!  Still loves her veggies and is still a great eater.  Mind your own business!  I could go on and on.  

Carry yourself with confidence and know that you will make the best decisions for your LO.  I know it's hard, but just try to ignore it.  The constant 'advice' just comes with the territory of being a mother.