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Jealousy

TwinkleTorTwinkleTor member
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Last night I was looking thru Facebook and Instagram and seeing updated pictures of all my friends who are due to deliver their babies around the same time I was (EDD 12.8.13) and I couldn't help but to feel some jealousy towards them. I know I shouldn't show envy, but I can't help it... I really feel like it isn't fair.
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  • HeatherhahHeatherhah member
    What you are feeling is totally normal after suffering a loss like we all have. Jealousy is normal reaction to this situation. We are all here for you.
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  • NoetholaNoethola member
    Sometimes you may need to block pictures, feeds, or status updates from certain people. That is okay. Do what you need to do to make it through a day. Blocking them in the short term does not mean you won't be able to unblock them later. Some days its all about survival mode.
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  • TwinkleTorTwinkleTor member
    I didn't even consider blocking temporarily! I think I'll try that! Thanks! And I'm glad it's a normal feeling... I felt so wrong for feeling jealous.
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  • bunnybun4bunnybun4 member
    what you are feeling is very normal.  my therapist suggested I get off of facebook and instagram for a while...and thought it was really hard it helped soooo much in the beginning.  I wasnt' ready to see and handle everything at that point.  A few months later I was in a place that I didn't feel as tortured by all of the posts and got back on.

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  • BrittianyMBrittianyM member
    Your right, its not fair. Everyone should have their babies here with them. I have felt that way also and it still will come at moments. Not sure when it won't anymore but what you are feeling is normal. I wish you some sort of peace.

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  • fluttergirlmoonchild79fluttergirlmoonchild79 member

    ***SIGGY WARNING***

     

    Completely normal.  I still have issues sometimes.  I avoided FB like the plague and made DH open any envelopes that came in the mail that looked like they could be picture Christmas cards (I was due 12/3/11).  It does get better.

     

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  • PerkyErkyPerkyErky member
    ***Siggy Warning***


    The jealousy (and anger) toward those who are still pregnant or announce a pregnancy is completely normal.  It isn't that you aren't happy for them, it's that you ache for what they still have. I highly recommend temporarily hiding people from your news feed or even taking a FB break. It is so incredibly hard. ((HUGS))
    Married 11/23/11, TTC starting 10/12, BFP#1 11/30/12, Adoption of stepson finalized 03/19/13,Loss of our daughter at 20w4d due to incompetent cervix 03/27/13, BFP#2 06/28/13, DS2 born 3/1/14.

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  • CaroleeCarolee member
    Your feelings are completely normal. I had to hide half of my FB friends for a long time after losing Eliott. I still feel jealous sometimes of my friends who have kids around the age he would have been. Hugs!
    Mom to Eliott Alexander, born sleeping at 37 weeks on 8/13/10. Most of us only dream of angels - I held one in my arms.
    BFP #2 - EDD 2/26/12 M/C 6/28/11 @ 5w2d
    BFP #3 - EDD 4/7/12 M/C 8/2/11 @ 4w2d
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  • TwinkleTorTwinkleTor member
    I didn't even think how I would feel on every birthday, or even on his EDD (12.8.13)
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  • shandorfml2shandorfml2 member
    Totally normal. We all go through those feelings. I have a lot of friends who had babies around when I lost Ana

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  • princezjkprincezjk member
    As PPs have said, jealousy is completely normal.  Sometimes I have so much anger over losing Izzie, I don't know where to direct it.  I found taking a break from FB helpful after my loss.  Now I have hidden about half my friends list so I don't have to see pics I don't want to.  Sending you lots of (((hugs)))
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  • DoublegreenDoublegreen member

    I retreated from my family members with children on Facebook. I'm sure that they understand. I also had to "Unlike" those baby pages that I frequented.

    Part of it is that I want to protect them from my misery. During my baby's funeral, I tried to reach out to pick up my 1 year old baby cousin, but I think I scared the crap out of her because she swatted me away. LOL

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