Sort of preemie related

Throw3ks

When did you feel like you were ready to be intimate again with your partner post baby? I feel having a preemie makes the situation a little different. My H's bday is in a few weeks, I will be 6+ weeks pp and our LO is on target to come home somewhere around then too from the NICU. I love my husband dearly and he has been better then words can describe to me and our LO and being intimate with him again would be so nice. Just to share that bond again...and its a free birthday gift. Lol.
I was on strict bed rest for 7 weeks leading up to delivery plus the standard 6 week pp wait, it will be will 13+ weeks. I feel ready but in the back of my head all I can think about is I am being a terrible mom to my LO for even thinking of something other then her.
How did you ladies handle this situation? Am I rushing it? Am I a bad mother for even thinking this?

ashleymarie512

Not at all! DH and I have actually done it twice since I went back to work/was released(two weeks ago, at 4 weeks pp). I knew how "deprived" he had been and he has been so amazing to me and LO that I felt even closer to him. Do not feel guilty, you need to take care of you too and if having some intimacy between you two is the way to do it, go for it! Have fun

Pips09

You are not even remotely wrong for thinking about it. Having a healthy relationship (including, ahem, relations) is important! You do it when you feel ready and don't feel bad at all..

Throw3ks

Thank you ladies! I hope I won't have a "mental block" in a few weeks!!

bennyandthejets13

Not even close to being a bad mom! It's perfectly healthy for you to think about other things other than your LO. We waited until around 8 weeks PP to DTD and be warned it might not be what you rememeberded it to be. It hurt like hell and it was a little awkward at first but like they say practice makes perfect you'll be fine and so will your LO.

Throw3ks

Oh no! I've heard it's not the "same" which actually makes me nervous but like you say, practice makes perfect!