11 month old visitation with BD

Sweetart2011

Hey ladies, I haven't been here in a very long time. But I need some opinions on visitation for my 11 month old dd. He used to just visit in my home but now he has asked to take her. I'm fine with it but gradually not just hand her over. She has never been away from me and he wants to take her friday night till monday morning this weekend. I'm not comfortable with this n he won't budge on doing it slowly. Am I overeacting? Or should I just withold his visits to one night. He is very spiteful and will do whst he wants n will make things as hard as can be for me. I want him to have a relationship with his daughter, he is a good dad most of the time but not willing to part that long from her for a first time away visit. What do you all think?

rachaelT28

You need to do what you are comfortable with. If he was respectful of you as her mother he would understand and let you work your way up to the longer visits.

EarthandFire

When I was crazy enough to try and keep the GD in my LO's life the court set up visitation as 5-6 hours for 12 consecutive visits before he could keep LO over night. Looking back I have no idea how I allowed him to keep LO over night but it did not last long and he missed one of his 12 visits so we had to start again. If you don't have a CO set up, get one ASAP. It's essential. If you have any doubts about that, go read through some of the posts on the blended families board. It may not seem like it now but you need a CO and this is just the first of lots of reasons why.

mamaHippo23

Does he have a lot of experience doing the essential stuff? Like bedtime/ naptime routines, preparing and feeding meals, car seat safety, doing age-appropriate activities, handling behavior issues. I would mention this list to him and see if he truly feels ready to handle all these responsibilities on his own.

inthelost

I agree he should respect you as the mother and work his way up on visits. I do not think you're being unreasonable at all