Secondary IF

Introduction from a Lurker

Hi ladies... I've been lurking for a little bit and each month thinking this will be "the month" and could move beyond the pain and frustration that the SIF journey is. Yesterday changed that and I'm convinced I'll be here for awhile (although praying not). My DH and I have a wonderful little boy who was born in December 2011. He was conceived the first cycle off BC. He is my everything but of course my dream was always to have lots of children.

We've been actively trying for over a year now with no success. DH had some issues with ED due to some medications for anxiety initially and went cold turkey off of them in March/April in hopes that would be the cure. Which it did.... but his drive wasn't great and soon after he was diagnosed with low T. So he started therapy for the low t (which he is not consistent with by the way) and we kept BD whenever he felt up to it.

I finally talked him into an appointment at the fertility clinic and he agreed although he couldn't get off of work to go. We scheduled all the tests and then he got upset when he found out he had to do anything. he thought all the testing would be done on my end. After bribing he finally consented and I did my first testing yesterday.  I totally know it is a pride thing. Right now visually I have a good number of follicles and we are still waiting for the blood work. I kept praying everything would come back clear with DH knowing what a pain in the arse it would be if anything was low... and of course yesterday we found out his motility is low. He has good numbers at 46m and good morphology but only 25% motility. He has just kind of brushed it off at this point saying his numbers are high enough that it should make up for it... truthfully I don't know. We ) are meeting with the doctor to go over all the results in two weeks and discuss options. (I say "we" when DH doesn't know if he can get off work again)....

Me, I'm just a nervous wreck... it is so hard when DH and I want another so badly and DH asks all the time if I think I could be pregnant and then it doesn't happen. I'm trying not to focus on how DH might react and focus on what will be will be but as you ladies know... it is tough.

Our Miracles: BFP- May 14, 2015... diagnosed with SCH. Collapsed Sac- May 29, 2015. Determined to be failed twin tetraploidy pregnancy.
"Never in my arms, Always in my heart"


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Re: Introduction from a Lurker

  • Welcome to the board. I am very new here too but really liking the "crowd" so far. Everyone seems really supportive. SIF is tough stuff. I hope your stay here is short & sweet.
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  • Hi there.  Welcome sorry you have found yourself here.  Sounds like you have a lot going on. Hopefully with time your husband will come around and understand that all of what needs to be done is important.   Focus on your health and sanity as much as you can and of course on your LO. 

    We are here for you if you need to vent or need to talk. 
    Hopefully your stay here is short.  


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  • .. And of course Good Luck! 


  • Welcome to the board!  I'm also new here.  I'm sorry that you and your DH are going through all of that and hope that your stay on this board is short and sweet.
    November 2010 - 10.5 week loss  o:) 
    October 2011 - DS (7)  <3 
    July 2014 - Stillborn DD (24 weeks)  o:) 
    August 2015 - DD (3)  <3 
    April 2018 - 5 week loss o:) 

  • Welcome, and I hope your stay is short! There's tons of support and advice around here :)

    Two DDs 10/08 and 08/10, no primary IF
    TTC #3 since 10/2011 - dx unexplained/weak ovulation
     3 BFN clomid + TI cycles, 5 BFN clomid/gonal f IUIs, 1 mmc IUI
    2/19/2014 IVF #1 Unexpected low E2 (oversuppressed) -> increased to max doses = 3 or 4 follicles, converting to IUI
    BFFP Saw 1 beautiful heartbeat at 6w6d, follow up u/s at 9w showed mmc. Eff this.
    NTNP 5/2014-9/2014, OPKs and TI 10/2014 - 1/2015. 
    RPL testing all normal, AFC, AMH, and FSH all normal. 
    IVF 1.2 1/22/2014 natural cycle start, AFC 28, 300 gonal f/150menopur. 
    ER 2/3/15 14R 8M 3F w/ICSI Day 5 transfer on 2/8/15 of one "Grade A+" blast and have TWO frosties! 


  • Hi! Male Factor IF is frustrating but your husband's #s don't sound toooo bad, FWIW

    Anyway Good Luck!

    Me: 27 DH: 33
    Married 6 years
    Conceived DS after 4 years of MFI

    TTC # 2 (not trying,not preventing ever)
    May 2013 - August 2013 Timed Intercourse = BFN
    September 2013 Timed Intercourse, Weekly Acupuncture, Herbs=BFN
    October 2013 Timed Intercourse, Weekly Acupuncture, Herbs, and "warming foods" = BFP
    Beta #1 19, Beta #2 18 Progesterone 4.6 Miscarried 11/9/13
    November 2013 - Benched, waiting for first post-loss AF.
    No longer benched per New RE/OB!
    Jan. 15 2014 - BFP. HCG 3900 - Ectopic :( 
    Jan. 16 2014 Left tube removed and D&C
    March 2, 2014 First AF

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