How long should it take?

Libby1978

For my kid to not get upset when he's dropped off at preschool?  He started August 20th.  He either cried at drop off or at some point during the day for the first few weeks.  Last week was the first week that he didn't cry at drop off or while he was there.  He goes Tues, Wed, Thurs.  His Nanny just texted me that he cried at drop off this morning.  I put him in preschool to help him get used to a bigger group of kids and a routine, not to make him unhappy.  He says he likes his teacher, but not the kids in his class.  From what he says he plays alone.  He talks about kids taking toys from him, which is totally normal but because he has only dealt with one or two other kids up until now he doesn't understand. 

Libby1978

Yeah, @BrandiBee, I think the fact that he goes 3 days a week is prolonging it for us.

s0ulchicken

I think DD2 probably had a 4-6 week span where drop off was pure hell, and she had been to daycare before, just not "pre-school." The teachers and her doctor assured me it was normal, but it didn't help me feel any better.

Have you spoken with the teacher or the director regarding his feelings? Maybe they could spend a few extra minutes helping he get acquainted and make some new friends. That might help ease the transition a little bit. I am so sorry that your DS is having such a rough time. It is really hard on a mom's heart, for sure. Good luck, and creepy internet hugs to you!

Libby1978

@s0ulchicken I have not talked to the director or teacher about him saying that he doesn't like the other kids and such.  I just thought this was probably normal since he hasn't been in a group setting before.  If it continues I guess I'll mention it to them.  I guess I'm just kinda hoping he'll "learn the preschool ropes" at some point.

Libby1978

@EXP_626 I love that idea.  I may try that tomorrow!  Thanks!

Libby1978

Thanks ladies.  I'm sure it will get better soon. 

s0ulchicken

Butting in to agree with @Spooko The kissing hand is a wonderful book. Even at 9, DS still insists that I kiss his hand every morning before he leaves for school!

Libby1978

I've never heard of that book, but I may need to check it out! @Spooko @s0ulchicken

shadypines

It will get better Libby.  DS2 currently in kin, goes through the motions. Sometime I blame it on his astrology sign. lolol GL

 

Libby1978

Awe, that's so nice! @EXP_626

thebanich

DD goes back and forth. The first day she didn't even react. For the last 3 weeks she has cried. Today she was happy when I left. I'm hoping that maybe the tide is turning. (She is only 2 1/2 though)