How different (or similar) are your multiples?

Rynleigh

Almost eight months in, and about the only physical similarities they have are their noses. 

They hardly even look like siblings, to us. 

Personality wise, they've got almost nothing in common beyond normal "baby" things (like wanting to crawl everywhere, chew on things, eat....) 

I love that I got two completely unique kids out of this - but part of me worries that they will resent having their "twin" status challenged for not looking alike or not being close enough, emotionally. 

For those with older kids, have they had negative reactions to how other people treat them as multiples? For looking too much alike or diverse? Are yours really close despite having different personalities and interests?  

**Note - we don't always dress them up in matching clothes LOL it's only for pictures, and only because people buy them matching sets - we don't intend to send them to school like this. 

CaliCarly77

Hmm - they look exactly the same to me, except maybe different eye color. Not sure why anyone would say they don't even look like siblings. 

I hope to treat our babies like siblings and try to avoid the "twins" thing as much as possible. Which, if they aren't identical, they are siblings that just came at the same time. I had a hard time being compared to my siblings and we weren't even that close in age. 

raraavis28

I agree w/ @CaliCarly77; I think they look a lot alike! I mean, there are differences but they certainly look like twins! I think babies tend to look more similar in pix, though....also they're more likely to look alike to people who aren't family.

Mine are ID but I feel like they really hardly look anything alike, probably b/c Luke is still a good 3+ lbs bigger than Noah....makes his face look a little rounder even though they have the same shape head, etc.

As far as personalities, they are definitely individuals! Luke tends to be more chill (though he has a passionate side!), is affectionate and cuddly, and Noah is Mr. Go-Go-Go, into everything moving all the time.....they do seem to have similar mannerisms, though, and often react to things the same way. As far as people reacting to them..... I think they're probably always going to get compared, unfortunately. It does kinda bug me when strangers meet them and automatically want to put labels on them (like if one of them smiles they'll ask "Is he the social one?" as if they both couldn't be social....) but I think that's part of the fun of being a twin.

Emotional closeness is also a good question. Mine have seemed really independent of each other from the start, but now, at 8 months, are starting to interact a lot more (babbling to each other, playing w/ each other through their crib slats, etc.) I think it will be interesting to watch their relationship develop as they grow.

pea-kay

Mine are so much alike, though as they get older, their personality differences are becoming more pronounced. It was something I really worried about. It's bad enough that they look the same, but thankfully, physically their differences are becoming more apparent as well. But for the first few years, people would ask me how they were different (personality-wise) and I'd be all, "uhhhhhhhhhhh...."

JodiAriel

My girls look nothing alike,  One looks just like me and one just like my husband but not at all like each other.  They also have completely different personalities, most people question if they are even twins when I am out with them.

PurrCrasher

My kiddos look surprisingly alike for being fraternal boy/girl twins. They both have this massively curly light brown hair which I think adds to it. Personality wise they are very different from each other. V is totally fearless and into everything. She's also highly emotional. S is Mr. Mellow and is perfectly content most of the time just hanging out. They are going through a bit of a copy cat stage right now which makes them seem more similar than I think they really are just because they're mimicking each other so much. 

BabyCarryingVessel

Wow, I think your boys look similar, just different eye colors, and cute as heck!

For us, there are very few physical differences. Same eyes, hair, nose, height, weight, etc. The only physical difference is that Julie's hair swirl is on the right and Kaylin's is on the left.

As far as personality, there's not much difference yet. The only thing we've noticed is that Julie is a smiley flirt in public and Kaylin is more quite/reserved. At home they are equally wild!

LottaLattes

Mine really look nothing alike, and their personalities are very different as well. My older two singles look a lot more alike but also have totally different personalities, which are also different from both twins, though each big seems to naturally gravitate to the one more similar to their own personalities.

macchiatto

This is another example of a set of twins that look a lot more alike to others than to their parents.

That said ... I have 4y8m fraternal twin boys that are VERY different in looks, voices, and personalities. For the most part people seem to think it's cool, actually. Like I have one with blond hair and one with brown hair, one is very rambunctious and loud while  the other tends to be more gentle and sweet, one looks more like DH and one like me, etc. I do sometimes get comments like, "They can't be twins! They look nothing alike!" and of course there are a few people who think non-identical twins "aren't REAL twins" but for the most part so far it's been more positive or neutral comments.

macchiatto

Oh and also, I find that having them occasionally dressed the same isn't a big deal if they look different from each other, and in some ways is even good b/c it helps people figure out more quicly that they're the same age rather than assuming and calling them big brother/little brother. (Mine are very close in size but one has a much older-sounding voice and mannerisms than the other, so people do sometimes assume that he's older. Makes me feel bad for his brother.)