Pass the baby problem

Kerrie11378

I am having a problem with my in laws. When they come over, frequently!, they play pass the baby. They fight over who gets to hold her, etc. at first I thought this was ok to get her used to being held by others and not be strange with different people. She is five weeks now and their first grandchild. I noticed last time that she was extremely fussy after everyone left, almost inconsolable. I chalked it up to over excitement. Yesterday after everyone left, the same thing happened again. I think it is just too much for her to handle. So, what is a polite way for me to tell my mother, father, sister, great aunt in law that passing the baby has stopped and will not happen again!!

Mom38673

I had this very same problem with my daughter. You just have to be face forward and honest. It's really the best way. They may act somewhat taken back at first, but they need to respect your wishes. Just let them know that she hasn't reacted well around groups of people. You understand they are excited, and you hope this is a phase she will eventually taper out of...... Until then, they need to just play with her when she is in your lap or arms. You may even need to take her to a quiet room for a little bit to decompress. You know what's best for your baby. Honestly, your family should want the same thing as well.

RockyR12

Maybe see if they can come over one at a time or in pairs. Too many people at once would drive me crazy too.

botanicalbliss

Yeah, just say no.  Or, give her breaks for nap time etc. during their visit.

Kerrie11378

Thank you for all the advice and also for validating my feelings! Her christening is Sunday so we will see how it goes then!! I may just make my husband be the bad guy with his family!

botanicalbliss

Another option is to wear her.  I find when I wear my LO people don't bug me about holding him even though I can tell they really want to.