Proposal Fails

Luckie519

So, DH and I are watching "The Five Year Engagement."  For those of you who have never seen it, in the first few minutes the couple is driving down the road and he had plans to ask her to marry him, but she asks so many questions, she ends up ruining the entire plan.

Anyways, when DH proposed to me, I ruined his plans.  He surprised me one morning, by waking me up at 4am and told me to pack my bags and be ready in 20 minutes.  I had worked until midnight the night before and was so exhausted, but got everything together.  We drove to the beach, watched the sunset and then drove to the west coast of Florida, where he rented a house on the beach for two nights.  Anyways, his plan was to take me out on the beach at night and propose to me.  We were hanging out on the porch, drinking wine.  When he tried to get me to walk out there, I was so tired, I was like "Let's just relax here and be lazy and drink wine."  He tried a few more times, but we just stayed on the porch.  He ended up waking me up in the middle of the night, and slipping the ring on my finger.  I feel bad I messed up his plans, but I didn't know!!!

So, DH says "This is making me mad all over again."  LOL.  Did any of you ladies mess up your DH/SO's plans when it came to proposing?

theimpossibleastronaut

DH kind of changed his plans. He asked my dad's permission, then told my family he was going to propose at a concert we were going to.

Instead, we had a sweet proposal in our kitchen. But when I called my family, everyone was like "we thought he was proposing at the concert!" DH just couldn't wait.

aforst

I didn't ruin it necessarily, but I acted like a major brat the day before. I kept going on and on to my friend, who was in town visiting us, about how it was NEVER going to happen.  I was doing it in front of him too.  She was in town partly to help him keep me busy so he could set everything up.  She just kept saying "no, I'm sure it will happen soon." 

He probably liked it b/c I was totally surprised the next day when it happened.

Nita2603

My DH, the major romantic he is, waited until we had worked both two weeks at an open air music thing and then sprung the question on me as I was having the first relaxing bath. He walked into the bathroom and said 'so, we gonna get married this year? Also, I'd like you to move to Canada (I was still home in Germany at that point).

Yeah, he is a sweetheart.

I regret nothing, though.

yunk11

I refused to go out to dinner with him on New Years Eve. I had worked until 3pm and I knew the restaurant would be really busy since it's one of the nice places around here. He ended up pulling he ring out of his sock drawer as I was laying on the bed. I still had no idea it was happening until he opened the box and I saw the ring. We had been together for 7 years at that point so I never saw it coming. 

talknerdy2me

We were going to spend New Years at home, just the two of us.  We had been invited to a party most of our mutual friends were attending that was being hosted by my ex-boyfriend.  I wanted to go, so we did, without me knowing that he was planning on proposing at midnight.

He proposed at midnight anyhow (he took me outside so we weren't in the middle of the party).  Some snarky friends still talk about how crazy it was that we got engaged at my ex's place, but to us, it didn't matter where we were.  DH was set on proposing at midnight and that was that.

missyishere

I screwed up DH's plans as well.  We looked at rings together prior to our engagement, because OMG we were together forever!  So the jeweler called me to confirm the styles I liked the most and informed me there were more styles similar if I ever wanted to come look.  

Apparently DH had already purchased the ring, but he had them call to throw me off.  This worked surprisingly, until the day he went to propose.  We booked a hotel, which we did often prior to DD, and I insisted we go look at more rings since we were in the same area as our jeweler.  He insisted we go to the pool before dinner.  I am far more bossy persuasive than he, so he finally agreed we could go.  As I was nagging at him to get going, he pulled out the ring and said, "well, looks like we won't have to go now!"  

He had some grand plan to propose pool side, but because I'm a nagging brat, I ruined his plans.  Ewps.

LadyXaverian

He *almost* had to propose to me in the toy aisle at Sears. We were Christmas shopping, and he had the ring in a box in his coat pocket. He says I kept bumping into it and he was afraid I was going to ask what it was. So, he walked into another aisle, pulled it out of his pocket, and put it in another pocket. He said he was afraid security might have seen him looking kind of shady hiding in one of the toy aisles shifting things around in his pockets, so he was afraid he was going to have to explain it to them in front of me and propose right there lol.

He managed to propose quietly at home later that evening as planned, thankfully.

LaurelBee

Dh and our good friends went out to a nice dinner and got a swanky hotel room in Chicago on NYE. We were drinking and getting ready to walk to the fountain to watch the fireworks and no body else was getting buzzed. I called everyone lame and continued to drink. They were all staying sober bc Dh was going to propose but all I wanted to do was get my drink on

Maebb

DH proposed to me, I said yes, and that whole actual engagement night was great. But my ring wasn't quite ready from the jeweler, so he proposed to me with my mom's ring. I was thinking, "Gosh, he doesn't know me at all proposing to me with a gold ring with a round stone." But then he explained, and I thought it was sweet.

A few weeks later, we were visiting his parents. DH looked in the freezer, and he was like, "Oh, you only have x ice cream? She likes y ice cream, so let's go out and buy the right kind of ice cream." I didn't want to go because I didn't want his parents to think I was a brat about icecream flavors, I thought we should save money and it was a long drive to the store, and I was trying to eat healthier. DH insisted, and I also insisted, so we got in a fight about it. Eventually he convinced me to get in the car, and it turned out that he was taking me to a romantic lakeside gazebo to give me the real ring, and he was trying to surprise me. Then I felt like a brat for protesting so much about not wanting to go.

Pearls+Oysters

Two words.

Food poisoning.

He waited until I felt better because it was a moment he knew we both would want to remember, and saying yes with puke in your hair isn't such a nice memory. I'm glad he waited.

bumpuser1691848

I love the lake, and DH knew this. So he made plans for me, him and my BFF (a photographer) to have a long weekends at the lake.

We were out fishing on the dock and I looked over and saw a huge bulge in his pocket. Of course I pointed it out.

Then my friend said she had to go inside and get something, but really she was getting her camera so she could capture it. The sun was setting and I was at my most favorite place. It was perfect.

Oh, except I was sitting down for the entire thing. Oops.

persephonerose

When we were dating, I told my DH that I never wanted to be proposed to on Valentine's Day. I just felt it was cheesy and not sincere. But on Valentine's day we ended up having a really serious emotion filled conversation about his family (they hated me and pretty much disowned him because of it). At the end he said he was glad he could talk to me about anything and really wished it wasn't Valentine's Day and I understood what he meant so I told him it was ok if he felt needed to ask me something. 
Apparently he had already bought the ring but was trying to plan the perfect time to ask. I felt like a jerk, because it really wasn't about the day it was about how we felt for each other.

Soxgirl07

DH proposed on the phone. No ring yet or anything. It wasn't the way either of us planned, but it fit.
We were doing the long distance thing at that point. He had just returned home after a long visit. We had been on the phone, then online talking, came to the realization that we would rather be together and try than risk drifting apart or being miserable for the couple years it could take him to get a visa an other way. So, he asked me to call him because he needed to ask something that shouldn't be done online.

Spapeggy

We actually had my dress bought and paid for, venue booked and bridesmaids/groomsmen picked and asked before he asked. This was due to us knowing we wanted to marry before he deployed and it was coming fast. He planned to propose in a hot air balloon (would have LOVED THAT) but weather didn't work with us. So that night at his parents his mom said she wanted me to go get dessert at Marie calanders. Said we needed to talk. I about shit my pants thinking she wanted to get me alone to tell me she hated me. I know now this woman is amazing and it was a ploy. We drove and got the stuff, all while his brothers and sister and my dh lit like almost 200 candles(one for each day we'd been together...yes we dated 8 months before marriage). We got home and I noticed he put on cologne, I thought it was weird because we were going to his bfs house and was just odd. Long story short he took me out back and proposed and it was great. Been married 6 years now;)