I experienced a loss on Thanksgiving of last year and the ladies in this group as well as the TTCAL board helped me cope through the difficult time.
This time I am here asking for advice on how to help a friend. Her and her new husband announced their pregnancy at 3w and two days later she experienced clotting and cramping. I advised her to go to the ER but didn't until two days later. Once she arrived there her levels were in the high 700s. They eliminated ectopic pregnancy, sent her home and said to follow up with her OB. Yesterday morning her husband and her toured three hospitals and interviewed two pediatricians before going to her follow up. She text me after to say that she had a missed m/c and she doesn't want to talk about it.
I'm not sure how to support her from across the country during this time when she doesn't want to talk about it. We have always sent each other cards and I'm wondering if sending one would be crossing a boundary since she doesn't want to talk about it. Would you be offended if you had experienced a loss, told someone you didn't want to talk about it, and then the person sent you a card? Thoughts ?
BFP #1 11/07/2012 EDD 07/09/2013 M/C 11/22/2012
BFP #2 02/05/2013 EDD 09/19/2013 Arrived via c-section 09/27/2013