Slight DH vent....

Mrs.Castaldi

We haven't had any DH vents in a while, maybe they all got the memo that we're a bit on edge or we all just gave up, either way this is mine.

DH came home from work today with a headache. Honestly I always sympathize with the headache cause I get migraines and I know that sometimes there is no avoiding being miserable. I feel for him, I really do, but in true guy fashion it basically paralyzed him for the evening so that I had zero help at the end of the day. This wouldn't have bothered me nearly as much if when I suggested he take something for it he actually did instead of reply with "we're out of Advil." He had JUST gotten home, easily could have picked some up on the way, or taken the Tylenol, ibuprofen, perscription strength ibuprofen, left over codeine, you get the idea we aren't lacking in pain killer options. We just don't have Advil.

This isn't to say that I can't handle everything with no help, I can cook, clean, entertain LO and get him ready for bed all on my own without much issue, but since after he was born I became a SAHM I really REALLY relish that brief hour or two when I'm not the one in charge of LO. Is it sad that dishwashing is my new "me time"?

I know I'm a little crazy and being high maintenance over this, but am I really? I haven't given DH a hard time over it, so it's not like I'm making him feel guilty over not feeling 100%. I leave it to you ladies, no flaming please, am I just being crazy or is my annoyance with the situation justified? Sometimes outside perspective helps.

Blondie1212

I see both sides to this...he should have sucked it up and taken some medication and made the most of the evening. Even if he just sat on the couch with your LO, or had him near him and talked to him. On the other hand though being a SAHM is your "job" (I think it truly is equivalent to going and working!) and you want to just relax after work. Perhaps he was just hoping for the same thing. There are just days where you have to just suck it up on both sides and share. I don't mean that to sound snotty because I've been on both sides of the argument. Both as a SAHM and as the one who works while the other cares for the child.

Mrs.Castaldi

Thanks, I mean I totally understand not feeling up to having to listen to the toys and not being able to take it when he starts getting tired and fussy. I didn't give DH a hard time or anything.

Sleeping on it a bit always helps, well sleeping until 2:30 at least lol

Mrs.Castaldi

Oh my gosh @britt1430 I'm amazed you haven't lost your mind yet! Thankfully DH doesn't have a crazy commute anymore. So I assigned him nighttime baths so the boys can have some bonding time and I can have 10 minutes or so just to myself, that quickly turned into him asking for me to help with every actual scrubbing bath cause LO "is too squirmy." lol

VPGIRL06

my DH has started to pull some of this ever since football season started.  Usually, he would help entertain LO while I made dinner (now its feeding her, even tho i end up doing it half the time because he gives her too big of bites and she spits some out and he gets irritated) and then give her a bath every other day. However now its football season, if his night to give her a bath falls on a game he wants to watch he goes "well i was hoping i wouldn't have to since it's a game". Dude there's an effin game on Thursday-Monday that you want to watch-you have to assist me at some point!

So irritatin.  I'm a SAHM, and he leaves usually a hour after she gest up (he gets ready the entire times, makes himself breakfast, relaxes, etc so he does nothing) and gets home1.5 hours before bed for her-now the 25-30 minutes out of the day you had to spend with her, you just cant? grow the eff up. My "down time" is making dinner! I go to the gym at 430 in the morning (when shes asleep) so that he doesn't have to have any of his "free time" infringed on...

Mrs.Castaldi

Yeah the start of football season has brought a few annoyances with it. Thankfully here they are pretty since since it's pacific time.